I asked for prayer for another issue of meeting my girlfriend, but right now that plan is canceled. I'm in a long distance relationship for a while now with her, and we haven't met yet. I love her like crazy, but now I don't feel like she feels the same. She isn't the same person either that I've always known and love. This year feels like it's been a downward spiral for her, but she doesn't seem to feel like it has. She's in college now in her senior year. She had intercourse with another guy back in March, but she said she hadn't enjoyed it at all. Ever since then it feels like she's been pulling herself away from me. She has started drinking a lot recently, and I've gotten on to her about it and she's HIGHLY defensive about it. She doesn't see the sin in it at all. Also she's been hanging out with the wrong crowd, and she has gay friends so she has been more accepting of them. I'm not sure exactly, but she's become more accepting of the gay lifestyle which just isn't right as a christian. She keeps on trying to break up with me, but she has no real reason for it other than she wants the physical stuff and that she isn't happy. I've been looking through all my texts and conversations with her, and it just looks all the same to me. She just hardly says anything to me anymore, and tries to ignore me every second of the day. Just to say about myself, I haven't wronged her in anyway. I've forgiven her, and tried to move past it but she still seems to be fixated on the physicality. She seems like a completely different person now, and she has told me she wasn't going to say "no" anymore to the next person who asks her out. It feels dirty of me to say all of her sins to the world, but I really think she needs help. I highly believe the devil has gotten in and hijacked her life. He has been making her long more and more for the physical part of a relationship ever since the incident. She keeps getting into a downward spiral of sin, and can't get out. She hasn't realized it either. Please just help pray for her, and that she can get out of this mess.
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Hey crossfusion,
I can feel what you're going through. It must be tough.
I'm in a long distance relationship too. And, it is hard because a lot of obstacles have come in our way.
We haven't given up yet, and we're stronger together than ever before. Especially after all the struggles we have gone through together. And, that has just made our love for each other stronger.
I will keep you and your relationship in prayer, bro.
Stay strong and use this time to get closer with God and build your relationship with God. Sometimes, in pursuing our earthly relationships, we forget to pay attention to the relationship we share with our Heavenly Father. The more time we spend with Him, the closer we get to Him. And, when we focus on God, He will focus on dealing with our problems for us.
So, don't worry. Just continue praying, and you will see God opening doors for you. Sometimes, in order to open the good doors, He may have to close other ones. So, don't lose heart. He has the best plans in store for you.
Sometimes, God first expects us to give up something into His hands, before He can give us something better. If we are still holding onto something, our hands wouldn't be free to receive what He wants to give us. And, believe me, you would need both your arms to hold what God gives you, because when He blesses, gosh, He blesses abundantly! A good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over!
You are loved. Stay blessed!
I can feel what you're going through. It must be tough.
I'm in a long distance relationship too. And, it is hard because a lot of obstacles have come in our way.
We haven't given up yet, and we're stronger together than ever before. Especially after all the struggles we have gone through together. And, that has just made our love for each other stronger.
I will keep you and your relationship in prayer, bro.
Stay strong and use this time to get closer with God and build your relationship with God. Sometimes, in pursuing our earthly relationships, we forget to pay attention to the relationship we share with our Heavenly Father. The more time we spend with Him, the closer we get to Him. And, when we focus on God, He will focus on dealing with our problems for us.
So, don't worry. Just continue praying, and you will see God opening doors for you. Sometimes, in order to open the good doors, He may have to close other ones. So, don't lose heart. He has the best plans in store for you.
Sometimes, God first expects us to give up something into His hands, before He can give us something better. If we are still holding onto something, our hands wouldn't be free to receive what He wants to give us. And, believe me, you would need both your arms to hold what God gives you, because when He blesses, gosh, He blesses abundantly! A good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over!
You are loved. Stay blessed!
