Prayer for a friends eating habits.

I would really appreaciate it if you guys and gals could pray for a friend of mine who has some very bad eating habits. She basically doesn't eat. She is in complete denial, and won't admit to it. It has effected our relationship as friends quite a bit. Basically she is the person that tells me EVERYTHING and vica versa, we made an agreement that lies were out of the picture. I have been senseing a lot of lies, and have caught her in some. I asked her what was wrong today, and she just said that she was hungry. I offered her some food, and even money to buy food from the cafe but she refused. I confronted her about her eating habits cause I already know that she doesn't eat at all throughout the day. She tells me that she eats breakfast and dinner though, it is very hard for me to believe lately as all of a sudden a bunch of lies have been popping up. I have noticed a weight decrease myself, and she is always wearing bigger sweaters now. She has always had a low self-esteem. But it is just getting worse. I honestly don't know what to do, I have never been in a position like this before. I have been praying for her but your prayers would be greatly appreciated. If any one had any advice as to what I should do, that would be wonderful as well, thank you. God Bless.

Cako, of course your friend is in my prayers. I know this may be difficult to do but you need to either let her parents or someone at school know what is going on. It sounds like she could be if not already have an eating disorder. It can get bad very fast and the sooner she gets help the better her chances of a cure. My kids had friends that had this and they had to tell in order to help them. Their friends were mad a first but later were greatful for their help. This is a dangerous disorder and the longer the person goes without help the more difficult it can be to overcome. I know it will be hard to say anything because you feel like you will be brealing a trust, but is your friend was standing in the path of a big bus you would yell at them or pull them to safety. This disorder is a big bus, so get her out of the way fast.
I will keep her in my prayers and you also.
God bless, pickles

Thank you for the prayers. I am sitting her down today again and talking with her about it. I honestly don't know how I would tell her parents. Some of her friends kinda joke around and say she is anorexic, but thay don't actually think she is. I might talk to one of her other friends about it. Her parents suspected she did over the summer cause she lost a fair amount of weight. At the time I thought that was a ridiculous statement, now I'm starting to wonder if they were right. She is at like 110 right now, I have no clue what the average is, but it seems like she just keeps losing more weight. I am just so stressed out right now, and have stopped doing my school work, which is stressing me out even more. Thank you for your prayers though. God bless.

Cako53, it won't do you any good to stress out about this. Please don't let this situation keep you from doing your school work because one problem, then, becomes two problems. I'll be praying for you and your friend, and I agree with Pickles. If you know your friend has an eating disorder, you should tell someone. Maybe you should start with telling your parents and they could help you decide what to do with the information you have. If that doesn't make any difference and you continue seeing the problem getting worse, talk to the school counselor or someone in her family. I understand the difficult situation you have been put in. I found myself in a similar situation when I was 15. It involved family molestation of a cousin of mine. I told my brother and my brother instructed me to tell my Dad. I did and nothing much was done about it. I didn't know that there were law officials I could turn to, and I later blamed myself that nothing was done about it. Don't do this. Don't blame yourself. Just be her friend as best as you can. Expect her to get mad at you at some point because she probably will. Don't take it personally. If she has an eating disorder and you continue being her friend, you'll probably get hurt at some point in time, but realize it for what it is. Understand that it has nothing to do with you at all. Awww, this is a lot to bear at your age. I'm so sorry. I'll be praying that God will help you and give you people around you to help you deal with this.

I'll be praying it does sound like she has an eating disorder, as was suggested I suggest you tell someone you know who can help, maybe a councilor or their parents? She may get mad at first but in the long run she will be grateful and see just how great of a friend you are. God bless

Cako, How did it go talking to her? I hope you are doing OK too. Remember to put her in Jesus's hands. He is good at caring for your friends and you.
She is lucky too have such a good friend.
Just wanted to see how all is going.
God bless, pickles

I'll definitely pray for your friend, Caleb. I'll also pray for you that God will continue to use you as a vessel to show her His love and care.

I will definitely pray for you and for your friend.
This might sound like i'm taking sides, im definitely not but maybe she just feels like she needs to lose a bit of weight. People tell me that I dont need to lose weight but I feel like I do and so thats why i don't eat during the day. Unless shes stick thin I don't think you should worry about her becoming anorexic or anything. As for the lies maybe people keep going on about it to her and maybe shes just sick of people arguing with her about what shes eating and she feels the only way out of it is to lie, i'm not suggesting its a good thing that she's lieing at all. But try and talk to her and ask her some questions about if she feels shes over weight etc.

Well, the talk didn't go the greatest. We ended up getting into a big fight, that turned into me trying to calm her down and apologize. She was just freaking out and the conversation ended their. She was having a get together tonight, and after this argument i assume she didn't want me there, so I sent her a message because it was too late to call, and I asked her if she still wanted me to come, and she was all apologetic and told me I had better be there. So I went, but there was a bunch of people there so obviously we didn't really get to talk. But we were watching a movie and it was a scary movie, and she just started to cry really quietly, so no one else really noticed. I tried talking to her about what was wrong than, but she just wouldn't talk. anyways, so I have no clue where she is at at this point. But her mom came up to me today when I was there, and obviously my friend had told her parents that I was worried because her mom was talking to me and agreeing that she was also worried about her eating habits. So I'm not alone on this one, me and her mom never really came to an answer of what we should do, but she said that she was deffinatly worried. So I am hoping to talk with my friend on monday some time, just kinda figure stuff out.

Sounds like things went pretty well. Ive been in confratations on this issue and it looks to me like she is wanting help. She did respond well to you even though it might not seem like it. Talk to her mom about getting her in counceling or even just her mom talking to their dr.. If eather of you try to fix her eating issues it would only be temporary. Her dr can tell her mom the best steps to take. She will need you just to be her friend, that is the most important thing you can do for her now. The good thing is now the eating issue is real and she and her mom will need to see a dr. about it.
All continues to be in my prayers.
You did a good work on this.
God bless, pickles

Thank you VERY much for your prayers and advice!