As being a mother my job is 24hrs a day 7 days a week!!!! I've tried my best to Love, Protect, provide, teach, and support him the best way I can. I Love him more than words can explain!!!!! Finding Out that my son could get left back and not make it to first grade breaks my heart it makes me feel like I failed as a mom...plz pray for my son and I
I prayed for your son and you.
First grade: Your son needs to know his add and subtract combinations cold, with no fingers. You can drill him with flash cards; give some rewards. Also, be sure to get a monopoly set and go to Hobby Lobby or somewhere and buy dice that to up to 9 + 9 so that he drills the combinations that way. (Or go buy it on Amazon.) Monopoly teaches math painlessly. (Don't use the 6 + 6 dice that comes with the set.)
(My experience with children, indicates to me that the vast majority of parents fail their children by not drilling them to know the addition combinations by first grade.)
Your son needs to read first grade material. Find someone to teach him reading and basic phonics if you cannot yourself (long e in beet; short e in bet). That's just about all there is to first grade, IMHO. There are video programs that teach reading, like ReadALong (PBS program). You may be able to find old Scott-Foresman Company readers like Dick and Jane on Ebay. They are look-read with repeated vocab; so you need to add in some simple phonics. Probably you can find those materials at some Teachers' Store or on Amazon or Ebay. If you don't have time to teach him this summer during school hours, because you work, find some Christian private school -- send him there for summer school. In the Fall you can prove that he knows his first grade math and can read. Also, it should be easy to find both math (like Funnels and Buckets) and reading programs on computer.
I ran a private school for many years.
Now I digress on my school-grade-opinion. I always ran a gradeless approach. I tested the kids to find out where they were in Math, English, and Reading. I plugged them in where they were. Everyone was taught mostly individually using graded workbooks and computer programs. Everyone's seat (at special desks) faced out (no rows) -- many faced windows. Every student had a sort of individual cubicle. As math skills were learned, they got new math banners for their level.
What I say here is only a little over-generalization:
I disagree with "failing students" and our grade system. Students should be kept with their own age group if you don't run a mixed age/ grade class like I did. Otherwise the students who fail become goats and bullies, being older than the others. IMHO, students should have 11 "grades" (7th-8th grade is a waste of time; Junior High stuff only needs at most 1 year.) Each "grade" should simply be an age group: all 10 year olds together socially. Students should go at their own individual pace. At the end of the year, a record should be made of what they know and their reading levels. (Johnny knows combinations, adding with carrying, subtraction with borrowing -- not yet multiplication, etc.
All students should graduate when they are 17 -- there should be no adults (18 & over) in high school. There should be no final tests to determine if they graduate. When the students graduate, a transcript is produced stating what each student knows. (He knows Algebra and Geography, but doesn't know History -- rather His Algebra level is 4 on a scale of 0-10; In English he knows the parts of speech, but can't punctuate. His spelling level is average for American adults. Things like that. Not graduated vs did not graduate; but a transcript delineating the educational attainment in the various subjects, what he knows. Employers and colleges can look at that, which means a lot more than "B in Biology."
But unless your child is mentally challenged with a physical brain problem, you can get your son through first grade skills with some effort and do this before school starts again in the fall.
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.