Leaving my abusive husband... Finally.

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Duckies

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#41
Still praying for you! May God keep watching after your soul!!

God Bless You and find strength in him :)!!
 

pickles

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Hugs wildthing, you continue in my prayers in Jesus for every need, comfort peace, streangth and the delight of Jesus's love to fill and bless your life. :)

Hugs and God bless
pickles
 

homwardbound

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For a second it starts looking better, then it gets worse, and then it starts looking better and gets worse. It looks like we're getting closer and closer every time, to a divorce.
I'm having a really hard time with him not taking his crap into his own hands... (sorry if that word offends you).
He just blamed me, my mom, and my dad for me leaving him. he accused me of being the irresponsible one, and he's trying to take my reliable transportation, which I NEED for going to prenatals. And when I told him I couldn't take his car because it's not reliable and I can't drive a stick shift, he accused me of being ungrateful and never being satisfied with what I have. I am satisfied with what I have, I'm trying to keep what I have!
Hold on Sister hold on and draw on the Holy Ghost and expect the unexpected of accusations of self-righteousness which is of flesh that always wants to be right and I am not saying be a door-mat and be walke all over, even the Jews tried to do this when Jesus was here in the perfect flesh, but they could not because he was in complete trust of Father to give him whatever words were needed tosay for what his purpose here to do
Thew same Sisteris for you to give up on yourself to straighten anything out and put your trust and ask for the Holy Ghost's words, Fathers words as waht Chrsit told his Disciples not to worry waht you are going to sayor how you might answer because
Matt. 10 not in total context, but carries the same for today in beleif Sister GOD does LOVE you and him and am sorry forthe mess you are in, but Sister it is a reality and the only deliverance is asking God for the right words to speak each and every time with such Logic that no one can really reply, and you will be free from fighting in the flesh which will just throw evil off.
[SUP]16 [/SUP]Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: be ye therefore wise as serpents, and harmless as doves.
[SUP]17 [/SUP]But beware of men: for they will deliver you up to the councils, and they will scourge you in their synagogues;
[SUP]18 [/SUP]And ye shall be brought before governors and kings for my sake, for a testimony against them and the Gentiles.
[SUP]19 [/SUP]But when they deliver you up, take no thought how or what ye shall speak: for it shall be given you in that same hour what ye shall speak.
[SUP]20 [/SUP]For it is not ye that speak, but the Spirit of your Father which speaketh in you.

Read the story of King Jehosaphat that won the war of three armies coming against him by how? He sent out the praise and worship band in the front, and Evil, flesh does not know how to respond to kindness, Love, grace, especially praise and thankfullness inthe Lord regardless of the circumstances around one
So Sis see you are a winner regardless of what others might do and are say, andso put out the praise and worship band and subdue the flesh,
A kind answer from one's Spirit of God turns away wrath

[h=3]Proverbs 15[/h]King James Version (KJV)

15 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
[SUP]2 [/SUP]The tongue of the wise useth knowledge aright: but the mouth of fools poureth out foolishness.
[SUP]3 [/SUP]The eyes of the Lord are in every place, beholding the evil and the good.
[SUP]4 [/SUP]A wholesome tongue is a tree of life: but perverseness therein is a breach in the spirit.
[SUP]5 [/SUP]A fool despiseth his father's instruction: but he that regardeth reproof is prudent.
[SUP]6 [/SUP]In the house of the righteous is much treasure: but in the revenues of the wicked is trouble.
[SUP]7 [/SUP]The lips of the wise disperse knowledge: but the heart of the foolish doeth not so.
[SUP]8 [/SUP]The sacrifice of the wicked is an abomination to the Lord: but the prayer of the upright is his delight.
[SUP]9 [/SUP]The way of the wicked is an abomination unto the Lord: but he loveth him that followeth after righteousness.
[SUP]10 [/SUP]Correction is grievous unto him that forsaketh the way: and he that hateth reproof shall die.
[SUP]11 [/SUP]Hell and destruction are before the Lord: how much more then the hearts of the children of men?
[SUP]12 [/SUP]A scorner loveth not one that reproveth him: neither will he go unto the wise.
[SUP]13 [/SUP]A merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance: but by sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken.
 
