Not Sure what to do

Hi,
My boyfriend just stop talking to me out of no where. I asked him whats going on with him and he just says, " I'm struggling with life, job, missing his home, money etc". I feel this is not a good reason to just stop speaking to your girlfriend, its so heart breaking, how could he not feel what he's doing to my feelings. Its been about 2.5 months and no phone call from him. only texting which I dislike. I made the decision not to contact him and keep to myself and the other day he texts me and asks ,,,,, " Am I there?",,,, ……. I don understand him at all and why he would choose to treat me like that. I have been crying everyday for the past two months, its so hurtful to know he would do that to me.


Please please, I need advice and prayer

Thank You
Dee

Well, no one knows why except him.

But i can say this is a sign of what you can expect from him in the future. If you were to marry, he may be the type to shut down and pull away. So when there are problems he goes through, or even in your marriage, this may be how he deals with things in the future.
This is a serious red flag as it shows an inability for him to communicate. And communication is a major, major key in relationships and marriage. I know it isn't what you want to hear, but his may be a good thing. Because you are learning this about him now, rather than being engaged or married. This, to me, is a major warning of what you can expect more of from him in the future. Is this something you are prepared to go through over and over as your relationship progresses? If not it may be time to consider moving on.

Proverbs 3:5-6

There are guys out there that are physical abusers, others mental abusers and lastly emotional abusers...why girls are attracted to these types have baffled me since I was a young teen.
Will pray for God's wisdom for you.

Hey Dee, we're very sorry to hear what your boyfriend did. It doesn't sound very loving or responsible of him to drop off the face of the planet like that (figuratively speaking). In fact, it sounds like he himself is pretty hurt and probably not strong enough to be the kind of boyfriend that he needs to be to you. This might be why he stopped talking to you.

Have you talked to Jesus about this? What do you think the Bible says about what you should do?

Dee, God is with you.
One of the hardest things anyone does in this life, is have a relationship. I know. It's taken me along time, a hard road, and many failed relationships to realize this. Finally, God gave me a (Gibb's) slap in the back of my head and got my attention. I realized, 'Hey, this is one of the hardest things in life anyone can do. If I'm relying on God to provide and guide me in life's other hard things, why am I not involving God in this!' I had blamed myself for not being able to work through my relationships. No wonder they were failing, I was failing, I was trying to do it alone. I wasn't in a relationship at the time of this epiphany. So I said, 'Okay. Alright. You got this.' And I put my trust in Him. Almost three years later (when I was ready and she was ready), God brought us together. It was hard and lonely a lot of times, but I waited. I never believed in the whole soul-mate thing until then. Now I do. Now I know.
Dee, try to let God take the lead. Trust Him.

Father God, thank You for Your wonderful gifts -- Your grace, Your love, Your Son.
We ask that You have Your guiding and healing hand in both Dee and her boyfriend's lives. Let Dee know You are present and active in her life.
In Jesus name, our Lord and Savior.
Amen.

Dee the fact that the guys here commented first and foremost and they all suggest mostly the same.. I'd listen to them. They have been on the opposite side of the fence, so from this side of the girly fence. 2 or 3 days - after that I'd send him a Dear John letter. Yes it is probably difficult. You know I was about 22 or so when I fell in love with this guy in our church, it was such a good match even the congregation commended us that we "finally" hooked up. After 4 months of him telling me what to wear and how to conduct myself and what not to do and say - completely suppressing who I really was, Christmas arrived. He arrived the night before Christmas and gave me my gift, stayed for about 20 minutes - then made the excuse that he had to take his sister and her Boyfriend to a party outside of town. By the morning I was beside myself but my eyes were opened.

I picked up the phone, called him and simply said "It's clear our relationship wasn't going anywhere, so I'm gonna call it a day" his response "Okay, if that's what you want?"

After a year of sulking and I PROMISE it was a year, hating anything that had an adams apple I realised by God's grace, that Richard was pushing me away, so that by getting me to break up first, I could be seen as the the antagonist in our "love story" The one who gave up on us. It was a bitter pill to swallow - but in the long run I learned a very valuable lesson.

If your boyfriend was serious about you, he would not avoid you for 2.5 months. Move on lady.

You're in my prayers.

Hi Dee, if he's struggling with life and a few other things, maybe he needs some counselling. That may not help your relationship, but it's a start.

Hi Dee, I think there is a lot of good advice here.

As a man, I sense that he might turn out to be abusive. Probably not physically, but emotionally abusive and controlling. Something is not right with him.

There are really decent men out there, but as long as you are waiting for this guy, you will miss the good guy.

It is hard to do, and you probably need a bit of time without any boyfriend idea in your head, before you have him out of your system. But I think you should let him go.

Trust God to let the right man cross your path at the right time.

thank you everyone

Hugs Dee, you and your boyfriend are in my prayers in Jesus's name.

God bless
pickles