My husband is refusing to eat or drink today

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happyface

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I didn't want to put it on Facebook and I feel so scared that my husband had given up. He's angry and hasn't eaten all day, I scared to tell his son, because my husband can get nasty and I have to deal with it. He's just refusing drink food etc, I'm powerless to help him. No matter how I pray there isn't a time I feel comfortable near him. I feel he needs Jesus. It's hurting me I don't know how he just carries on. I'm scared that I don't know what to do. I'm feeling he's not going to be the same person. Everyday I stick by my husband, but I'm beginning to feel like I am not enough for him. This stress between us and his attitude is breaking me down. Sometimes I wish that life was really simple. I need a hug of God.
 

blue_ladybug

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Here's a hug from me... :)

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I didn't want to put it on Facebook and I feel so scared that my husband had given up. He's angry and hasn't eaten all day, I scared to tell his son, because my husband can get nasty and I have to deal with it. He's just refusing drink food etc, I'm powerless to help him. No matter how I pray there isn't a time I feel comfortable near him. I feel he needs Jesus. It's hurting me I don't know how he just carries on. I'm scared that I don't know what to do. I'm feeling he's not going to be the same person. Everyday I stick by my husband, but I'm beginning to feel like I am not enough for him. This stress between us and his attitude is breaking me down. Sometimes I wish that life was really simple. I need a hug of God.
 

happyface

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He seems so cold with me I know. It's hard to deal with. It's like everything is to much for him. He says he cannot eat due to his condition.
 
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Ever considered just talking plainly with him?

Such as: "OK, you are going on a mission to die. That's fine... we all have to die someday. But, can I ask if you know what will likely happen a split-second after you finally starve yourself to death, and stop breathing?"

Or something along those lines.
 

blue_ladybug

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It probably IS way too much for him. He pees all the time, can't/won't eat or drink, has end-stage cancer, has stomach problems and is trying to take on too many things at once.. This is his way of trying to keep control of how and when he dies. Just take comfort in the fact that when it is time for him to go, that Jesus Himself will come and take Rod and escort him into God's kingdom. :)


He seems so cold with me I know. It's hard to deal with. It's like everything is to much for him. He says he cannot eat due to his condition.
 

levi85

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Lord help Rod to eat and drink, let you calm his anger and bless with a good health. Let there be peace in the family. Lord we agree with this prayer, please bless. In Jesus Holy name, Amen!
 

happyface

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Today my husband has pain in his side, he is so determined not to go to hospital, I suspect it could be appendix maybe, but who knows with Rod. There's so many things wrong. He annoys me because he thinks I'm fine, no I am not. Another day of seeing what he wants. Yes I guess christ died for us. Even in early this morning Rod was shouting because I couldn't hear I didn't have my hearing aids in. He's so Inpatient at times, I hate talking about my own problems, but I just wish I had a good friend to go out with, I cry alot due to my disability and illness. One thing I know Rod hasn't been right for a long time, he will say so what if it is appendix they won't do anything. It's so sad living this way with sadness. Yes I keep saying Jesus died for our sins, life wasn't meant to be easy.
 
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Hi, I'm here , I can hear you. I know how tough it is, but we should get through it. If you need to talk, I will send you a private message later. I don't know if I can help, but I'd like to try.
 

happyface

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Hi, I'm here , I can hear you. I know how tough it is, but we should get through it. If you need to talk, I will send you a private message later. I don't know if I can help, but I'd like to try.
Thank you Virginia, what a beautiful name you have. I find myself abit worked up at times, I may well talk in a pm, xx
 

sheba001

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hi happy face..i hear your pain and hard it is for you. Abba hears it too.he knows how hard it is he knows what your going though more than any of us could he hears all your thoughts he made you and he loves you.. so i pray that you would have his peace that passers all understand.that you would feel abba hugging you,you would know that he there and he holding you,what comes to my mind is the footprints poem.. and i pray for your husband too that his heart would be soften and his eyes would be open to hear the gospel. that you would send people to speak to him ,but lord we can asked that you prepare his heard so it would go on goos soil and we pray about the fear he feels that you would take it away and touch him with your love in jesus name amen x