Not worth fighting for

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Jordache

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After tonight i'm pretty sure i'm looking into a future divorced from my husband and disowned by my father, 3 siblings, my entire stepfamily, and 8 nieces and nephews, not considering the other sibling who are just going to be angry. I feel really broken which the Lord must be strong.
I just dont understand why with my husband and my father i not worth fighting for. Theyre needs are always more important. I feel like i'm not worth anyone fighting for me.
 
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shekaniah

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Jordache...maybe God wants you to draw to Him right now...when I feel like my love ones here are far away...I draw nearer to God.
It always blesses me with love from others...I think that is how God shows His love.
You are in my prayers....
 
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NMsmile

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Jesus you made the ultimate sacrifice for our sister. Father God make you love for Jordache real and apparent to her. Show her that your love isn't conditional. Holy Father only you can heal the broken heart of my sister. Lord please comfort her. Bring her to the place where you can restore, heal and use her for your kingdom. Please send mature godly Believers to her to give her godly advice and support. Jesus I don't know what is going on in her family's mind but Jesus you know that Jordache is hurting and needs you. Amen.
 
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Avidan

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Standing in prayer for this too. In Jesus Name, Amen.
 
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Ugly

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Jesus fought for you, to the death.
I don't know the whole situation, but just keep in mind, they are the ones with the problems, you're the normal one. But sometimes, when you end up surrounded by people with problems that afflict you, its hard to see that.
And its especially hard when the people who are supposed to support us and fight for us are too screwed up to be to you who they need it. Just stay strong. Don't let their blindness and issues cause you to think any less of yourself. You are worth fighting for.
 

pickles

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You are worth fighting for, Jesus took the cross for you .
Huge hugs and praying.

God bless
pickles
 

shemaiah

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Well you may fill as if you are not worth fighting for by humans, but Jesus did fight for you, and gave up everything for you. And He is and will always be there for you. God bless
 
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shi

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Isaiah 43:When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee: when thou walkest through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee. 3For I am the LORD thy God, the Holy One of Israel,be strong God will fight for you.
 
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woodl

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After tonight i'm pretty sure i'm looking into a future divorced from my husband and disowned by my father, 3 siblings, my entire stepfamily, and 8 nieces and nephews, not considering the other sibling who are just going to be angry. I feel really broken which the Lord must be strong.
I just dont understand why with my husband and my father i not worth fighting for. Theyre needs are always more important. I feel like i'm not worth anyone fighting for me.
Jordache, you are somebody and you are worth fighting for. You have royal blood flowing through your veins. You're on the winning side, but don't give up on your family. Pray for them and always try to win them over. May the Lord be with you and shelter you all the days of your life.
 
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AnandaHya

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After tonight i'm pretty sure i'm looking into a future divorced from my husband and disowned by my father, 3 siblings, my entire stepfamily, and 8 nieces and nephews, not considering the other sibling who are just going to be angry. I feel really broken which the Lord must be strong.
I just dont understand why with my husband and my father i not worth fighting for. Theyre needs are always more important. I feel like i'm not worth anyone fighting for me.
though the world may reject you. Remember God thought YOU were someone worthy dying for.

I'm sorry that you are going through this rough time. Lean on God for strength and if you need someone to talk to you can always message me.

God bless. We'll keep you in our prayers.

[video]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AmCTpiprQxg[/video]
 
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Jordache

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It's not that I don't know the truth. I know that I am worth fighting for, but that's what makes it hurt so much. *I just don't understand how I could commit myself to a lifetime with someone and find that He's not willing to sacrifice anything for me or that he's not willing to struggle for me. 8 years of my life meant nothing to him. All the sacrifices I made for him, all the times I overlooked what he did or didn't do, all the grace I gave him, all the times I chose to love him even though he made me feel worthless, and I'm still disposable to him.

*I just don't understand how a father could look for sexual satisfaction in his infant daughter. I don't understand why I wasn't worth it to him to fight his perversions. I reached out so many times to him for even an ounce of encouragement, and he couldn't deliver.

It's not that I truly believe these about myself usually, but it's the fact that I know they aren't really true (but that the most important men in my life believed they were) that hurts so much.
 
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AnandaHya

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It is not love to allow yourself to be abused.

It is not grace to overlook sin for God rebukes and chastens those He loves and we should do the same.

God did not intend for us to allow people to continue to sin against us and those around us and themselves by hurting the ones He loves and we love.

It is not love to allow others to hurt us but a gross injustice to yourself and to them.

Do you not know that they will be punished for their sins?

Yes you forgive them but you are duty bound to also prevent the abuse because when you allow them to abuse you, you allow them an occasion to sin and bring a worst punishment from God upon themselves.

IF you would be merciful you would hold them accountable and pray that God brings them to godly sorrow and repentance, but while you wait and pray and allow God to work in their lives and hearts you should avoid them and do not give them opportunity to misuse you and sin farther.

don't go back to them and ask to be hurt again. Go to the Lord in prayer and allow Him to heal you of your physical and spiritual wounds.

I suggest finding a local support group or caring pastor or pastor's wife to talk to and help you heal.

it may hurt to think that those you love do not love you back,

but love them enough to say No when they would sin against you or God by abusing one of His children.

May God bless and keep you.
 
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Jordache

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I am under many people who care. My pastors have taken me in. I've stayed at both of their houses. When my husband was being hostile and still lived at home, I stayed with one. After being raped at 17, I stayed with the other. They've both invited me to spend the holidays with them. I have a counselor, and I speak on a regular basis with a few other people. I am very open with them. I have a support system. I have people who love me, and fight for me... and pastors who have even told me they would protect me and fight for me. I am not alone. I'm just suffering in pain. and I'm tired of pain. I'm tired of hurting. I'm tired of crying. I'm tired. I'm doing my best not to avoid it, but it's not that easy to keep yourself in the fire when you know you could easily run right out of it. I know it's good for me, but that doesn't mean i have to like it.
A while back a man cut off his leg with a pocket knife because a tree fell on it. Just imagine what it must have taken for him to force himself to stay in that pain (cut off his leg) in order to come out alive.
 
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jimsun

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Dear Jordache;

You ARE worth fighting for! Whilst I pray & wish you everything you wish yourself, I feel that your God is presenting you with this immense blank canvass upon which you can create a bright, wonderful & cherished future with Him.
 
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AnandaHya

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I'm glad you are blessed with people who care and are willing to protect and fight for you.

There is not really much I can say.

perhaps a song?

[video]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=98nG3xH02wo&feature=related[/video]
 
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james86

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Jordache,

I'm very sorry to hear about your situation but I don't see why they would disown you when you didn't do wrong? I'll pray for comfort and strength and that our Lord above will help you through this time. Hang in there sister and keep the faith strong :)

God Bless,

James