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Father God, please help crossfusion to let go of this woman's life and hand her over to You. Help him to realize You love her and are able to keep her from the world in Your perfect will, Your perfect way, Your perfect timing. Let nothing or nobody come between You and crossfusion's relationship. May he draw close to You and trust You for all his needs. Let him rest in You without doubting. We are not to control other people's lives. You have given each of us free will to live and move and have our being in You. Let brother crossfusion give this woman the freedom to come to you, let him not hinder her by making demands on her and using guilt and shame. We pray Your perfect will in his life and your perfect will in her life. In the name of Christ Jesus we pray and thank You.
Peace, be still.
Peace, be still.
I'm not trying to control her life. I'm not trying to guilt or shame her, you misunderstood what I'm needing. She has fallen short of the glory of God, and she needs to see the love of God again. I'm not trying to condemn her on these forums, but I believe she needs outside help through prayer. She has been having rough times in college while being away from me, and the devil has taken advantage of her weakness. I know God gave me her. I've known it in my heart for all this time I've known her. We were meant to be, and I just need Satan's grip on her to loosen from her. I thought this was a safe place to not be judged from people, and I know that she just needs prayer. Please just pray for her.
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your in a psychological relationship, meaning in spirit you love her, you have yet to meet her in that aspect, love can only grow once you get to the next phase of life
this is a common issue I have seen multiple times where you say "I don't think she feels the same" that is insecurity, insecurity is one of the major causes to ruining a relationship, think of it in this sense, a teter toter and you on one side and her on one side, your are both weights, your insecurity is weighing her down, let go of the insecurity and you both meet in the middle "counter balance" another thing is that she could be drifting away and this process has to do a lot with the ability to live and let GOD, the strength you must protrude is that either way if it is meant to be it will be, but you can never be broken because GOD is your stronghold in your life, in other words do not be so attached its only pushing her away, let her come to you, and vise versa, release you grip on her trust in GOD and things will work out in your life, remember you are always proving yourself to GOD, strength training
Let it all out, your soul deserves to be free
this is a common issue I have seen multiple times where you say "I don't think she feels the same" that is insecurity, insecurity is one of the major causes to ruining a relationship, think of it in this sense, a teter toter and you on one side and her on one side, your are both weights, your insecurity is weighing her down, let go of the insecurity and you both meet in the middle "counter balance" another thing is that she could be drifting away and this process has to do a lot with the ability to live and let GOD, the strength you must protrude is that either way if it is meant to be it will be, but you can never be broken because GOD is your stronghold in your life, in other words do not be so attached its only pushing her away, let her come to you, and vise versa, release you grip on her trust in GOD and things will work out in your life, remember you are always proving yourself to GOD, strength training
Let it all out, your soul deserves to be free
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Dearest Brother Crossfusion, from your own words this woman is resisting you because you've gotten on to her about it and she's become HIGHLY defensive. You also said she keeps on trying to break up and that she isn't happy nor is she the same person. She even informed you that she wasn't going to say "no" anymore to the next person who asks her out.
She is clearly telling you she doesn't want you to control her life.
But I totally agree with you that she needs for us to pray for her and I did pray for her earlier today and will continue to do so. And I pray for you as well and hope you meditate with the Lord and hear His voice in these matters. Blessings of love and grace to you, brother!!
She is clearly telling you she doesn't want you to control her life.
But I totally agree with you that she needs for us to pray for her and I did pray for her earlier today and will continue to do so. And I pray for you as well and hope you meditate with the Lord and hear His voice in these matters. Blessings of love and grace to you, brother!!
Lord Jesus, you are the light of the world, let you shine, so that crossfusion, and his girlfriend see everything in your presence, please help them in sorting out all this problems, and let them, love you with their whole, heart, strength, and knowledge, Thank you Lord Jesus, for your grace upon them, Amen
I haven't seen your other posts, but let me see if I have this right... you're in a long distance relationship "for a while" with a woman you've never met. You believe God 'gave' her to you, but you need satan to step aside to fulfill yo - I mean God's plan. You want us all to just pray for her, but not to lend opinion or advice.
