Am I wrong to not like my life?

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Am I wrong to feel this way?


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I'm a young adult male (age 24), and really wish my like was different.

Growing up, things were just plain. I didn't live in poverty, so I guess there's some gladness, but I didn't live wealthy either. Had a pretty good family (except my dad), very good Christian mom, and lots of brothers. But I was the youngest in the family, so as a consequence of everyone being older, I was kinda "left behind" (not literally).

As I get into the teenage years in the mid to late 2010s, I'd say that I became more unhappy. Things just weren't really what I wanted. Life just felt "stale" I guess (can't explain it), and this was around the time I ran away from home (didn't work)

Around 2020 is when the world collapsed. I was about to turn 18 and become a legal adult. I was looking forward to finally improving my life maybe meeting my new friend I met on social media (same age as me), and perhaps going out on dates with cute girls (never happened)... But instead I got COVID lockdowns, an out of control police force and riots/protests... Rising crime, rising prices and inflation, etc.

It seemed like everything normal about life was changed right when I wanted to finally enjoy my life. It seems like at the moment I was ready for something new, ready to try things, and see the world like any teenager would want to, God (don't know who else to blame) decided to begin what I believe are the "final times" or the last days that's spoken of in the Bible. But of course I could be wrong.

A few years pass, and I make a few more friends on social media. I make a few mistakes and lose 3 friends, but at least I still have others.

Now in 2026, I still don't feel happy. My life hasn't really improved. I'm still single and a virgin, I'm still living in my mom's house, I have no car, little money, and can't get much more.

Growing up we had a few dogs, but they all died. My dad also died around 2022, and the world around seems to be getting worse every year. I constantly look online to see what's going on, and I see that I'm priced out of the housing market, priced out of the car market (which is my favorite, because I'm a car enthusiast)...I don't know where all the good women are at (I'm not really ready for a relationship though), and overall I just don't know what to do.

I don't know why, but I feel like God is partially responsible for the way my life is. He knows everything, he created everything, so he should understand how I feel. Maybe it's just me, maybe I'm being selfish, idk .. But I feel like no one cares about what I think. My life doesn't feel important, and when I watch people happy and enjoying themselves, I feel a bit of agitation.

The world moves on, and I'm standing still.

It is what it is I guess
 
I feel like God is partially responsible for the way my life is. He knows everything, he created everything, so he should understand how I feel.
Precious friend @ZoomerX, God Understands Exactly "how we feel" Becoming A Human Man In
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Please Be Very Richly Encouraged And Edified
In Christ, and In His Precious Word Of Truth:

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In The Lord Jesus Christ and In His Precious Word Of Truth, Rightly
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Amen. 🙏
 
God does understand you, but it is up to you to make the desired changes in your life.

Your life is important but you must come to a realization that you believe this as well.

If the world moves on, then why are you standing still? You are correct in that it is what it is, but it would be more beneficial for you to start thinking that it was what it was.

My dogs died too. Now I have two cats. It is what it is.

Time to get moving in a positive direction.
 
I'm a young adult male (age 24), and really wish my like was different.

Growing up, things were just plain. I didn't live in poverty, so I guess there's some gladness, but I didn't live wealthy either. Had a pretty good family (except my dad), very good Christian mom, and lots of brothers. But I was the youngest in the family, so as a consequence of everyone being older, I was kinda "left behind" (not literally).

As I get into the teenage years in the mid to late 2010s, I'd say that I became more unhappy. Things just weren't really what I wanted. Life just felt "stale" I guess (can't explain it), and this was around the time I ran away from home (didn't work)

Around 2020 is when the world collapsed. I was about to turn 18 and become a legal adult. I was looking forward to finally improving my life maybe meeting my new friend I met on social media (same age as me), and perhaps going out on dates with cute girls (never happened)... But instead I got COVID lockdowns, an out of control police force and riots/protests... Rising crime, rising prices and inflation, etc.

It seemed like everything normal about life was changed right when I wanted to finally enjoy my life. It seems like at the moment I was ready for something new, ready to try things, and see the world like any teenager would want to, God (don't know who else to blame) decided to begin what I believe are the "final times" or the last days that's spoken of in the Bible. But of course I could be wrong.