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vikash

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Some of you already may know this. But I got married 5 months ago, to a man who raped me, and made me feel like it was my fault. For 5 (almost 6) months, he'd been using me to gratify his own desires. And trying to be a good wife, I willingly gave my body to him. Through his constant abuse, I became pregnant a month after we got married.
I finally had enough of it, near the end of March, and finally called my mom and cried to her for hours. She then called my dad, and my husbands brother, and they came to talk to him.
He told me he was sorry, and that he was going to change for me, and our unborn child. He prayed with me, he read the Bible with me. But only for a couple days. I put my trust and love and respect back into our relationship, hoping it really would get better.
But he didn't change... He raped me again this morning, while I was asleep, and I woke up after he'd already done the deed. He told me he was sorry again. But I can't let myself get hurt again, just because his "I'm sorry", doesn't mean I'm sorry.
I called my dad, my mom, his brother, my pastor, my best friends, and they all told me its time to let go.
Now that I'm finally doing it though, I have no where to go, no way around being a single mom, and I'm leaving a man I truely loved once. My heart is breaking, and my life is falling apart. I'm in desperate need of prayers. If you could please help me.
Please dont leave you husband!!! it is not the right step to do!!
If you truly believe Jesus is the Lord and He can do anything, stay with your husband!!
Your husband is control by a devil spirit. You should stay with him and pray for him.
Praying once for someone to get change is first step, second is to spend time in prayer and fellowship and renewing mind to word of God. You did the praying part and didn't bother to follow second step that is spending time in prayer and reading word.

God mention in bible how to get release from devil spirit. Many people are destroy due to lack of knowledge. You read the word of God and you will find a way to save your husband. Its your trial period, don't quit. If you are leaving your husband, you too are a sinner like him. You are the one walking out of marriage. Read what is written in Corinthians about marriage. I will pray that God would give you strength to stay in marriage and wisdom on how to save your marriage.

You may be thinking for now, your husband is worst person, but believe me when you will change him he will always respect you and will bless you for what you did in his life. don't quit, dont quit.
 

Immawildthing

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Please dont leave you husband!!! it is not the right step to do!!
If you truly believe Jesus is the Lord and He can do anything, stay with your husband!!
Your husband is control by a devil spirit. You should stay with him and pray for him.
Praying once for someone to get change is first step, second is to spend time in prayer and fellowship and renewing mind to word of God. You did the praying part and didn't bother to follow second step that is spending time in prayer and reading word.

God mention in bible how to get release from devil spirit. Many people are destroy due to lack of knowledge. You read the word of God and you will find a way to save your husband. Its your trial period, don't quit. If you are leaving your husband, you too are a sinner like him. You are the one walking out of marriage. Read what is written in Corinthians about marriage. I will pray that God would give you strength to stay in marriage and wisdom on how to save your marriage.

You may be thinking for now, your husband is worst person, but believe me when you will change him he will always respect you and will bless you for what you did in his life. don't quit, dont quit.
The only spirit he has in him is one he LET take ahold of him. I have been praying for him, and nothing he's done is worthy or my respect and love.
Right now, I'm not thinking about me and what he's done to me just because I'm too weak to stand up for myself. I will be a good mother and stand up for the child that can't control how his father acts. I can control how I act now, and can control what I put my child into, and I will NOT put my baby in a house with that man when he's acting the way he is.
I tried for 6 months to get him to change, to stand by him, to help him, to pray with him, to read the scriptures with him, and nothing changed. I've got four months left to have this baby, and I'm not putting my baby into a house where the boy who's supposed to be a man, isn't one.
My baby needs a good father-figure, and my husband is NOT one.
I may not be strong enough to stand up for myself, but I am strong enough to stand up for others, and I will!
I'm not doing this just because I feel abused and I'm sure he'll abuse my child either. I'm doing this because I finally got the answer that this is what God wants me to do right now, and I will do what God tells me to do, whether I like it or not.
 
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Tintin

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#46
Get real. The one valid biblical reason for divorce is sexual immorality or rape. Don't tell her to stay. That's harmful and non-biblical.

Please dont leave you husband!!! it is not the right step to do!!
If you truly believe Jesus is the Lord and He can do anything, stay with your husband!!
Your husband is control by a devil spirit. You should stay with him and pray for him.
Praying once for someone to get change is first step, second is to spend time in prayer and fellowship and renewing mind to word of God. You did the praying part and didn't bother to follow second step that is spending time in prayer and reading word.

God mention in bible how to get release from devil spirit. Many people are destroy due to lack of knowledge. You read the word of God and you will find a way to save your husband. Its your trial period, don't quit. If you are leaving your husband, you too are a sinner like him. You are the one walking out of marriage. Read what is written in Corinthians about marriage. I will pray that God would give you strength to stay in marriage and wisdom on how to save your marriage.

