Dating a Different kind of Christian...

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ms_rekindlethefire

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I'm a Born Again Christian... He's a Catholic...In a way we are both Christians. He's my 1st Boyfriend and I do love him dearly... we have been together for almost 2 years...

He comes to church but I still pray that he would get to know Christ more in a personal level and not just attending the services or going to mass... we talk about marriage sometimes but I do feel that unless he is ready to really commit himself to a personal relationship with God then that is also suppose to be a deal breaker for me... but i can't say that to him... i think im being narrow minded in this case... since he also know Jesus... he prays his memorized prayers... he believes in Jesus... that should be enough....

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JessW

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The relationship with Jesus has to be personal. I know many Catholics who have close relationships with The Lord. What makes the relationship difficult sometimes is when one partner is more devoted to Christ then the other. You may want to have a discussion to find out how he truly feels and also let him know where you stand.

I pray that The Lord will give both of you guidance and that his will in the relationship be revealed to you. I ask all of these thing in the name of Jesus. Amen.
 
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praying that God through his Holy Spirit gives you peace in what you should do.
 
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ms_rekindlethefire said:
I'm a Born Again Christian... He's a Catholic...In a way we are both Christians. He's my 1st Boyfriend and I do love him dearly... we have been together for almost 2 years...

He comes to church but I still pray that he would get to know Christ more in a personal level and not just attending the services or going to mass... we talk about marriage sometimes but I do feel that unless he is ready to really commit himself to a personal relationship with God then that is also suppose to be a deal breaker for me... but i can't say that to him... i think im being narrow minded in this case... since he also know Jesus... he prays his memorized prayers... he believes in Jesus... that should be enough....

sigh*** confused....
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How are we so called different kind of christians,<catholics>,i go to church/mass daily i get much from it i put much devotion to and within it as well,i pray what are traditional prayers,Jesus did as well,i pray in many prayer tradition expressions,i practice contemplative,reflective,mediative prayer,prayer from my heart.Prayer is to be constantly,1 Thess.5:17-8,Catholics are much on fire for thier christian faith and we do have a deep personal relationship with Our Lord Jesus Christ,feel free to ask him about his personalrelationship to Jesus,his prayer life spiritually,see 1st jn 5:9-13.If he believes our spiritual christian life is all about Our Lord Jesus Christ thats where our spiritual heart must be.thier are very much alot may spiritual christian faith traditions in the Body of Christ we need to accept other faith traditions and expressions of them ones other than our own.Pray and see Gods Will for you both and see spiritual christian counsel.i will pray for you both amen.
 
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You are so wise in seeing the need for a close relationship in Jesus. :)
You both are in my prayers in Jesus for this.

Hugs and God bless
pickles
 
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psychomom

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My grandparents were 1 of 5 couples who founded a Baptist church in their town many, many years ago.
They raised their children in it, and 3 of their 4 children moved out of state after they grew up.
But the one who remained raised his children in that Baptist church.
Those children, my cousins, in turn raised their children at that church, but...
no one after my mother's and uncles' generation really understand what it means to be saved by grace through faith.
They attend church services regularly, and they think they are saved because they've always gone to church.
They know Who the Bible says Jesus is, and they believe it, but they have not trusted Him as Lord and Savior. :(

It really does have to be an individual, personal thing. Just because my parents knew Jesus as Savior didn't make me 'inherit' it.
Neither has regular church attendance made my cousins righteous in God's eyes.
(in fact, they are very hard to reach with the gospel, since they think they already know all there is to know.
but they show no fruit, and they do not understand the difference between going to church and believing unto salvation.)

You show great wisdom (I believe from the Lord) in wanting to be certain you and your beloved are on the same page, as it were.
Right after the Lord saved me (I was about 13), I went to baby-sit for a young Christian couple.
When they saw me carry a Bible, they asked me where Jesus is. I pointed up. lol
Then the wife asked where Jesus is in relation to me. I pointed to my heart, and they smiled big, happy smiles. (very kind people who wanted to be sure I understood salvation. :) )
Perhaps just a simple discussion like that with your boyfriend would put to rest any questions you may have?

In any case, you have my prayers, dear sister!
I believe the Lord will grant this wisdom you seek, because He loves you so. &#9829;
~ellie

 
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shekaniah

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Agreeing in prayer with my family in Christ!
May the eyes of his heart be opened!
Love in Jesus, Shekaniah

Ephesians 1:18
I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints
 
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ms_rekindlethefire

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i am indeed quite blessed to have found this chat site... I feel the love of Christ from all of you and pray that his guidance will be there when I make a decision... God bless you all and again I want to give back warm thanks and prayers to everyone :)
 
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ms_rekindlethefire said:
I'm a Born Again Christian... He's a Catholic...In a way we are both Christians. He's my 1st Boyfriend and I do love him dearly... we have been together for almost 2 years...

