Ignore This Thread

I just discovered something.

If you have somebody on ignore, and that ignored person starts a thread, you don't even see that the thread has been started. If the thread already exists when you put the person on ignore, it disappears from your screen. Even if other people have posted in the thread... Even if YOU YOURSELF have posted in the thread. It still vanishes from your screen.

Everybody who has me on ignore cannot see that there is even a thread here. You can say what you want about anybody who has me on ignore and they will never know.

Bwahahaha... Haha... Ha... Cough cough...

Wow... It just occurred to me...

If anybody has seoulsearch on ignore, they must think the family forum is a very quiet place.

I just had to check this thread out when I saw the title said to ignore it lol

But what if we DO have you on Ignore -- and are just peeking?

I don't know how it is now, but in the old system, even though you had someone on Ignore, the thread would always have a line that said something like, "A post has been made by someone on your Ignore list -- would you like to see it?" Which basically defeated the purpose.

The funniest times are when people proudly declare they are putting someone on Ignore... then keep right on directly responding to that person's posts anyway. This means they're either still constantly peeking at what the person wrote, or keep hopping back and forth putting that person on Ignore, then taking them off, then putting them back on... Round and round it goes. 🔁🎠

The most entertaining ones are when someone has half the people in the thread on Ignore, but still tries to actively and very vocally participates in the thread anyway, or is trying to talk about the people they're "ignoring" without knowing the full picture.

It's literally taking stabs in the dark, like a hearing-impaired person trying to fully participate in a conversation without their hearing aids on.

If I remember right, I've put 3 people on Ignore in the old system, but I had to take them off almost immediately.

I quickly realized that trying to write threads and participate in conversations without knowing what people were saying really made me look like a moron (even more so than usual.)

Sorry Lynx, I don't mean to take over your thread. It just reminded me of my own observations about the Ignore feature over the years. I'll break it up into several posts so that it's not just one huge wall of text.

Now, I'm certainly NOT trying to make light of cases when Ignore is needed, such as being harassed or stalked, or if they need it for their own mental health. I would absolutely encourage anyone going through that to use Ignore and go to the mods if necessary.

For myself, I tend to try to handle my own problems and not bother anyone unless it reaches a breaking point. My own defense here has always been writing threads.

One of the only people I ever had on Ignore years ago was a married man who expressed interest in me. I wrote a thread, and it was so many years ago, I can't remember what it was. I think it was asking what singles do if a married person is hitting on them. I never named or even hinted at anyone, even though this guy had stated his interest publicly in another thread.

Needless to say, he did show up in my thread and was NOT happy. I believe he left the site, or maybe he's like so many others and his here under a different name -- but let's just say, he never bothered me again.

Nope. These days if you put somebody on ignore he is just gone. It's like he doesn't even exist. The Forum doesn't show you anything related to anything he said.

What I actually did this morning was put a random person on ignore, somebody who had started a thread, just to see what would happen on my screen. Is there a completely disappeared from my screen, even though I had commented in his thread.

Even if somebody else quotes the person you put on ignore, all you see is the second person's comment. Not only do you not see the post he quoted, you don't even see that he quoted a post at all. You just see a random post, hanging out there with no context.

It was tola, actually. I have nothing against tola, but I don't know anything about tola either, so if I messed something up and tola stayed on ignore permanently with no way to reverse it, I would not have lost any conversations I was already deeply invested in.

So that thread tola started vanished, even though I had already made a post in it. It was like tola never existed, started any threads or posted anything in anybody else's thread.

And one other thought...

While writing threads works for me and I encourage others to try it as well, I know it doesn't work for everyone. Writing threads comes with a lot more flack than just being a regular poster, so in some cases, you have to weigh which one is the lesser evil.