A few years pass, and I make a few more friends on social media. I make a few mistakes and lose 3 friends, but at least I still have others.

Now in 2026, I still don't feel happy. My life hasn't really improved. I'm still single and a virgin, I'm still living in my mom's house, I have no car, little money, and can't get much more.

Growing up we had a few dogs, but they all died. My dad also died around 2022, and the world around seems to be getting worse every year. I constantly look online to see what's going on, and I see that I'm priced out of the housing market, priced out of the car market (which is my favorite, because I'm a car enthusiast)...I don't know where all the good women are at (I'm not really ready for a relationship though), and overall I just don't know what to do.

I don't know why, but I feel like God is partially responsible for the way my life is. He knows everything, he created everything, so he should understand how I feel. Maybe it's just me, maybe I'm being selfish, idk .. But I feel like no one cares about what I think. My life doesn't feel important, and when I watch people happy and enjoying themselves, I feel a bit of agitation.

The world moves on, and I'm standing still.

It is what it is I guess


A little polite advice, stay away from social media. There are lots of lies going on there. I have friends on my FB that brag on their marriages, but in private they talk to me and they are on the verge of a divorce. Much of what you see is fake mostly and certainly manipulated. If you think about it just about everything is geared to make you unhappy with your life. They can't sell you toothpaste, face cream, deodorant, cars and homes if you're happy with your life. I didn't date until I was in my 40s, the first guy I dated wasn't serious about the relationship and wasn't even adult enough to tell me to my face. The second man I dated, I married and God blessed me with a wonderful person who I am grateful for every day. Don't worry, you're not missing life. God has plans for you. Just don't get ahead of him. He's preparing you, trust Him, His timing is perfect.
 
I'm a young adult male (age 24), and really wish my like was different.

Growing up, things were just plain. I didn't live in poverty, so I guess there's some gladness, but I didn't live wealthy either. Had a pretty good family (except my dad), very good Christian mom, and lots of brothers. But I was the youngest in the family, so as a consequence of everyone being older, I was kinda "left behind" (not literally).

As I get into the teenage years in the mid to late 2010s, I'd say that I became more unhappy. Things just weren't really what I wanted. Life just felt "stale" I guess (can't explain it), and this was around the time I ran away from home (didn't work)

Around 2020 is when the world collapsed. I was about to turn 18 and become a legal adult. I was looking forward to finally improving my life maybe meeting my new friend I met on social media (same age as me), and perhaps going out on dates with cute girls (never happened)... But instead I got COVID lockdowns, an out of control police force and riots/protests... Rising crime, rising prices and inflation, etc.

It seemed like everything normal about life was changed right when I wanted to finally enjoy my life. It seems like at the moment I was ready for something new, ready to try things, and see the world like any teenager would want to, God (don't know who else to blame) decided to begin what I believe are the "final times" or the last days that's spoken of in the Bible. But of course I could be wrong.

A few years pass, and I make a few more friends on social media. I make a few mistakes and lose 3 friends, but at least I still have others.

Now in 2026, I still don't feel happy. My life hasn't really improved. I'm still single and a virgin, I'm still living in my mom's house, I have no car, little money, and can't get much more.

Growing up we had a few dogs, but they all died. My dad also died around 2022, and the world around seems to be getting worse every year. I constantly look online to see what's going on, and I see that I'm priced out of the housing market, priced out of the car market (which is my favorite, because I'm a car enthusiast)...I don't know where all the good women are at (I'm not really ready for a relationship though), and overall I just don't know what to do.

I don't know why, but I feel like God is partially responsible for the way my life is. He knows everything, he created everything, so he should understand how I feel. Maybe it's just me, maybe I'm being selfish, idk .. But I feel like no one cares about what I think. My life doesn't feel important, and when I watch people happy and enjoying themselves, I feel a bit of agitation.

The world moves on, and I'm standing still.

