Leaving my abusive husband... Finally.

Some of you already may know this. But I got married 5 months ago, to a man who raped me, and made me feel like it was my fault. For 5 (almost 6) months, he'd been using me to gratify his own desires. And trying to be a good wife, I willingly gave my body to him. Through his constant abuse, I became pregnant a month after we got married.
I finally had enough of it, near the end of March, and finally called my mom and cried to her for hours. She then called my dad, and my husbands brother, and they came to talk to him.
He told me he was sorry, and that he was going to change for me, and our unborn child. He prayed with me, he read the Bible with me. But only for a couple days. I put my trust and love and respect back into our relationship, hoping it really would get better.
But he didn't change... He raped me again this morning, while I was asleep, and I woke up after he'd already done the deed. He told me he was sorry again. But I can't let myself get hurt again, just because his "I'm sorry", doesn't mean I'm sorry.
I called my dad, my mom, his brother, my pastor, my best friends, and they all told me its time to let go.
Now that I'm finally doing it though, I have no where to go, no way around being a single mom, and I'm leaving a man I truely loved once. My heart is breaking, and my life is falling apart. I'm in desperate need of prayers. If you could please help me.

Wowers! I didn't know you were in this situation. This kind of crap makes me so angry. Yes, I'll be praying for you. God give you his peace.

I'm glad you're finally getting out. You have my support however you need it.

Of course, my dear, of course! I will pray for you and your child too. Keep tight with the people around you and don't be afraid to ask for help. I'm glad you're getting away from him. Having been in abusive relationships and having been raped, I can understand a little of what you're going through.


You are loved.

You are wanted.

And you will be okay!


PM me anytime if you want to talk or even just vent!

Huge hugs, Im glad you are finally getting out of this situation and have your parents support.
Praying for you and your baby, in Jesus's name for all provision and comfort needed as you take this step forward.

Huge hugs and God bless
pickles

My prayers are with you and your family. Stay strong and remember God will get you through this... 1Peter 5:6-9 God bless

Oh my God, amen, I glad you are getting out of that situation, Will be praying for God to continue giving you strength and also to give you direction from here onwards.

I am so sorry to read of your suffering and what you are going thru.......I pray for your health and the health of your child and may you both be safe near loving people who are good Christians strong and healthy....Do what is necessary and just simply put one foot in front of the other and walk away from this past toward all that is good and keep God in your heart and mind with confidence as you walk twoards him.....surround yourself with a Christian community and older Christian women who can support you and what you are enduring phyiscally, emotionally and spiritually.

Currently, I am living with my grandmothers. His side and mine. They fill my days with things to do, other than think about this.
But on the off hand, My grandmother on his side will not stop talking, and it's kinda grating at me.
I haven't slept all week, and if I have, it wasn't very well.
I try not to let what's going on in my life, control me and the way I comunicate with others. But I'm becoming more withdrawn.
I called my dad the other day and told him I didn't want to go through with the divorce... Thank goodness he gave me a good talking to, and told me why it needed to be done.
I'm falling apart inside, and I don't want this to effect my baby negatively.

I had a long time abusive relationship, it took 5 years to walk away. With God and my babies, I left, 20 bucks (that a friend put in my pocket) and a tank of gas. I prayed and kept driving, I ended up in another state @ a homeless shelter in the nights; my car in the day, a child that had to go to the hospital regularly and all the time, I should've been scared but I always knew God would take care of me. I prayed all the time, my son was flown to his doctors now 2 states away every week, by a total stranger (I only met this man once, but he paid for plane tickets every week, I never even got his name) Over the next 3 1/2 years (I ended up 6 states away at the end of 6 months) prayer 30+ times a day, and a strong faith in God's love, I just knew He would not let go of us. I prayed to find work so I would not end up on welfare, God provided a couple of great jobs with great bosses, that when it was absolutely needed for me to be off I was granted the time. I had given no thought to another relationship as I would not let anyone hurt my children, a casual date every now and then, that I took my Bible to (holding that book in my pocket told me I would be safe). Out of the blue one day at work I met a man that made me realize I never knew what a real relationship was (in a small time period we were married) this man I met in an unlikely place, adopted my children and raised them from toddlers, he loves me heart and soul. Point I would like you to hear from all my rambling is..... Put the Lord God Almighty first, your children second and you 3rd, only rely on God; for your jobs you will need, for the home you will find and for the cheap car to get you to work, kids and back.

