2 emotional affairs by my fiance, what do i do now?

[steelman28]

First off, let me explain my situation, I'm 19 years old, engaged, and my fiance (before i proposed) has had two emotional affairs, the first happened with this boy who was just a friend, who she eventually left me for in 2012, one day before our two year anniversary, lol, well long story short, she came back to me and all was well, August 2nd, 2013 I popped the question, and was very happy to be engaged to marry this woman i love so very much! this past October, the 28th was the date i found out about the second one. She told me randomly and it hit unexpectedly! She is the pastors daughter at the church i go to! This guy stole her from me in january of 2013 until march of 2013 emotionally and somewhat physically (sexting). this all happened during the church basketball league, where she ran the concession booth, and they swapped numbers. Here is my problem, first off right away i forgave my future wife, because Jesus had forgiven me all my sins, and all sins being equal in Gods eyes, my "little" white lies, are just as bad as her cheating, but 1. I dont know how to trust again, and she wants me to trust her right now! 2. how do i move on from this? 3. she claims he only sexted her pictures, that she never sent any back, nor fornicated to these images, but i find that hard to believe, after she told me he sent her around 10 pictures, all one at a time, not at the same time (i hope that makes sense) some guy isnt going to just keep sending pictures if he isnt getting anything in return, know what i mean? and 4.Did she have any right to say yes to my proposal of marriage? knowing that she had cheated, and had plenty of opportunities to tell me? I just need wise counsel on what to do. thanks.
-Steelley

 

[Ugly]

You're a sucker. Sorry, it's true. This woman is playing you and you're being a willing participant in her games. If she can't even control herself Before you are engaged, and after, what makes you think she's going to magically change who she is if you marry? Guess what. She's not going to change. She will cheat on you more and more in marriage. And eventually she will physically cheat on you. This girl is a walking red flag so obvious its smacking you in the face, and rather than seeing it for what it is, you use false logic and spirituality to excuse her behavior.
Yes, Jesus forgives. But Jesus also said 'go and sin no more'. Jesus expects us to change. And regardless of God's forgiveness, you aren't God. Sure, you can forgive her, but forgiveness doesn't mean you forget. The bible also tells us to be 'wise as serpents'. Are you being wise by continuing in a relationship with a woman who is a liar and a cheat? Who is teasing with sexual chat with another man. Is that wisdom that tells you she will be a good and faithful wife one day? She didn't slip up once. Get caught up in the heat of the moment. She purposefully and willfully chose to take another mans number behind your back and actively, repeatedly engage in behavior that was inappropriate for her as a Christian, and doubly so as a person in a committed relationship. She's not even 20 and has already cheat on you twice.
If you're going to determine to try to respond as Jesus has set, then you don't pick one aspect and say that's the right one. Because in reality you aren't following Jesus' example. You are using that example as an excuse to stay with her because it's too hard to break up with her. Otherwise you wouldn't have ignored the other aspects of the bible we are told to follow for the one that suits your own desires.
With the way this woman behaves now, if you continue a romantic relationship with her it will be like jumping off a building and expecting you won't hit the ground. That's how her cheating will be. Sorry this is happening, but you need to wake up and see whats really going on here, and respond correctly and stop trying to convince yourself that staying with her on any level is a huge mistake.