My eldest brother

My eldest brother, Cam, is in trouble tonight. I got a call from my sister tonight who was sobbing. My brother was "freaking out", posting suicide threats on FBI, and not responding. She needed me to call him. I did and there was no answer. I checked his fb and saw his post about going out with a bang and his apologies to all he loved. I immediatwly called my sisterinlaw who was also crying.
My brother has serious back issues. A few years ago he had back surgery but recently the pain has been getting worse and he needed more surgery. However, he is self-employed and has no insurance. He ran out of pain meds a few days ago and began taking Adivan (anti-anxiety/sleep aid). Apparently he was taking too much. Tonight he blew up at something and wanted to leave, but my sister-in-law took his keys because of his state. She locked the door and he broke back into the house and beat her up. She and the 4 kids had to escape through the windows. When I called her se had gone to her sisters. She had called the police who'd left because they couldn't do anything. A few moments later they arrested him. My brother is nearly the only Christian in my family, and he is not the violent type. Hes beenarroed 17 yrs and never hurt his wife, Nicole. His wife is a wonderful and strong woman. His kids are 7, 10, 13, and 15. Please
pray for the family as he is very far away from everyone. Pray for my nephew and nieces who just had to crawl out the widow to escape their father. Pray for my brothers back. He does not believe in healing. But I believe God can heal him regardless. Pray for Nicole as she will need a lot of wisdom.

He needs County medical care. They allow you to be self-employed if you make under a certain annual amount of NET income. In the county I live in you can own a home, two cars, all of your retirement to any amount (even millions of dollars), and make up to $50k a year in net income and still qualify for full 100% county medical care with no deductable and no co-pays. However, not every county is as liberal with that. After you get him emotionally stabilized, you'll need to see if he qualifies.

As for the Ativan, he should watch out for that. I was on it once for a few years and there is a real relationship between benzos like Ativan, Valium, Xanax, etc... and alcoholism. If you are drinking alcohol and taking benzos, you're most likely going to end up an alcoholic. Try benadryl instead.

As for the insane behavior, he may end up doing some jail time. He needs to get into a recovery group. There are a whole lot of them to choose from. Some are Christian and some are secular. Whatever. He needs to be in one attending meetings and working through his issues.

http://www.christianshelpingourworld.org/recovery

I spoke with my sisterinlaw. They live in TN so services are different. I know what they would do in CA. He was arrested for disorderly conduct, but placed on suicidality watch.

I was just reading my brothers fb and I found some info I wasn't aware of. He's 10 yrs older than I am, so he was out of the house when I was young. I always knew he was a marine swimmer. However, I just found out he did actually see battle. He was a part of the first battle at Mogadishu which is the basis of the movie "Black Hawk Down".

Lord, I Lift this family to you, guide them and comfort them Lord, In Jesus Name Amen

If he's a fellow veteran, with an honorable or general discharge, there are also counseling and medical services available from the Veterans Administration based on time of active service.

I found out this afternoon that my sisterinlaw bailed him out, and he's blaming her for everything. He's determined to leave her and his 4 kids, and come back to California.

I pray the Lord bring peace, comfort and love to each of you

May he be filled with Love and Peace in the name of Yahvah God and Yahshua the Messiah.

Hugs Jordache, praying for your brother, his family , also you,, in Jesus Christ is Lord.


God bless
pickles

Praying for your brother and his family, In Jesus Name, Amen

Praying .

Today he finally started taking a little. I spoke with my sisterinlaw and got to pray for her yesterday. She's seems to be doing well all things considered. My brother finally "liked" my FB comment today--first sign of communication. Then he turned on his phone--second good sign. Thirdly, he texted me back after I called. Thus far they've gotten him scheduled for surgery, and he's agreed to come off the meds. After talking to my sister, the story is a bit clearer. He was taking oxicodone for his back when he ran out and they wouldn't renew his prescription. So he went into withdrawals from OxyContin.
Please continue to pray for the family. They are all a bit traumatized, but right now are sort of just in shock from it all.

Hugs Jordache, Im so glad he is doing better.
When I was facing a second surgury on my back it was overwhelming for me as well, mostly because I knew what I was facing.
Just keep supporting him and remnding him how much the sugury will help.
And yes, it made my life better.
He, his family and you also remain in my prayers in Jesus.

Hugs and God bless
pickles

There are underlying issues. It's not all just an RX running out. Denial is more than a river in Egypt but it's his choice. The right one would be to humble himself and join a self-help group like Celebrate Recovery and be consistent with it for a year or so. I've seen God do some amazing things in those groups over time with men.

But then, if everything is "fine" now... then there's no need right? Wrong.