You may be thinking for now, your husband is worst person, but believe me when you will change him he will always respect you and will bless you for what you did in his life. don't quit, dont quit.
 

Immawildthing

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I've got my mother-in-law trying to tell me to stay already.
 

Immawildthing

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That's the reason I stayed as long as I did, is because I thought I could change him.
 
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hattiebod

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That's the reason I stayed as long as I did, is because I thought I could change him.
I pray that whatever you do decide to do, that you will take some time before entering into another intimate relationship. You have a short time before your life will never be the same...in a good way :) so I hope you use these weeks wisely, to build your strength, ready for what's ahead. You are 17, will have a child to care for, what a wonderful gift from God. I pray you will take time out to heal, grow strong both physically, mentally & most importantly spiritually. We carry 'baggage' from such experiences as you have been through, they can hinder us, be unhelpful and having been through what you have been through, I pray you will take stock, 'be still' and prayerfully hand it over to the Lord. I pray you will have peace, security and live under His authority, heal and grow strong and with His guidance be all you can be. In His Name, <><
 

Immawildthing

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I pray that whatever you do decide to do, that you will take some time before entering into another intimate relationship. You have a short time before your life will never be the same...in a good way :) so I hope you use these weeks wisely, to build your strength, ready for what's ahead. You are 17, will have a child to care for, what a wonderful gift from God. I pray you will take time out to heal, grow strong both physically, mentally & most importantly spiritually. We carry 'baggage' from such experiences as you have been through, they can hinder us, be unhelpful and having been through what you have been through, I pray you will take stock, 'be still' and prayerfully hand it over to the Lord. I pray you will have peace, security and live under His authority, heal and grow strong and with His guidance be all you can be. In His Name, <><
Thank you for this. I was already planning on waiting to even think about getting married again (and technically, I'm not sure I will want to think about that for quite a while), but when I do, I will make sure it's someone I can respect, and who gain my love through his respect for me. I don't want my baby to have just a dad... I want my baby to have a father.
When I fall in love again, I sincerely hope it will be the kind of love that comes naturally, and isn't forced the way it is with my husband now. I actually had to try to love my husband now, and it was never the kind of love I wanted to have with my husband, it was never a real, honest, true love. It always felt like he was just an acquaintance.
 

homwardbound

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#52
I've got my mother-in-law trying to tell me to stay already.
please get in a quiet place clear all and talk togod and listen to your heart, make the descision and stand by that descision for better or worse. I say this becasue whatever descision you make there still will be troubles, at least once you make the discision you won't be wavering back and forth any longer caught on the fence ion between which is not good at all and hurts, more being caught in the middle than having made a discision one way or the other
I tell you no matter what discisions anyone of us malkes
[h=3]John 16:33[/h]New King James Version (NKJV)

[SUP]33 [/SUP]These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.”

So once you have made your discision, then you can stand and be free knowing God just love you and will never forsake you
 

homwardbound

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That's the reason I stayed as long as I did, is because I thought I could change him.
no one can change anyone except God himself. People change for people not because they love them, because of waht they percieve they can get.
Well I did the dishes, so I get expectations built up in my mind like having sex with my wife, and she has a head-ache, not wanting to have sex, and I in my expectations of I did this or that, thinking you should and fight ensues. Now mind you Iahve been married over 30years and do not do to get as I did at a much younger age. God has taught me to notmesswith another's free will, and deeply not by coersion.
Now on the other end of the stick, the wife wants a new pair of shoes, so she goes to the Husband allsexy and stuff, gives the Husband what the Husband desires and then afterward asks for what itis she wants.
I hope yousee what is wrong with these actions and reaction from both sides
It is a works program I did waht you want so I should get what I want, which is Futile, garbage and ultimately is not allowing each other to have free will
Think about even this. How many times have you said no to a sales person, and they ignore you saying no, and continue on in trying to sell you. Is that right or should that person have shown you Love God's type and said okay, thank youand went on about their business?
Food for thought Sister
 
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Powemm

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I read your story a while back and I know this place you are in..
a couple of questions to ask yourself ..