I don't have any money, any car, any phone, and rarely a computer anymore... I am thoughroughly blessed to have family that will take me in and protect me when I'm in need though

I would have gone down to kick his lights in...period! What evils things he has done to you, the Lord Jesus speaks some very strong words against these abusive husbands...1Peter 3v7

Hi Hun, I will most definitely pray for you You know we come across a lot of problems in life and we have many, many choices of where to turn to. God want us to turn to Him whenever in need, whenever we can't handle it, because it just proves we aren't in control of what happens to us, but God is, if we are willing to let go to Him. Matthew 11:28 "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest." God always has open arms for you, always loving you and protecting you Nothing bad comes from God, He is all about love, He actually is love. 1 John 4:19 "We love because he first loved us." Now sometimes people get a misconception and blame God for their troubles, but you've got to remember that we've got evil present on this earth and we just have to figure out the truth for ourselves with the help of God. I used to be so hateful to God, but He has really changed me, and I prayed for wisdom and He has shown me the truth about things, and knowing the truth is very important, shows you what to believe in. But, I know sometimes it is very hard to trust, but if you just maybe take a moment and pray, know God is there hearing out your prayer and He has you protected. Psalm 118:6 "The Lord is on my side; I will not fear. What can man do to me?" I will pray for your husband, I pray that God will touch him in awesome ways. It's going to be alright sweetie, God is with us If you need to talk, I've got ears that listen, just hit me with a message Lots of love, God bless, know that God loves you sooo soo very much.

Continueing to keep all in my prayers in Jesus.

Hugs and God bless
pickles

Prayers sent for you and all who love you
My God give you all wisdom and understanding.

Thanks guys... This is looking more and more like it might turn out for all of us every day. My husband is looking for ways to change, and has gone to our pastor a few times for help.

This is really great news! i truly pray for his heart to turn around; there are so many great stories of broken and damaged hearts that turn around from incredibly messed up situations and end up really happy thanks to God!

God will bless your forgiving heart, your strong stance on fighting for your loved one and the value you hold to the marriage, for this is sacred to him.

There is nothing better than a soul that wakes up and turns to the Lord for healing and works hard on fixing the damage done, this is what God wants us to learn, to be humble and to walk in good. If he continues to work hard, when he wakes up in our Lord, he will be a different man, this is one of God's promises for following him with your heart, and he never breaks a promise!

Love <3 to you both and never let go of our Lord. God Bless You as a family !!!

Hi there! I am new to the Chat room, I just read your post! I was married to a man for 20 years. He was a very controlling, jealous, selfish insecure man! He made me feel as though I was the one that was out of line because of trying to stand up to him. You spoke of doing the deed while you slept! I am aware of many times of this happening, but, there could be times that I never woke up, due to having to take sleep aids during some time periods of illness with my father. Also, the first time I told him I was going to leave him, and wasn't sure if I loved him any longer. He did his deed after forcing me to let him. You have so many people that love you, I am sure that you do. When I left my husband, I lived with my father for 8 months. I have three children, of course that is different for you, due to the fact that they all were teenagers. They wanted to stay in their home/rooms/school. It was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. Although he is a good provider for the kids, I couldn't make them come with me, knowing they did not want to live in the city, and all old enough to make their own choices. What I am trying to get at, your friends, family and loved ones will get you through this, along with your trust in Christ to carry you until your able to truly stand on own two feet in this world. As for your unborn child, the life that you were in is not what you want to raise this child in. Your walk with Christ will be a blessing to this child. God Bless you, and I will certainly add you and your baby to my prayer list offered up to Christ.

Well, a few people have told me to be careful, because my husband is devicive. He will say what you want to hear, just to get what he wants.
If he is truely serious about turning his life around, The Lord will tell me. I won't be going home to him until (or if) God tells me to.

Yes, please take is slow. He certainly has to prove to you without a shadow of doubt that he is serious about changing. Please be careful, not to fall back into his trap. it is very fearful that he may be more abusive the next time. Is he going to go to any type of counseling? And his going to church, again, please be careful. Truly the only way he will be changed is if he completely excepts Christ as his Lord and Savior. I will pray for your family, your safety as well as your baby God is giving you.