It is what it is I guess
You'll feel that way if you're going by the world's definition of "glory." That's what everyone is reaching for in their endeavors, whether a relationship, house, car, job, fortune, or fame. But this world can only offer a "Titanic" sort of glory. You might find yourself at the helm with your arms out saying, "I'm king of the world!" but then, eventually, it ends with you shivering in the water holding onto a piece of driftwood and... That's the only 'guarantee' the world can offer. That reality makes the offer waiting for the promise of glory in the world to come a whole lot more attractive.
 
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'Certainly in your short life span, many changes have come about to cause concern.
I am in a 'twilight zone' compared to living in the 50's and 60's, believe it.
But I get at where your coming from, a short span to grasp a great deal of change may well be troubling.

'Living many years doing my thing, I fell off the edge. I may have been brought up in a christian home,
but when 18 and I left home to start a life, I made the mistake of not keeping God in my life, and I paid dearly, believe it.
Fear you don't want to get to know, you won't like it!

'It is one's own self that needs to put God in their life, and in today's world I believe it is essential.
God is a spiritual necessity to help keep one's life in some kind of order, believe it. One has to find
their own time with a consciousness of God for guidance, so long as one learns to practice the principles of life,
each day , in some way to find peace and calm in a troubling world.
 
I'm a young adult male (age 24), and really wish my like was different.

Growing up, things were just plain. I didn't live in poverty, so I guess there's some gladness, but I didn't live wealthy either. Had a pretty good family (except my dad), very good Christian mom, and lots of brothers. But I was the youngest in the family, so as a consequence of everyone being older, I was kinda "left behind" (not literally).

As I get into the teenage years in the mid to late 2010s, I'd say that I became more unhappy. Things just weren't really what I wanted. Life just felt "stale" I guess (can't explain it), and this was around the time I ran away from home (didn't work)

Around 2020 is when the world collapsed. I was about to turn 18 and become a legal adult. I was looking forward to finally improving my life maybe meeting my new friend I met on social media (same age as me), and perhaps going out on dates with cute girls (never happened)... But instead I got COVID lockdowns, an out of control police force and riots/protests... Rising crime, rising prices and inflation, etc.

It seemed like everything normal about life was changed right when I wanted to finally enjoy my life. It seems like at the moment I was ready for something new, ready to try things, and see the world like any teenager would want to, God (don't know who else to blame) decided to begin what I believe are the "final times" or the last days that's spoken of in the Bible. But of course I could be wrong.

A few years pass, and I make a few more friends on social media. I make a few mistakes and lose 3 friends, but at least I still have others.

Now in 2026, I still don't feel happy. My life hasn't really improved. I'm still single and a virgin, I'm still living in my mom's house, I have no car, little money, and can't get much more.

Growing up we had a few dogs, but they all died. My dad also died around 2022, and the world around seems to be getting worse every year. I constantly look online to see what's going on, and I see that I'm priced out of the housing market, priced out of the car market (which is my favorite, because I'm a car enthusiast)...I don't know where all the good women are at (I'm not really ready for a relationship though), and overall I just don't know what to do.

I don't know why, but I feel like God is partially responsible for the way my life is. He knows everything, he created everything, so he should understand how I feel. Maybe it's just me, maybe I'm being selfish, idk .. But I feel like no one cares about what I think. My life doesn't feel important, and when I watch people happy and enjoying themselves, I feel a bit of agitation.

The world moves on, and I'm standing still.

It is what it is I guess
Stop whining and blaming God for your miserable life. You can be as happy or miserable as you want to be. Unfortunately, you’ve chosen misery. It’s not God’s fault.
 
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I'm a young adult male (age 24), and really wish my like was different.

Growing up, things were just plain. I didn't live in poverty, so I guess there's some gladness, but I didn't live wealthy either. Had a pretty good family (except my dad), very good Christian mom, and lots of brothers. But I was the youngest in the family, so as a consequence of everyone being older, I was kinda "left behind" (not literally).

