Hello.
I am a wife suffering from my husband's adultery due to pornography and lust. He did this 2 years ago, and when I found the evidence on my 54th birthday, he did answer yes, even if he did not confess before I found it.
We are now in church, and our church has an online link sarcastically titled, "How to Commit Adultery." Please don't be offended at the title, it is actually a good presentation on how to avoid LUST, as well as it's title, adultery.
I am not sure that I am supposed to post a direct link to the clip which is about 30 minutes, but I can tell you one of the most effective parts of the message is to stay FAR, FAR, away from the many places you have to stop between the best you that God wants, and the ugliness you are trying to avoid.
Crosby said it best. You have to quit seeking that which you need to stay away from.
Another thing is to remember, and I will pray with you is to stand on 2 Corinthians 10:5: "Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;"
Father God, I come before you today, giving thanks for every good gift. I stand beside Martino in his request to you. Help him to cast down the tempting imaginings, and those ugly temptations. Father, keep him FAR from the line he should not cross. Carry him and give him strength to bring his thoughts into captivity to obey You, O Lord. In Jesus' name we agree in prayer, Amen.
Martino,
Cast down your imaginings, and those ugly temptations first, FAR from the line you should not cross, and it will be far easier to bring your thoughts into captivity to the obedience of Christ. When you allow yourself to continue to slide close to the fire, this makes a problem worse and harder to shut the door on and stop. Do not think the battle over with one victory, either. Fighting becomes easier, the more you battle.
Many Victories to you.
