Please pray - feeling resentful and angry

This is my first comment...please bear with me

I am having a hard time coming to terms with ending my 2 year long relationship with my boyfriend. I was pushed into doing it by my family and my church, although ultimately of course it was my own decision. He came to the Lord during the relationship and we spoke about things a lot together, which was good for me, as I am not good at discussing things. Please pray for me that I will stop resenting my - otherwise great - church, and that I can feel like the right decision has been made. My relationship with God has been strong throughout, perhaps more than before, but I am feeling angry and resentful with everything and everyone just now. Unfortunately this is knocking on to my uni work etc.
I appreciate any prayers, and hope that speaking with fellow Christians will help me get past this

Thank you, M

Mink,

Welcome to Christian Chat!
This is a great place for fellowship!
Pray for wisdom and peace...don't let other people move you to do what they want.
In all your ways acknowledge Jesus! And He will set your path strait.

You sound like you are trying to be led by the spirit of Christ!
Stay on that path! God will clear it up for you.

I will pray for you too!
Love in Jesus, Shekaniah

Lord give her peace in her heart and restore to her your joy
in Jesus name amen

Welcome to the site, and wow... that must hurt . I hope things get better, Sis.

You mentioned that you feel like you were pushed into breaking up, which makes me wonder if there's ...well, basically I'm praying that Jesus will show you if the right decision was made or not, rather than praying that He gives you peace that the right decision was made. How about this: I'll pray that His will will be done in your life, and that He will show you what He wants you to change about your life. One hint: if the peace wasn't there in the relationship, it wasn't right to continue it, at least not like it was in its current state.

There's safety in a multitude of counselors, for sure (as the Bible says ), but sometimes people try to push others into doing things that aren't God's will. Not that that's the case here necessarily, but if you'd like to share more details, you may find it to be helpful, even if you only write them down for yourself and don't post them here. I don't want you to feel like you're gossiping about your ex or anything like that . Oh, and feel free to send me a private message if you'd like.

Thank you for your responses!

Shekaniah - thank you, I genuinely am trying to live my life led by the Spirit, but often feel confused about understanding what my will is, and what His is! but your message has helped me to see that it will be through remaining close to God during this difficult time, that I will be able to understand the way God's mind is working, do you think? I suppose that the closer we are to Him, the more we see the way He has in mind for us? So perhaps that is the key thing for me at the moment..

Jilly - thanks, the situation is ridiculously complicated and always has been! I suppose your alternative prayer is more appropriate! I think though that deep down I know my decision is the right one for both of us, but it is just hard to see it that way, given that breaking up is not what either of us wanted. For one thing, I do think he will benefit from moving on in his faith without me always there to give my input - I also feel that I have to make a decision about whether my church is the place I want to go stiil - a decision which should be made independent of a 3rd party I think..
I have always been happy there before this whole incident! A lot of things went down which upset me, and I think I need to decide whether it is the best place for me, which I think I can only do if I take away personal feelings as much as possible. Because I suppose ultimately it is what is for God that matters?

As I said above, I struggle to see what God's will is, and what is my own - particularly hard in this situation! But I guess staying close to Jesus is the answer.
Thank you all for your prayers! and guidance too.

Oh, you're most welcome, Sis ! Yes, I know it's sometimes very hard to surrender our own will, but when you keep in mind that you're surrendering to the One who loves you more than anyone else does or even CAN ... He absolutely adores you and wants you to have a great life, even if it's totally different from the one you'd planned.

When trying to find God's will, it really helps a lot to ask Jesus to fill you with the power of the Holy Spirit, in fact I'd do that before anything else if you haven't already. Then maybe take a day by yourself seeking Him. Perhaps fast for the day or a partial day; it REALLY helps to do things fervently. He appreciates it when we let Him know that we mean business .

Mink, my heart and prayers are with you in Jesus, for I know how hard it was to make this descision.
I had to make this descision many years ago myself, and it was not an easy one to make.
Knowing Gods will is not always easy, but God will honor your faith.
He did with me, as I later married my best friend, and we are now 31 years happily married.
Each time you begin to feel resentful, remind yourself that this was done because of your love for God and His love for you.

Welcome to CC!

Huge hugs and God bless
pickles

well why are you letting others make your decisions for you? Are you not free to make your own decisions? Sounds like you love this guy and maybe should fight for that love? Why is your church telling you to end this relationship and since when does a church get involved in someones personal relationships?

Hi! thank you for all your messages and prayers. It is great to talk to people who know what I am talking about

Pickles - thanks so much that is soo good to hear! Really encouraging. I suppose a lot of people go through these kind of things, and you have proved that God does not just leave us hanging but provides in a way we maybe don't see at the time! It is very hard at the moment, but I suppose that God has something in mind ...I do feel like my interest in God's things has gotten greater over this whole scenario so maybe even that is a starting place...

Ellie - again, thanks for sharing your own experience, it is so helpful...I do know the hard part will pass, I think I am maybe just impatient for it! And feeling ao resentful all the time is getting me down. In the past when I have felt like this I have felt negatively I have always at least wanted to get out of it! Whereas I feel like I am clinging onto my bitterness, even though I know it is wrong. So I shall pray as you say, ,and hopefully that headblock will be cleared...I am just worried my own natural stubbornness is so strong just now!

Stephen - that is fantastic to hear your story - it sounds so similar to my own, except the ending. I am still obviously praying about it - to be shown what the right things is. But I feel like I need to be completely assured of what God's will is, whether or not I am meant to be with this guy, because I would never like to hurt him by chopping and changing my mind, unless completley sure. I am sure if it is God's will, He will use this time to consolidate our faith or something. It is hard to know when you should follow the advice of friends and family and when not to? I admire your strength!

And finally Bekah - I don't know! I am honestly having so many thoughts about it all...I feel like a line has been overstepped there too! It is just very difficult as I have gone there for so long, and in some ways respect them so much - but now have ended up feeling this way.. I feel like I can make decisions to a certain extent but if I do something not accepted, then people think it is their place to step in. I don't really know what I think about that.. I do feel like I need to figure out if it is the right place for me now...another decision to be made :S

thanks all! so helpful. prayers and advice so much appreciated Mx