As I get into the teenage years in the mid to late 2010s, I'd say that I became more unhappy. Things just weren't really what I wanted. Life just felt "stale" I guess (can't explain it), and this was around the time I ran away from home (didn't work)

Around 2020 is when the world collapsed. I was about to turn 18 and become a legal adult. I was looking forward to finally improving my life maybe meeting my new friend I met on social media (same age as me), and perhaps going out on dates with cute girls (never happened)... But instead I got COVID lockdowns, an out of control police force and riots/protests... Rising crime, rising prices and inflation, etc.

It seemed like everything normal about life was changed right when I wanted to finally enjoy my life. It seems like at the moment I was ready for something new, ready to try things, and see the world like any teenager would want to, God (don't know who else to blame) decided to begin what I believe are the "final times" or the last days that's spoken of in the Bible. But of course I could be wrong.

A few years pass, and I make a few more friends on social media. I make a few mistakes and lose 3 friends, but at least I still have others.

Now in 2026, I still don't feel happy. My life hasn't really improved. I'm still single and a virgin, I'm still living in my mom's house, I have no car, little money, and can't get much more.

Growing up we had a few dogs, but they all died. My dad also died around 2022, and the world around seems to be getting worse every year. I constantly look online to see what's going on, and I see that I'm priced out of the housing market, priced out of the car market (which is my favorite, because I'm a car enthusiast)...I don't know where all the good women are at (I'm not really ready for a relationship though), and overall I just don't know what to do.

I don't know why, but I feel like God is partially responsible for the way my life is. He knows everything, he created everything, so he should understand how I feel. Maybe it's just me, maybe I'm being selfish, idk .. But I feel like no one cares about what I think. My life doesn't feel important, and when I watch people happy and enjoying themselves, I feel a bit of agitation.

The world moves on, and I'm standing still.

It is what it is I guess

Been there, done that..
See people doing this and being stuck in a rut of making this situation worse.

And what you are missing the most is deeply personal relationships. Where you depend upon each other heavily.

And it's difficult to find others to have this sort of relationship without the others being so flakey all the time.

So....
A bit of discernment is called for...
And for that I recommend a professional counselor to help you with discerning how to choose friends. (Also a touch of situational depression).

To have a friend you first gotta BE a friend....but to whom should you expend your limited friendship resources upon?

You don't need more flakes in your life nor do you want emotional vampires or users or narcissists....
Just people interested in being a real friend. So finding ones like that who won't flake out when you actually need them is tough. How to ensure you aren't being too rough on friends....again requires a professional counselor.

Trying to find a GOOD professional counselor is not easy. takes some time...don't get frustrated.
 
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I'm a young adult male (age 24), and really wish my like was different.

Growing up, things were just plain. I didn't live in poverty, so I guess there's some gladness, but I didn't live wealthy either. Had a pretty good family (except my dad), very good Christian mom, and lots of brothers. But I was the youngest in the family, so as a consequence of everyone being older, I was kinda "left behind" (not literally).

As I get into the teenage years in the mid to late 2010s, I'd say that I became more unhappy. Things just weren't really what I wanted. Life just felt "stale" I guess (can't explain it), and this was around the time I ran away from home (didn't work)

Around 2020 is when the world collapsed. I was about to turn 18 and become a legal adult. I was looking forward to finally improving my life maybe meeting my new friend I met on social media (same age as me), and perhaps going out on dates with cute girls (never happened)... But instead I got COVID lockdowns, an out of control police force and riots/protests... Rising crime, rising prices and inflation, etc.

It seemed like everything normal about life was changed right when I wanted to finally enjoy my life. It seems like at the moment I was ready for something new, ready to try things, and see the world like any teenager would want to, God (don't know who else to blame) decided to begin what I believe are the "final times" or the last days that's spoken of in the Bible. But of course I could be wrong.

A few years pass, and I make a few more friends on social media. I make a few mistakes and lose 3 friends, but at least I still have others.

Now in 2026, I still don't feel happy. My life hasn't really improved. I'm still single and a virgin, I'm still living in my mom's house, I have no car, little money, and can't get much more.

Growing up we had a few dogs, but they all died. My dad also died around 2022, and the world around seems to be getting worse every year. I constantly look online to see what's going on, and I see that I'm priced out of the housing market, priced out of the car market (which is my favorite, because I'm a car enthusiast)...I don't know where all the good women are at (I'm not really ready for a relationship though), and overall I just don't know what to do.

