Self Justification -- the Ego run amok
32:1 So these three men ceased to answer Job, because he was righteous in his own eyes.
Job was self righteous. We see this all the time among the religious.
2 Then was kindled the wrath of Elihu the son of Barachel the Buzite, of the kindred of Ram: against Job was his wrath kindled, because he justified himself rather than God.
When things happen to us we can blame others, but that is useless. The only person we have control over is ourselves. Instead of harping on what others did we should examine what we did. James says that God does not tempt anyone with sin. It is our own lusts that fall to temptation.
3 Also against his three friends was his wrath kindled, because they had found no answer, and yet had condemned Job.
This is also a frequent and ugly occurrence. We see this in the New Testament "who sinned this guy or his parents that he is born blind?" We assume any time something "bad" happens to someone it is the result of that person sinning. But Jesus gave us a third option, John 9:3 Jesus answered, Neither hath this man sinned, nor his parents: but that the works of God should be made manifest in him.
This is why God rebuked the three friends and they had to be reconciled back to Job. They had assumed he had sinned and thus condemned him. That is not righteous, we need a trial, we need evidence. There is nothing in the Bible that says "to be born blind" is a sin, so condemning someone because something happened to them that is a sin because Jesus did say "judge not lest you be judged for with what judgment you judge you shall be judged".
To be self righteous is to be proud and we are told that pride goes before a fall. So then the proper response to things that happen to you, like the things that happened to Job, is to look to the Lord. First examine yourself, is there anything that you should confess and repent of. No doubt pride and being self righteous would be two things to confess and repent of. Then we are to seek the Lord to see how the works of God might be manifested in this experience. We are one with Jesus, if we go through something He is also going through it.
I remember a playoff game in Boston where the air conditioning went out. It was over 90 degrees on the basketball court. All the players were dragging, hardly able to play, except for one, Larry Bird. He didn't complain, played like nothing was wrong. After the game they asked him about that and he said it wasn't any hotter there than back in Indiana in the summer where he played in the offseason. The air conditioning going out manifested what was within each of these players.
I remember a playoff game in Utah. The night before the game Michael Jordan orders a pizza and the people who made it put something on it to make him sick. During the game the next day they claimed he "had the flu" but the truth was he had been poisoned. Not to kill him but just to help their team win. Still he played the whole game and was instrumental in winning the game and the series. Again, did Michael Jordan sin that this happened or did it happen to manifest the works of God in him? Actually, it was both. His teammates sensed something was very wrong about the pizza, they didn't eat it and warned him not to, but he ate the whole thing. So he did not listen to their warnings, but on the other hand we can see God wanting everyone to see what had been wrought within him.
I remember as a kid we had a Boston Whaler, and one of the requirments my dad had was that we carried this map with us on that boat. I hated that, there was no place to put that map, it would fly around, get wet, it was a mess. Then one morning my father and I are pulling up lobster pots and when we are done the fog is so thick we couldn't see two feet in front of us. The boat was in the midst of rocks. I thought there was no way out, but that was when my dad used that map. That only happened once in all the time we had the boat, that was the Lord letting me see that yes, most of the time we didn't need the map, but when we did need it, then it was invaluable. Did God send the fog because in my mind I was questioning my dad or was it because God wanted to manifest my father's wisdom?