He comes to church but I still pray that he would get to know Christ more in a personal level and not just attending the services or going to mass... we talk about marriage sometimes but I do feel that unless he is ready to really commit himself to a personal relationship with God then that is also suppose to be a deal breaker for me... but i can't say that to him... i think im being narrow minded in this case... since he also know Jesus... he prays his memorized prayers... he believes in Jesus... that should be enough....

sigh*** confused....
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I get you--sometimes I wonder if my devout Catholic mother even reads The Bible, at all...she doesn't even attend mass (she didn't like the Easter decorations, thought they were 'tacky', and never returned, to date)...I had a nasty argument with her, about money and how she views it (pretty much an issue addressed right in the Sermon on the Mount). Anyway, haven't talked to her for weeks now, so I'll pray for you, and please pray for me. Thanks & God Bless! :)
 
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killerrabbitrunaway

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psychomom said:
My grandparents were 1 of 5 couples who founded a Baptist church in their town many, many years ago.
They raised their children in it, and 3 of their 4 children moved out of state after they grew up.
But the one who remained raised his children in that Baptist church.
Those children, my cousins, in turn raised their children at that church, but...
no one after my mother's and uncles' generation really understand what it means to be saved by grace through faith.
They attend church services regularly, and they think they are saved because they've always gone to church.
They know Who the Bible says Jesus is, and they believe it, but they have not trusted Him as Lord and Savior. :(

It really does have to be an individual, personal thing. Just because my parents knew Jesus as Savior didn't make me 'inherit' it.
Neither has regular church attendance made my cousins righteous in God's eyes.
(in fact, they are very hard to reach with the gospel, since they think they already know all there is to know.
but they show no fruit, and they do not understand the difference between going to church and believing unto salvation.)

You show great wisdom (I believe from the Lord) in wanting to be certain you and your beloved are on the same page, as it were.
Right after the Lord saved me (I was about 13), I went to baby-sit for a young Christian couple.
When they saw me carry a Bible, they asked me where Jesus is. I pointed up. lol
Then the wife asked where Jesus is in relation to me. I pointed to my heart, and they smiled big, happy smiles. (very kind people who wanted to be sure I understood salvation. :) )
Perhaps just a simple discussion like that with your boyfriend would put to rest any questions you may have?

In any case, you have my prayers, dear sister!
I believe the Lord will grant this wisdom you seek, because He loves you so. &#9829;
~ellie
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That pointing up & to the heart deal--THAT was wisdom, right there...fantastic, I'm so using that, myself, as well. :)
 
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libertygirl

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Prayed. :)

Make sure you have the same values and goals. Will you be attending church together? If he's not open to going to your church with you, would you be okay going alone? Also, men tend to get comfortable after marriage, he may decide not to go to church with you at all. Does he read his bible daily? Does he pray for you? Is he actively pursuing Christ? You should be asking him these hard questions, especially if you are planning to get married.

It sounds like you are unsure about him. I would take the relationship to God, He will give you peace if its His will.
 
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Protestant means Protest against the catholic church. There two very different formats. My best friend is Catholic so I know a lot about it. Ya he's drank that koolaid. It's such a bizzare format if you ask me. There's just too many strange things in it. Which again is why the Protestants moved out. But anyway I pray that God will help you to figure out what to do.
 
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libertygirl said:
Prayed. :)

Make sure you have the same values and goals. Will you be attending church together? If he's not open to going to your church with you, would you be okay going alone? Also, men tend to get comfortable after marriage, he may decide not to go to church with you at all. Does he read his bible daily? Does he pray for you? Is he actively pursuing Christ? You should be asking him these hard questions, especially if you are planning to get married.

It sounds like you are unsure about him. I would take the relationship to God, He will give you peace if its His will.
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Liberty this is very much alot great highly much alot spiritual advice thanx 4 sharing this sister amen allways amen....
 
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ms_rekindlethefire said:
i am indeed quite blessed to have found this chat site... I feel the love of Christ from all of you and pray that his guidance will be there when I make a decision... God bless you all and again I want to give back warm thanks and prayers to everyone :)
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Amen!
Jesus is in this place!
 
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simplyme_bekah

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Oh sweetheart, I know EXACTLY how you feel except mine wants nothing to do with religion period. I keep telling Him to forget what the world says about God and turn directly to God to get his answers that it is a relationship not a religion. Me, I have decided to fast that God will send something flying down from Heaven that is going to hit him in the head and enlighten him hahahahaha Man I love it when a visual picture cracks me up (((grinz))) Be sure to pray and ask God to please help you to not do your will over His will. I am always afraid I am going to get in the way of Gods will for my life so I surrender it to Him. When they own your heart it is sooooo soooo hard to walk away because everything inside of you screams to fight for your love. Surrender it to God, lay it at His feet. He can read your mind and He can read your heart. He is so cool in the way that He reveals His will or reasons to His children. It always just wows me and then I start grinning because whatever it was that He did was out of this world wild cool and He just shared it with little ole me.
I lift you up in prayer sister and ask that God fills your mind and heart with His will and His truth, I ask in Jesus name Amen!
 
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OFM

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becca well shred thanx for your christian spiritual insight amen allways amen!!!!!!!!!!!!!............
 
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.Shared<...........
 
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Catholics aren't Christian. If the Catholic church is going to recognize the marriage, the children must be raised catholic.
 
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jimmydiggs said:
Catholics aren't Christian. If the Catholic church is going to recognize the marriage, the children must be raised catholic.
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that is not rue,u need correct information on this,they have now church law on this never offically have. had one it is only a perference.
 
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