I don't know why, but I feel like God is partially responsible for the way my life is. He knows everything, he created everything, so he should understand how I feel. Maybe it's just me, maybe I'm being selfish, idk .. But I feel like no one cares about what I think. My life doesn't feel important, and when I watch people happy and enjoying themselves, I feel a bit of agitation.

The world moves on, and I'm standing still.

It is what it is I guess
I wouldn't say you're "wrong" to feel that way, but it's not very productive, especially if you want to change and improve your situation.
 
I'm a young adult male (age 24), and really wish my like was different.

Growing up, things were just plain. I didn't live in poverty, so I guess there's some gladness, but I didn't live wealthy either. Had a pretty good family (except my dad), very good Christian mom, and lots of brothers. But I was the youngest in the family, so as a consequence of everyone being older, I was kinda "left behind" (not literally).

As I get into the teenage years in the mid to late 2010s, I'd say that I became more unhappy. Things just weren't really what I wanted. Life just felt "stale" I guess (can't explain it), and this was around the time I ran away from home (didn't work)

Around 2020 is when the world collapsed. I was about to turn 18 and become a legal adult. I was looking forward to finally improving my life maybe meeting my new friend I met on social media (same age as me), and perhaps going out on dates with cute girls (never happened)... But instead I got COVID lockdowns, an out of control police force and riots/protests... Rising crime, rising prices and inflation, etc.

It seemed like everything normal about life was changed right when I wanted to finally enjoy my life. It seems like at the moment I was ready for something new, ready to try things, and see the world like any teenager would want to, God (don't know who else to blame) decided to begin what I believe are the "final times" or the last days that's spoken of in the Bible. But of course I could be wrong.

A few years pass, and I make a few more friends on social media. I make a few mistakes and lose 3 friends, but at least I still have others.

Now in 2026, I still don't feel happy. My life hasn't really improved. I'm still single and a virgin, I'm still living in my mom's house, I have no car, little money, and can't get much more.

Growing up we had a few dogs, but they all died. My dad also died around 2022, and the world around seems to be getting worse every year. I constantly look online to see what's going on, and I see that I'm priced out of the housing market, priced out of the car market (which is my favorite, because I'm a car enthusiast)...I don't know where all the good women are at (I'm not really ready for a relationship though), and overall I just don't know what to do.

I don't know why, but I feel like God is partially responsible for the way my life is. He knows everything, he created everything, so he should understand how I feel. Maybe it's just me, maybe I'm being selfish, idk .. But I feel like no one cares about what I think. My life doesn't feel important, and when I watch people happy and enjoying themselves, I feel a bit of agitation.

The world moves on, and I'm standing still.

It is what it is I guess
Good evening Warrior! I read your post and there are questions I had: What is the main transformation you would like to see yourself achieve? 2) Are you the curious type of individual? You are correct about life moves on but why are you feeling like you are standing still. I am not a guru, a pastor or a spiritual leader. I am a 73 year old Vietnam vet who has fought many dragons, in the natural and in the spiritual. There are voices both internal and external that try to convince us to settle into our comfort zone of self doubt and mediocrity. Do you consider yourself a WARRIOR? Do you have a dream? What is it that you absolutely love doing? It takes COURAGE to to have a dream, to step forward when others decide to stand still! It takes believing in what is possible, going for what you love instead of listening to what others say you can or cannot do or think that you should! If you feel like it or you would like to talk more with me in private then DM me and I will answer! Hope to hear from you!
 
I'm a young adult male (age 24), and really wish my like was different.

Growing up, things were just plain. I didn't live in poverty, so I guess there's some gladness, but I didn't live wealthy either. Had a pretty good family (except my dad), very good Christian mom, and lots of brothers. But I was the youngest in the family, so as a consequence of everyone being older, I was kinda "left behind" (not literally).