I remember one guy who claimed I was calling both him and God racist. I certainly don't believe I did either. I told him what I always tell people like that -- report my posts saying such things to the mods. Well, this had the other people in the thread scouring my posts and saying they couldn't find where I'd said anything like that either. I told everyone, "If you ever see me posting something inappropriate, report it to the mods immediately." (I did the same thing when I had another guy claiming I was defending homosexuality.)

The guy who said I was calling him and God racist then made a really big deal about how he was putting me on Ignore.

Well, guess who showed up as the very first person to reply to my next thread. And the next. And the one after that. My threads were about completely unrelated topics. I wasn't even talking about him or any of my interactions with him. Threads calling people out by name (unless it's some sort of praise,) are rightfully immediately taken down. I'm blessed to have enough other things to write about, I can just put up another string of threads like nothing happened.

I was simply moving on. But there he was. Every. Single. Time. And every time, he was telling me what he thought I was doing wrong. But what about his big spectacle of putting me on Ignore?

It was like a moment from The Princess Bride: "I don't think you think that word ("Ignore"!) means what you think it means."

What I've found is that this forum is like a maze, with many turns and corridors and wings. When you write new threads, you're creating new corridors and wings and expanding the maze to all sorts of new places. The people who constantly badger you will try to follow at first. But many often get banned (usually they're generally stirring up trouble all over the forum, not just harassing one person) or, the people who actually want to hear the discussion will start telling them to pipe down and behave or get out.

Eventually, they give up and move on to different threads.

I also encourage people who don't like my threads or posts to put me on Ignore. We're all different, and I totally understand that there are many I won't appeal to -- that's perfectly normal!!

Though I do have to admit, with some of the more contentious users over the years -- having them put me on Ignore felt like I had made it to the Big Boss Level of a video game and certainly wasn't exactly a heartbreak.

I realize writing new threads might not work in say the Bible Discussion Forum, but so far, I've had a 100% success rate (meaning, they eventually left me alone) -- and that's why I've managed to stay here so long.

I just wanted to share these experiences in case it might help anyone else going through the same things.

I'm surprised I saw this thread . I've got quite a few on ignore here, that's what makes this Board tolerable. I sometimes see a message over a post I can't see saying I have that person on ignore and if I want to go ahead and see the message, there's something I can click on and the message appears. Unless something has changed since yesterday or the day before, that's the case in my case, anyway.

I never put anyone on ignore. However, people are often putting me on ignore or threatening me with dire consequences for saying this or that. If there was a CC jail cell I believe I would be spending a lot of time in there.😵‍💫🤗

Is there any way for me to find out who is ignoring me ? Just curious 🥴 .

These days I’m in fact really nice to people. A few years back, under my former username “Susanna”, management used to edit many of my posts because I had a tendency to speak my mind using a colorful language.

I don't put anyone on ignore too Susana, except one person since i've been here.
And it's not because what he says, but because what he doesn't say.
I figured he might be having some health-related issues so i added him to ignore since i can't understand what he says.

I'm pretty sure with these types of software systems that are commonly in use in the Internet, you won't be able to find who has put you on ignore.

It's no fun if there isn't an option to ignore someone in the most irritating way as possible. A "LALALALAAA I CAN'T HEAR YOUU! feature, is one I would pay extra for.

Ignorance is bliss.

A person can see who they're are ignoring but I don't think you can see who is ignoring you anywhere.

I'm fairly new and even I knew that.

Here's something. I have an ad blocker installed that let me highlight the red X in the likes window. It blocks it and makes it disappear even when I open my profile and look to the likes received list.

There are some that use that X as another means of bullying people. Not anymore.

But why would anyone want to miss out on THIS MUCH FUN?!! 😳😬🤣

Lol!

Totally kidding.

I have family members who, if they were here, would probably immediately put me on Ignore, too. 😂😂😂

Yeah, I eventually when I see people say things like that.
It's like " Dude!" (um, the phrase, not the member, lol) ...
"DUDE! We all know you're NOT actually ignoring them so just stop saying you are"