my grandson is dead

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Hepzibah

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He died last year aged 23 from a drug overdose but l just found out today. His father who was divorced from my daughter, brought my grandson up, having moved away from the area. I have not seen him for about 17 years but sent him presents and cards till he was 15 which were never acknowledged. Then 6 years ago he sent me an email to say that his sister had told him that l said in an email to her that his father was not his real father. She had photo shopped it and it was a lie. He said he did not want me in his life even though he found out what she had done and that was the last l heard from him though l lived in hope that he would write one day. My daughter is borderline and has turned the family against me including her ex and my grandson. It is because of her drug taking that she messed her brain up and blamed me for everything. Its a mess please pray for us. I have spent today alone with no one to share it with.
 
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God knows the truth, rest easy in the knowledge of that. Sounds like you are best out of it to be honest. You did the best you could under difficult circumstances, now it's time to move on. sometimes I think church family can be more loyal especially in circumstances such as yours.

I will pray that God gives you comfort in this valley you find yourself in and that He will shower you in blessings. :)
 
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Hepzibah

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Thanks MadParrot

I am well with the Lord but just trying to get over the shock of the news. I don't have a church as l am too sick to attend services and got forgotten. Its a pretty dysfunctional family.
 
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Hep, that hurts you to the core of your being, but now you are in position to minister to those whom their loved one rejected them. God puts us in positions like this so that he may use us or in order that something or some area which requires a change may be brought to attention and effect and change. believe me, God eyes is upon that which hurts us (he is touched with the feelings with the feelings of our infirmities), and I pray that one day you will see his purpose in this.

Stay in the word and pray, draw nigh unto him and he will draw nigh unto you.

Father I do pray that you will sent the Spirit of all comfort to this heart and bind it up in your love, Amen.

Thank you for sharing that, Hep, perhaps it may help others some how.
 
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Hepzibah

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Thank you for your kind words passing. I feel the lord with me. Two amazing things happened this week to show it. I have been on a retreat and when l got home and was getting ready for bed, found my eye mask missing which l need to prevent corneal erosion s. I searched but it looked like l had left it in my room on the retreat so l prayed and lo and behold it was in front of me. Next was when l saw a moth in my apartment which l knew had come in my clothes from the retreat room as there was a moth infestation in it. I tried to find it as it disappeared and was dismayed at the thought of getting loads of moth eggs amongst my clothes. I prayed and again, there was the moth on my window so l could destroy it. The lord is so good.
 
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Hepzibah said:
Thank you for your kind words passing. I feel the lord with me. Two amazing things happened this week to show it. I have been on a retreat and when l got home and was getting ready for bed, found my eye mask missing which l need to prevent corneal erosion s. I searched but it looked like l had left it in my room on the retreat so l prayed and lo and behold it was in front of me. Next was when l saw a moth in my apartment which l knew had come in my clothes from the retreat room as there was a moth infestation in it. I tried to find it as it disappeared and was dismayed at the thought of getting loads of moth eggs amongst my clothes. I prayed and again, there was the moth on my window so l could destroy it. The lord is so good.
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Amen, awesome :)
 
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Hugs. Anything I say will not be enough. I'll pray for u n him.
 
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MadParrotWoman said:
Hepzibah said:
He died last year aged 23 from a drug overdose but l just found out today. His father who was divorced from my daughter, brought my grandson up, having moved away from the area. I have not seen him for about 17 years but sent him presents and cards till he was 15 which were never acknowledged. Then 6 years ago he sent me an email to say that his sister had told him that l said in an email to her that his father was not his real father. She had photo shopped it and it was a lie. He said he did not want me in his life even though he found out what she had done and that was the last l heard from him though l lived in hope that he would write one day. My daughter is borderline and has turned the family against me including her ex and my grandson. It is because of her drug taking that she messed her brain up and blamed me for everything. Its a mess please pray for us. I have spent today alone with no one to share it with.
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God knows the truth, rest easy in the knowledge of that. Sounds like you are best out of it to be honest. You did the best you could under difficult circumstances, now it's time to move on. sometimes I think church family can be more loyal especially in circumstances such as yours.

I will pray that God gives you comfort in this valley you find yourself in and that He will shower you in blessings. :)
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Yes, you are better off not being involved with a borderline personality. . .they can be dangerous.
 
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Hepzibah said:
Thank you for your kind words passing. I feel the lord with me. Two amazing things happened this week to show it. I have been on a retreat and when l got home and was getting ready for bed, found my eye mask missing which l need to prevent corneal erosion s. I searched but it looked like l had left it in my room on the retreat so l prayed and lo and behold it was in front of me. Next was when l saw a moth in my apartment which l knew had come in my clothes from the retreat room as there was a moth infestation in it. I tried to find it as it disappeared and was dismayed at the thought of getting loads of moth eggs amongst my clothes. I prayed and again, there was the moth on my window so l could destroy it. The lord is so good.
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He is so good to assure us in the ways we can see that he is caring for us and is with us, even in the smallest details.

My prayer is with you now.
 