" are the fruits , love , joy, peace, patience , and kindness ,present?"
" are the things being spoken to me , things God would say to me?"
"who does god say I am ? Does this "match up" with who this person says I am?"
"is my relationship with God encouraged by this person ?"
"would God tell me to stay somewhere and get hurt?"
"would God ever not care for me?"



talley up your answes of yes and no.... Keeping in mind "if the image of God isn't being reflected out to you from anyone .. It isn't God your dealing with "

Get out! and get away from this person ASAP!
 
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shekaniah

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#55
Just wanted you to know...
I said a prayer for you today.
May God's hand be on you and your unborn baby.
Prayers and blessings, Shekaniah
 
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Powemm

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if you have a "YWCA" in your area .. give them a call .
The lampshade needs to be taken off on what's happening .. People like this get away with it because it's not brought into the light enough ... If he is not the "same" behind closed doors as He is outside of them ?? dangerous..
I did a test through them to see what the danger of my situation was. (many years ago) the scale was 1-10 for deadly...
I scored a 10..
Most of the the other women scored a 6.. This is your life and the life of your baby..
Life is precious to God .. Your life and your babies life is precious as well.. don't let either be tampered with..
 
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Powemm

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Oooo if I lived close to you ..That bad boy would be on his "knees" real quick ..
Sorry .. I have a "no tollerance" level for this ..
 
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Powemm

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I've been through abuse ..
Let me encourage you in the right direction..
find " experienced" officers " in domestic abuse ONLY"
they have " special training" , regular officers "do not" ..
If the officer you are talking too "wont listen?" ask for the chief .. skip right over the chain of command and go straight to the top.. and if he won't listen? Ask for the police commissioner . The more noise you make and the more people who have knowledge builds a wall of accountability in your case..
I PROMISE you the moment this guy finds out the police are involved ? He will cower down .. evil "hates" exposure ..It wants darkness that's why it's done behind closed doors.. He is sick and needs help..
Tjat is NOT your problem and you can not fix it..
Your problem is your safety and your babies safety., that's it ..
everytime he rapes you.. Report it .. don't hide it.. do not be empathetic to a problem you are not responsible for creating .. This is His problem and you did not cause it ..
No one has a right to do the things that are happening to you.. And someone that says it's your fault because they have a problem is a liar ..
Sorry I can't just stand back and say" I'm going to pray for you" I will pray with a confidence in gods strength , power and authority over it .. ..God also uses us as vessels to point the way towards His will.. And you getting hurt like this, is not
Gods will..
I can only hand you tools .. If i lived closer to you I would walk through it with you and even be a voice for you.. But I'm not .. It will be you who will have to find the strength through God or someone near you with God in them to help..
these are "master" manipulators that do this to women .. and the only way to defeat it is to shed a "whole lot" of light on it..

awww your in my heart sister .. I will be checking in on you to see how your doing .. Feel free to pm me anytime ..
Remember ..
Fear- is a "false belief" that someone or something is in more control than God is ..
The truth is "no one and no thing" is in more control than God is..
God says you are His precious daughter , beautiful , kind,
and loving . God also says he made you for His enjoyment .. his perfect creation. And since God made you , such things that you have been told are lies .. Because God being all beautiful, all loving .. Has put NO SUCH THINGS like those lies in you..
God would never put those things in any of us ..so be sober minded and believe who God says you are.. Beautiful, kind, loving , and joyfull things in you.. These are the things he had in mind when He created you... the enemy is trying to break down that belief system in you.. He wants you to buy those lies... And everytime you need reminding of this .. Go to God and ask Him to please tell you.. Then come this way.. I'll tell you again.. I didn't know this when I was going through the situation I was in.., and I will say 100% of the reason I chose a guy like that .. Was because I didn't know who I am in christ .. Didn't know the good things he put In me so I bought the lies .. it's okay , God has a way of changing things up REAL
QUICK.. Dont forget to hand this problem to God , ask for His help, share every emotion with Him.. He will help this I know .. Okay I think I've gotten it all out .. love ya girl .. I'd give you a " great big hug" if I could !!
 

homwardbound

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Fear is the absence of Faith.
fear is of the flesh and is used by many to get what they want from others
Fear of the Lord and no other is the begining of wisdom. fear of others that can only destroy the body is rampant of the flesh, fear God only who can both destroy Body and SOUL
Now when one does seek to know the Lord and sees the Lord's perfect love then perfect love casts out all fear
1 John 4:18
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love.
Not many Sister are willing to go to death if necessary as Stephan did in acts and other Saints as well.
Just know in your heart that no matter what GOD DOES JUST LOVE YOU
Myprayers are for you to be set free