As I get into the teenage years in the mid to late 2010s, I'd say that I became more unhappy. Things just weren't really what I wanted. Life just felt "stale" I guess (can't explain it), and this was around the time I ran away from home (didn't work)

Around 2020 is when the world collapsed. I was about to turn 18 and become a legal adult. I was looking forward to finally improving my life maybe meeting my new friend I met on social media (same age as me), and perhaps going out on dates with cute girls (never happened)... But instead I got COVID lockdowns, an out of control police force and riots/protests... Rising crime, rising prices and inflation, etc.

It seemed like everything normal about life was changed right when I wanted to finally enjoy my life. It seems like at the moment I was ready for something new, ready to try things, and see the world like any teenager would want to, God (don't know who else to blame) decided to begin what I believe are the "final times" or the last days that's spoken of in the Bible. But of course I could be wrong.

A few years pass, and I make a few more friends on social media. I make a few mistakes and lose 3 friends, but at least I still have others.

Now in 2026, I still don't feel happy. My life hasn't really improved. I'm still single and a virgin, I'm still living in my mom's house, I have no car, little money, and can't get much more.

Growing up we had a few dogs, but they all died. My dad also died around 2022, and the world around seems to be getting worse every year. I constantly look online to see what's going on, and I see that I'm priced out of the housing market, priced out of the car market (which is my favorite, because I'm a car enthusiast)...I don't know where all the good women are at (I'm not really ready for a relationship though), and overall I just don't know what to do.

I don't know why, but I feel like God is partially responsible for the way my life is. He knows everything, he created everything, so he should understand how I feel. Maybe it's just me, maybe I'm being selfish, idk .. But I feel like no one cares about what I think. My life doesn't feel important, and when I watch people happy and enjoying themselves, I feel a bit of agitation.

The world moves on, and I'm standing still.

It is what it is I guess
I forget where I picked this up but I remember someone talking about measuring our success by the faithfulness of our actions (which we have control over) rather than the results of them (which we can't control)

But the biggest thing I see in your post is you don't believe you can do anything to change things. So set some action goals and start doing. It can be as simple as putting $5 per week into a long term savings account, reading 5 bible verses per day, filling out 3 job apps per day, or walking 10 min per day. Just start by setting some things you could do that you want to do and do them.

Also take time to grieve both the loss of pets and friends and the loss of the life you thought you'd have. Then buckle down and build the best life you can. It's your life no one else will do that for you.

Also avoid the doomscrolling, it wrecks your perspective. Connect with real life people through church, clubs, the gym, sitting in a park and saying hi to passers-by. It will get better, the transition from adolescence to adulthood is just rough and feels like you suddenly lost most of your supports. It does get better.
 
God does understand you, but it is up to you to make the desired changes in your life.

Your life is important but you must come to a realization that you believe this as well.

If the world moves on, then why are you standing still? You are correct in that it is what it is, but it would be more beneficial for you to start thinking that it was what it was.

My dogs died too. Now I have two cats. It is what it is.

Time to get moving in a positive direction.
I struggle to move on, because there was a tiny bit of joy I had between 2010-2013. Those few years were the best of my life, and I wish/long to go back.
Good evening Warrior! I read your post and there are questions I had: What is the main transformation you would like to see yourself achieve? 2) Are you the curious type of individual? You are correct about life moves on but why are you feeling like you are standing still. I am not a guru, a pastor or a spiritual leader. I am a 73 year old Vietnam vet who has fought many dragons, in the natural and in the spiritual. There are voices both internal and external that try to convince us to settle into our comfort zone of self doubt and mediocrity. Do you consider yourself a WARRIOR? Do you have a dream? What is it that you absolutely love doing? It takes COURAGE to to have a dream, to step forward when others decide to stand still! It takes believing in what is possible, going for what you love instead of listening to what others say you can or cannot do or think that you should! If you feel like it or you would like to talk more with me in private then DM me and I will answer! Hope to hear from you!
Well I would love a transformation of my life be more "normal" I guess (it's hard to describe)... Growing up It was my dream to live in Southern California, so I'd love to live there one day. I'd also consider marriage and children, but I don't know if I'll find someone.

I'm not sure what you mean by "curious", but by definition I wouldn't really say that. I'm very interested in exploring the world a lot more.