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Revelation 21:1-5) 21 And I saw a new heaven and a new earth; for the former heaven and the former earth had passed away, and the sea is no more. 2 I also saw the holy city, New Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God and prepared as a bride adorned for her husband. 3 With that I heard a loud voice from the throne say: “Look! The tent of God is with mankind, and he will reside with them, and they will be his people. And God himself will be with them. 4 And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away.” 5 And the One seated on the throne said: “Look! I am making all things new.” Also he says: “Write, for these words are faithful and true.”


Soon, the promises of God will all come true. When the tent of God is with mankind all things will be made new! Our dead loved-ones will live again. Jesus promised that all those in their memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out. (John 5:28-29) (John 11: 38-44) In the meantime may the peace of God that excels all thought keep and comfort you.


(Philippians 4:6, 7) 6 Do not be anxious over anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication along with thanksgiving let YOUR petitions be made known to God; 7 and the peace of God that excels all thought will guard YOUR hearts and YOUR mental powers by means of Christ Jesus.
 
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I'm so sorry to hear of your loss...I just want to encourage you in the Lord, as this will be a time of grieving, walking in the valley with the Lord. Just know that even in our deepest pain of loss, the Lord will be there to comfort you. We never walk alone, and all the brokenness is what the Lord can redeem. I cant even imagine the pain you must be feeling, as you have truly put your heart & soul into reaching out to your grandson all these years, just to have everything come to an end. In the mist of chaos in our lives, all the Lord ask of us is to bring all the pieces of our broken lives to the foot of the cross daily. Abide in Jesus daily & let His word fill you & cover you in strength. Jesus knows how to redeem & heal and restore families. He ask that we simply Trust Him one day at a time. Let His Love comfort you & cover you with His peace...
 
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Thank you guys. The lord has wrapped me up in a blanket and has eased my pain. No-one in the family has offered me any words of comfort or indeed thought about me at all. Most of them are taking drugs - my daughter, my grandaughter, my two nieces and as far as I know, some or all of 5 adult children, my daughters ex and their son who is dead, my other two sons were on heroin then on to methadone (not sure now as they don't contact me much) and their father is an alcoholic. My eldest son suicided 10 years ago.

Drugs are how people deal with pain where I come from. I have never done it as I have been with the lord the last 42 years and am the only Christian.

Elin thanks. Yes, I broke contact a few years ago as she was leaving death threats on my answer phone. She rebelled when her two brothers were born to my second marriage (my first ex proved to be a gambler and ended up inside due to burglary) and she was getting much less attention due to me being very ill at that time (I have ME). She demanded to go into care as her friend in care was getting loads of money and things, then went through 6 foster carers and then ran off and was living on the streets as a prostitute.

She and I and my grandaughter are back in contact now.

I think that perhaps her ex's family did not tell her as they probably blame her for their son getting into drugs and then his son. We don't know the full story but my grandaughter and daughter are full of hatred towards them.

There has been some healing going on so far and my grandaughter in particular is witnessing how much different I am though she is very anti Christian (but less so as we have been writing on Facebook). The lord has given me a great love for my family despite the way they have treated me in the past, and I long for His salvation for them. Please continue to pray for them. Thanks.
 
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Lord bless this matter , and every soul related with this, bless Lord, in Jesus name, AMen!
 
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Hepzibah said:
Thank you guys. The lord has wrapped me up in a blanket and has eased my pain. No-one in the family has offered me any words of comfort or indeed thought about me at all. Most of them are taking drugs - my daughter, my grandaughter, my two nieces and as far as I know, some or all of 5 adult children, my daughters ex and their son who is dead, my other two sons were on heroin then on to methadone (not sure now as they don't contact me much) and their father is an alcoholic. My eldest son suicided 10 years ago.

Drugs are how people deal with pain where I come from. I have never done it as I have been with the lord the last 42 years and am the only Christian.

Elin thanks. Yes, I broke contact a few years ago as she was leaving death threats on my answer phone. She rebelled when her two brothers were born to my second marriage (my first ex proved to be a gambler and ended up inside due to burglary) and she was getting much less attention due to me being very ill at that time (I have ME). She demanded to go into care as her friend in care was getting loads of money and things, then went through 6 foster carers and then ran off and was living on the streets as a prostitute.

She and I and my grandaughter are back in contact now.

I think that perhaps her ex's family did not tell her as they probably blame her for their son getting into drugs and then his son. We don't know the full story but my grandaughter and daughter are full of hatred towards them.

There has been some healing going on so far and my grandaughter in particular is witnessing how much different I am though she is very anti Christian (but less so as we have been writing on Facebook). The lord has given me a great love for my family despite the way they have treated me in the past, and I long for His salvation for them. Please continue to pray for them. Thanks.
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I could feel the strength and peace of our Lord Jesus Christ, from this post. It is his tender loving hands of our good shepherd that lead you here, as Psalm 23 says, The Lord is our Shepherd. We know from the words of our Lord, that the world is in darkness, and they don't see where they are going for the enemy of their soul has blinded them from the light of our savior, into the darkness. May our Father, who loves us with a deep love, draw you close. You are loved. God bless you.
 
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