She is relentless

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Jordache

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My mother hurts me so much and I'm so tired of it. I truly believe that if she would actually commit to therapy, she could be diagnosed with Narcisistic Personality Disoder. My whole life has been emotional torture. There was a lot of physical violence when I was younger also. To give you an idea of the scope, my mom caught my father molesting my sister. However she chose to stay with him because in her words, she was desperate to have a daughter. Viola! Through some sneaky trickery by my mom I was born.
I asked her stopped talking to me a couple of weeks ago, but she refuses. Except now every communication is an attack. I know they're not true, but it still hurts.
 

pickles

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Hugs Jordache, Praying for you and for your mom as well in Jesus.

God bless
pickles
 
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shekaniah

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Stay strong and focused on Jesus...

1 Thess 5:23
23 May God himself, the God of peace, sanctify you through and through. May your whole spirit, soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.

I pray that your heart and mind be filled with the fruits of the spirit.
And that you will be covered in the peace that surpasses understanding.
In Jesus loving Name, Amen
 

GOD_IS_LOVE

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Hi!
Try and just cut off yourself emotionally from her. Don't let yourself be offended by what she says. This is Satan attacking you by using her. Even if you have to listen to what she says, don't take it to heart. If you were to be offended by a mad person would you mind? No, because you know they don't know what they're saying. It doesn't sound nice, but it's good to have that attitude towards people who continually hurt you.
 
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shekaniah

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Hi!
Try and just cut off yourself emotionally from her. Don't let yourself be offended by what she says. This is Satan attacking you by using her. Even if you have to listen to what she says, don't take it to heart. If you were to be offended by a mad person would you mind? No, because you know they don't know what they're saying. It doesn't sound nice, but it's good to have that attitude towards people who continually hurt you.

I agree with this...
You have the choice to let the abuse continue.
That is what renewing the spirit of your mind is.
Confidently believing God over what your mom says about you.

Psalms 139:14
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.

I know you can do this!!!
You are a strong woman!!!
Love in Christ, Shekaniah :) :) :)
 
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Jordache

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It's done. I'm cutting off contact with her. I don't know exactly what it will look like so I haven't said
anything to her. But enough is enough. I don't have to put up with her abuse. I will block her from my FB. I will block her phone number. I am not a spiteful person. This is for my health. This is because I don't deserve to be treated like this, and I won't allow it to happen anymore. But please continue to pray. She is vengeful and my family is
not Christian. They don't have the HS to tell them she's wrong. My brothers (the golden children) already side with her. The rest of my family with side with everyone all at once. Rather than involve my grandmother, I will be calling my aunt to let her know to contact me in case of emergency.
 
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simplyme_bekah

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you know what comes to mind that you need to read Stormie O'Martins books because her mom was abusive to. She talks about how God free'd her from her mothers abuse to the point that she was able to forgive her. Her mom locked her in a closet daily in the dark for years when her dad wasn't home. Later after she was grown up it was found out her mom had a serious mental disorder. Its the only thing that makes sense. You will get sooo much peace and be able to relate to her books. Praying for you honey. There is nothing wrong with you. You are not causing this to happen to you. Your mom has got to have some emotional and mental issues to treat you like this. Pray that God frees her from the devil who I bet money is directing the attacks on you. Being a child of God we are faced with sooo much persecution from everyone. Its not them, its the devil doing his best to use them as tools to destroy a child of God. What you have to remember is that our God is sooooooooooooooooooooooooo much bigger then the devil or in anything of this earth. Here is a passage God used for me a few days ago when I turned my face up to him and called on his name when I knew the devil was attacking me. It was like a breath of fresh air I swear.


Psalms (KJV) 143
1.Hear my prayer, O Lord, give ear to my supplications: in thy faithfulness answer me, and in thy righteousness.
2. And enter not into judgment with thy servant: for in thy sight shall no man living be justified.
3. For the enemy hath persecuted my soul; he hath smitten my life down to the ground; he hath made me to dwell in darkness, as those that have been long dead.
4. Therefore is my spirit overwhelmed within me; my heart within me is desolate.
5. I remember the days of old; I meditate on all thy works; I muse (think) on the work of thy hands.
6. I stretch forth my hands unto thee: my soul thirsteth after thee, as a thirsty land. Selah.
7. Hear me speedily, O Lord: my spirit faileth: hide not they face from me, lest I be like unto them that go down into the pit.
8. Cause me to hear thy lovingkindness in the morning; for in thee do I trust: cause me to know the way wherein I should walk; for I lift up my soul unto thee.
9. Deliver me, O Lord, from mine enemies: I flee unto thee to hide me.
10. Teach me to do thy will; for thou art my God: thy spirit is good; lead me into the land of uprightness.
11. Quicken me, O Lord, for thy name's sake: for thy righteousness sake bring my soul out of trouble.
12. And of thy mercy cut off mine enemies, and destroy all them that afflict my soul: for I am thy servant.
 
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OFM

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Jordache i is praying for you and your family.
 
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Sarah_D

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Jordache, i feel for you soo much hun and I know you will grow stronger in Christ and His Holy Spirit..
it's not easy coping with unsaved family but I will pray to our Everlasting Father to provide plenty of Grace and Comfort as you take up your Shield of FAITH as all those fiery darts are just quenched.. poof.. gone... in Jesus Precious Name and you walk in Faith, Grace and all Truth.
With a deep inner Joy and Peace that only Lord Jesus can provide..
HIS PERFECT PEACE even in longsuffering.. may you bear much Fruit Jordache!

I can relate to your situation but am not ready to say out loud..
and the Holy Spirit often ministered to me saying.. those who have His Holy Spirit are not easily offended (which i'm trying to continue grow in applying not being offended by fiery darts)..
because it's not what 'they' say to us that matters, but what God says about us and He says we are fearfully and wonderfully made..
God willed you to be alive..
He is your Creator who gave you life, even though our Mum's gave birth to us, it's Him who made us..
it's not easy to not be offended by family, I know..
I have to ask for Grace every minute sometimes to not be offended therefore become offensive myself..
I blew up to my sibling one day after constantly being pushed..
and decided to put some Safe Distance between us..
I am not cutting myself off from them though..
unless they got extremely bad..
but I try to take it one day at a time..
and allow myself to grow in God's grace and Truth, that is in Lord Jesus.. to listen to HIM.. to SEEK HIM..
and try to overcome their words that play around in my mind.. with the good Lord's help we can overcome..
His Word becomes so strong in our minds that 'their' put-downs don't have any room to live in my mind..
so His Word transforms us into new creations Yay..
and we are renewed and restored..
He has good thoughts towards us!

I encourage you Jordache.. seek the Lord, read His word daily.. get your daily bread and don't forget to put on your armour girl!! <3 Ephesians Chapter 6

I will be thinking of ya hun cos it sucks having a difficult family.. Stay Strong in Him
Sorry i waffle lol, my mind is a bit fragmented because of battles i've been through, (through (the valley) being the operative word!! Psalm 23:4) hope you can understand me :p God can restore you anyhoo
BLESSINGS AND PEACE to you in Christ's Love <3