I feel like I'm standing still because it seems like there's so many people enjoying themselves, getting married, buying the cars they want, etc... While I'm just sitting on the sidelines.

I do not consider myself a warrior, but yes I do have dreams or inspirations (I think that's the correct word)...

I love cars, that's all I know right now because I was never really given the chance to do much of anything.
 
I struggle to move on, because there was a tiny bit of joy I had between 2010-2013. Those few years were the best of my life, and I wish/long to go back.

Well I would love a transformation of my life be more "normal" I guess (it's hard to describe)... Growing up It was my dream to live in Southern California, so I'd love to live there one day. I'd also consider marriage and children, but I don't know if I'll find someone.

I'm not sure what you mean by "curious", but by definition I wouldn't really say that. I'm very interested in exploring the world a lot more.

I feel like I'm standing still because it seems like there's so many people enjoying themselves, getting married, buying the cars they want, etc... While I'm just sitting on the sidelines.

I do not consider myself a warrior, but yes I do have dreams or inspirations (I think that's the correct word)...

I love cars, that's all I know right now because I was never really given the chance to do much of anything.
Did not mention the word 'curious'.

Do you have a job? That would go a long way towards getting reliable transportation that you own.

You can definitely find someone, but this will take preparation on your part. You must have something to offer to your future spouse.

OK, job and car.

It is bad optics to start a relationship, bring your prospective spouse home to meet mom, and then she finds out that you still live with mom. Not good.

Get a grip on what needs to be done and then just do it. You will feel better about yourself too. I am surmising that you suffer from poor self-esteem issues. Importantly, start each day with prayer. God will help you to get motivated to start taking care of yourself. You cannot take care of a wife if you are incapable of taking care of yourself.

All of this stuff I have mentioned to you I had to do also. I have been where you now are, living in the cage where you reside. I can tell you from experience and observation that it is indeed a dark place with shadows of depression creeping from the corners.

You need an escape plan.
 
It seemed like everything normal about life was changed right when I wanted to finally enjoy my life
Well, this exact thing happened to millions of people in 2020/2021; definitely not just you... and no, you do not have to be happy about that at all.

We still need to find things to be thankful for in adverse situations, and rest in godly contentment. That doesn't mean we pretend everything is peachy, when it's not- we are doing those things in spite of the fact that everything is not.

If we can turn things around in this country for a while, that would be great; but even if we do, everything we gain in this world is still going to burn.
 
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I missed the OP question....

Feelings are not EVER wrong....
You feel the way you feel. They might be misaligned, misplaced, or even confusing....meaning you dont know why you feel the way you feel....

But that's just feelings.
Not that they should be ignored....but they also should not be given the driver's seat in life choices either.
Because that's how "mistakes" are made.

IE: girlfriend's name and face tattood on your lower arm....(chances are it wont even finish healing before she dumps you)
You did it because you felt like she was going to be with you forever.
Your feelings were not wrong...but you using them to make long term choices was.
And that is the part I wanted to clarify.
 
I'm a young adult male (age 24), and really wish my like was different.

Growing up, things were just plain. I didn't live in poverty, so I guess there's some gladness, but I didn't live wealthy either. Had a pretty good family (except my dad), very good Christian mom, and lots of brothers. But I was the youngest in the family, so as a consequence of everyone being older, I was kinda "left behind" (not literally).

As I get into the teenage years in the mid to late 2010s, I'd say that I became more unhappy. Things just weren't really what I wanted. Life just felt "stale" I guess (can't explain it), and this was around the time I ran away from home (didn't work)

Around 2020 is when the world collapsed. I was about to turn 18 and become a legal adult. I was looking forward to finally improving my life maybe meeting my new friend I met on social media (same age as me), and perhaps going out on dates with cute girls (never happened)... But instead I got COVID lockdowns, an out of control police force and riots/protests... Rising crime, rising prices and inflation, etc.

It seemed like everything normal about life was changed right when I wanted to finally enjoy my life. It seems like at the moment I was ready for something new, ready to try things, and see the world like any teenager would want to, God (don't know who else to blame) decided to begin what I believe are the "final times" or the last days that's spoken of in the Bible. But of course I could be wrong.

