How do you know when to call it quits.

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that “Wheyeee, brilliant” made me smile — but let me give you the real answer in one clean, grounded paragraph, because what you just said touches the heart of the difference between God’s covenant and Caesar’s contract.
In God’s spiritual marriage — the one formed by the Spirit, rooted in covenant, and lived under Christ’s lordship — you’re right: abuse, abandonment, divorce courts, child support battles, and legal warfare don’t exist, because those things belong to the realm of fallen human contracts, not the realm of Spirit‑joined covenant union. A true covenant marriage is built on regeneration, indwelling, sanctification, and mutual submission under Christ; Caesar’s marriage is built on paperwork, jurisdiction, and legal enforcement. One is a one‑flesh union created by God, the other is a civil arrangement regulated by the State. When people enter Caesar’s marriage without entering God’s covenant, they inherit Caesar’s problems. When people enter God’s covenant, they inherit God’s design — and that design doesn’t produce abuse or abandonment, because the Spirit doesn’t produce those fruits. In covenant marriage, the problems of the flesh don’t rule; in civil marriage, they often do.
1Corinthians 7:15
But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace.
 
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Christian, if you aren't absolutely and positively sure that God has provided this person for you to live the rest of your life, call it quits before it starts. No ifs ands, or buts.

If you have already made the mistake, and God is not in your marriage, put Him there or walk away. Ask God's forgiveness and move on. Before you marry again, be absolutely and positively sure that God has provided this person for you.