Well, certainly; in Jesus Name I pray for you both, and say 'Ephphatha!" (Mark 7:34), that you both may be opened to the true will of God in your lives. Holy Spirit gift them both with what they need to move on, in whatever direction You lead them. And may they be led by You, and not by the mind flesh or ego. And certainly not by satan who would confuse and confound the both of them. Lord may angels surround them, to bear them up and bring ministry, and to occupy the enemy that has come to confuse and confound. Lord may they both clear their minds and focus on You, and let You worry about how what You plan comes about. And may they partner with You, but let You lead. Father God two lives hang in the balance here - yet I know You have them both in heart before I even approach You on their behalf. I praise You that we are able, I thank You that You answer, and I lay these two before You in the Name of Your Son.
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Well, certainly; in Jesus Name I pray for you both, and say 'Ephphatha!" (Mark 7:34), that you both may be opened to the true will of God in your lives. Holy Spirit gift them both with what they need to move on, in whatever direction You lead them. And may they be led by You, and not by the mind flesh or ego. And certainly not by satan who would confuse and confound the both of them. Lord may angels surround them, to bear them up and bring ministry, and to occupy the enemy that has come to confuse and confound. Lord may they both clear their minds and focus on You, and let You worry about how what You plan comes about. And may they partner with You, but let You lead. Father God two lives hang in the balance here - yet I know You have them both in heart before I even approach You on their behalf. I praise You that we are able, I thank You that You answer, and I lay these two before You in the Name of Your Son.
Amen
God's will be done in both her and your life, His will, His beautiful plans, may they come to pass in the name of Jesus... may whatever seems best in God's eyes come quickly. May Jesus draw you both closer to Him. And the most I ask our Heavenly Father, may His Spirit comfort you and give you peace. amen.
Well, that depends on what you're asking to be prayed for. If people perceive that you're asking for prayer for something that's being done in sin I think they have a right not to pray and to interject their thoughts and concerns. (and I'm not saying that's what's going on here, I'm just saying in general). And it's funny in the Bible, that in some places it tells us not to judge but in other places we are told to be judges. Discernment is the key, as it is in so many things.
This reminds me of a woman who not too long ago requested prayer. She was married, met some guy online, became too attached, he broke it off, and she sought prayer for... well, I'm still not sure what it was she wanted. She was obsessed with this guy and either wanted him forced out of her mind, or to be reunited with him. She leaned more towards reunification. Which of course brought on a slew of responses pointing out how wrong that was. She took offense, got pissy with everyone. I think in the end what she wanted was everyone to shut up and just pray. which there's nothing wrong with, except when it involves questionable acts and motives.
You're right, one should not be judged for asking for prayer. And we all should honor that by praying. But if one's motives or desires are unclear, just be aware that the prayer you get may not be the one you were seeking. And also be aware that with this kind of media, even the best of motives may not come across as such. And that people with uncertainty as to those motives and desires may seek clarification (or give advice) before praying.
God bless you both in however this turns out.
This reminds me of a woman who not too long ago requested prayer. She was married, met some guy online, became too attached, he broke it off, and she sought prayer for... well, I'm still not sure what it was she wanted. She was obsessed with this guy and either wanted him forced out of her mind, or to be reunited with him. She leaned more towards reunification. Which of course brought on a slew of responses pointing out how wrong that was. She took offense, got pissy with everyone. I think in the end what she wanted was everyone to shut up and just pray. which there's nothing wrong with, except when it involves questionable acts and motives.
You're right, one should not be judged for asking for prayer. And we all should honor that by praying. But if one's motives or desires are unclear, just be aware that the prayer you get may not be the one you were seeking. And also be aware that with this kind of media, even the best of motives may not come across as such. And that people with uncertainty as to those motives and desires may seek clarification (or give advice) before praying.
God bless you both in however this turns out.