A few years pass, and I make a few more friends on social media. I make a few mistakes and lose 3 friends, but at least I still have others.

Now in 2026, I still don't feel happy. My life hasn't really improved. I'm still single and a virgin, I'm still living in my mom's house, I have no car, little money, and can't get much more.

Growing up we had a few dogs, but they all died. My dad also died around 2022, and the world around seems to be getting worse every year. I constantly look online to see what's going on, and I see that I'm priced out of the housing market, priced out of the car market (which is my favorite, because I'm a car enthusiast)...I don't know where all the good women are at (I'm not really ready for a relationship though), and overall I just don't know what to do.

I don't know why, but I feel like God is partially responsible for the way my life is. He knows everything, he created everything, so he should understand how I feel. Maybe it's just me, maybe I'm being selfish, idk .. But I feel like no one cares about what I think. My life doesn't feel important, and when I watch people happy and enjoying themselves, I feel a bit of agitation.

The world moves on, and I'm standing still.

It is what it is I guess
Let us reference Jeremiah, the “Weeping Prophet.” My guy had a tougggghhh life; he wanted family and fellowship, but God told him nuh-uh.

He lived in such rejection and loneliness that he was constantly overwhelmed with tears and would cry and cry and cry.

Now, Jeremiah was a special case—a prophet tasked with specifically delivering unpleasant messages.

In contrast, God generally encourages us to fellowship, marry, and "be merry." God desires that we aren't miserable. Even when life feels empty, we are commanded to praise Him for all He has done (Psalm 34:1)—if you feel there is nothing, just know there is always something, even if just thanking Him for waking you up another day.

It isn’t wrong to feel the emotions you feel; even the most godly biblical figures, and Jesus Himself (Matthew 26:38), faced intense sorrow.

Many also wished to die.

Heck, there is an entire book called Lamentations for a reason.

However, it is vital to remain thankful despite those circumstances. Jeremiah shows us that you don’t have to force yourself to be "happy," but you can find a level of perseverance through Christ that is different from liking your situation.

I don’t mean to write a whole essay, but some of what you posted made me feel as if I was looking in a mirror.

My best advice is to stay in the Word, but also force yourself to serve and be with others. Looking beyond yourself little by little helps alleviate that emptiness.

I’m sorry for what you’ve been through. I wish I could answer why God allows these trials to stay.

Why do I still battle depression? Why won’t He just take it away? Why has my life grown stagnant?

I don’t know.

But God does say He has good plans in store for me (Jeremiah 29:11), so that’s all I can hold onto.

I know it’s cliche, but I hope you can hold onto that too.
 
No, sometimes life is very hard. I'm very happy but I have my family. I went through stages of depression when trying to find my husband and when trying to have kids with fertility issues. I would say family is the greatest source of happiness other than God, which I'll get to as well. Family was created by God as symbolic for God's family. A mother's love, a father's (unfortunately not everyone has that), spouse, children, etc. So I do think God mourns for people who haven't found it yet. Although he still gives you your current family and there are always people in your life that love you.

The next source of happiness is probably your "life purpose." I wouldn't call it a job though. But if you are self employed and doing what you love you probably have a great sense of happiness. People working in a career think they are happy, but they are actually brainwashed. Schools were designed to brainwash little kids into being good workers where you are treated as a number. This was never Gods original plan. Most people during the time of Jesus were self employed. The corporate ladder is a very corrupt version of God's vision.

The greatest source of happiness is God. The problem is most people don't understand what that means. Does it mean reading the Bible brings you happiness? Maybe 🤔 not always. Or praying? Possibly. I consider being close to God is the greatest source of happiness....above anything or anyone even. How do you get close to God? That's a personal one. For me listening to Christian music and the Bible read aloud makes me feel closer. I will also pray as I fall asleep and God will talk to me in my dreams that way. One day I stopped daydreaming and painted all day. That night I had my first lucid dream. I could talk to God and ask him anything and I could hear his answer in his voice. I also had an angel approach me in my dream. This god like being. I looked at life much different after it.
 
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