loosing faith

I am in so much need of prayer. My husband and I are barely communicating since he declared himself to be an atheist. I feel like my marriage is not where it was 11 years ago. I have been praying for god to strengthen this marriage but there has been no change, in fact we barely talk without arguing. We have a 10 year old and a six year old and part of the reason I stay in this unhappy marriage is because he takes care of my children finacially and threatens that he would not if I were to leave My friends and family say I should divorce him but he is also my friend and I would like to think that god brought us together for some reason??? I am totally confused and wish that god would tell me what to do so that I can be happy. I feel like my faith in god is becoming lost and my marriage is doomed to fail.

I feel like i want to give you advice but i understand i am in no position to do so, but perhaps some of my experience can give you some insight, i was born after my mother and father separted, as i was told i was the result of them trying to reconcile, my mum is religous but my dad is not, part of the reason they separted was because of how religous my mum was, now i understand that things cant be helped sometimes but i really do wish i had my dad around, my mother did her best but i hardly saw her as she was a single parent trying to support 3 kids. I wish things could have been different but i am thankful for what i do have. So i guess my advice would be try to think of the kids happiness above your own, but if you find it becoming to much then you must do what you must. I wrote i prayer in this forum topic titles 'A Miracle Prayer' try and give that a read and see how you go, but i will pray for you also.

Good Luck and God bless.

Jesus will help you. 1 Peter 5:7 "Casting all your care upon him; for he cares for you." Jesus healed my marriage. We were separated for three of our six years married. Now we are doing better than ever because of Jesus. We do not believe in divorce because we read Matthew 5:31-32. If God can save my marriage He can save yours.

Father i thank you for this place...christianchat where we can gather together and encourage and sharpen and pray for one another.
i lift up christianartist.I pray father that the ground of her heart,receives the seed of the word,and produce.let understanding of the word began to produce peace and a revelation that everything in the spiritual is working for her and give her knowledge that its the spirit that gives life,not the body .The body minds fleshly things,and the spirit minds spiritual things.the WORD is quick and powerful and sharp, penetrating,even to the dividing of bone and marrow and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.I pray that christianartist trust you LORD and the HOLY SPIRIT guides her.in JESUS name.....amen

I don't have much to say but sometimes it takes time and a whole lot of effort and prayer, before you can see a change. Just remain faithful to your husband, put your trust in God and wait upon Him. God bless

Trust your husband to Jesus.
Then just keep loving Him .
Keep living your faith and love for Jesus, He will bring peace and healing to you and your family.
You are in my prayers in Jesus as well as your husband and children.

Hugs and God bless
pickles

Life is short. Get out now while you still can. That will likely be the only thing that might save your husband after he has a "wake up call". He won't change a bit as long as you stay and be his whipping boy. Get out and find the happiness you deserve. He'll have to take care of the kids no matter what. I'm not one to condone divorce or anything but if you've tried all other avenues well I'm not sure what else to say. Maybe just separate for a while and see what that does?

What a hard thing!

My husband says he's a Christian, yet I don't think he REALLY believes what he says he does. He grew up in a strict, religious family so I think he just feels pressured into wearing the label. He let it slip a few weeks ago that he thinks faith is 'wishful thinking'. I was stunned...still am.

It has been a challenge to work this marriage out. I don't know...is it easier if the non-believing husband SAYS he's a Christian, but isn't; or is it better if they are just plain honest about it?

Either way, I think God calls us to try to live together; except in the case of adultery and abuse.

If he doesn't try to stop you or your children from going to church or having Christian friends, I would say stay.

You do need to figure out how to live together without arguing. I definitely would not be trying to convince him of something that he's set his mind against. And be careful not to be patronising, or condemning. Do you attend a church? A pastor or mature Christian friend could really be of help at this time.

Praying for you, sister; I know God can help you work this out. Also, praying for your husband's salvation

Thank you all for your kind words and encouragement, I will continue to pray and wish for god's direction and healing of my husband and I.

Thanks for sharing your touching story. I look at my son and daughter and I definitely will consider doing whats good for them and pray for understanding and peace between my husband and I. Thanks again

Thank you for your advice, I will consider this along with lots of prayer.

Thank you for these words and keep me in your prayers.

GOD bless you and keep you.
thank you for the thank you's.
and
to GOD be the glory

I found out my husband was this way as well after we married.
For many years I tried to change him.
Then Jesus asked me to give him up to Him.
I finally did this, and simply loved him as called to in word.
It took a bit of time, but.
My husband came to not only accept Jesus, but lives each day now to know and love Jesus!
It is trully amazing the blessing that is given when one gives all to Jesus and lives God's will !!!!

Hugs and God bless
pickles

Wonderful! Yes, I can only pray and love my husband. Trying to talk him into believing would have the opposite effect. Even asking him if he's a really a believer would start WW III.

I think he has even fooled himself

I understand, be prepared to not be discouraged if all seems to get worse once in a while.
Satan always comes to steal, kill and destroy.
I saw this happen just as my husband was close to salvation.
So when they were all out I did a blessing and comand in Jesus on our home with Holy oil.
Our home felt compleatly cleansed and imrpoved right away.
At one time I thought this was a rather extreem act, Jesus has shown me that it is a very wise and effective act now.
Ill be praying for both of you in Jesus.

Hugs and God bless
pickles

Christianartist, How are you doing?
You and your husband continue in my prayers in Jesus.

Hugs and God bless
pickles

What amazing blessings God can bring into the lives of a family member through her faithful mama-ness. Yours is an absolute truth, you hold, behold and are held by Jesus....author and perfecter of our faith. He shines in you sister, in your words and deeds. Stand in Him, refuse to argue and let His grace fill each room of your house. Tell you what...that will drive anyone insane until they come to realize they cannot outrun the "hound of heaven"...His Spirit. I know the Apostle Paul (maybe not him) wrote about a faithful wife bringing salvation to her household through faithfulness, and look at all the faithful women in the Bible...some that even affected entire nations by being faithful to God. Love you sister. Praying for you as well.