A Gem - How To Handle Binding Behaviors

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1. Identify Behavior
- Be Honest


2. Take Responsibility for Behavior

- Admit it Exists
- You are Responsible for its continued presence


3. Trace behavior to the source

- Ask God to show you WHEN you were programmed to feel or act a certain way
- Low self-esteem, feelings of rejection, helplessness all have roots.
- These behaviors lead to habits that weaken self-concept


4. Forgive yourself/Forgive others



5. Renew your mind with God's word

- Know God loves you
- Receive strength & hope



- Charles Stanley; On Holy Ground
 
[FONT=&quot]1. [/FONT] Behavior
[FONT=&quot]a. [/FONT]Co-dependency
[FONT=&quot]b. [/FONT]Not saying No
[FONT=&quot]c. [/FONT]Lack of assertiveness
[FONT=&quot]2. [/FONT] My Responsibility
[FONT=&quot]a. [/FONT]These behaviors exist and I have the Power to Change them
[FONT=&quot]3. [/FONT]Trace Behavior to the Source
[FONT=&quot]a. [/FONT] Fear of rejection from siblings/classmates
[FONT=&quot]b. [/FONT]Guilt
[FONT=&quot]c. [/FONT]Not standing up for myself in face of disbelief of others
[FONT=&quot]4. [/FONT]Forgive yourself
[FONT=&quot]a. [/FONT] I feared rejection as a child due to siblings dislike. I carried that through to school and maintained a low self-esteem, sometimes on purpose. This in essence, led to more rejection because of pent up anger.
[FONT=&quot]b. [/FONT] I allowed others to abuse our friendship so as not to lose their friendship.
[FONT=&quot]c. [/FONT]I failed to be assertive when I should have to avoid conflict/in hopes to maintain friendship/relationship on an even keel.
[FONT=&quot]d. [/FONT]I failed to confront the issue/ignored the ‘red flags’.
[FONT=&quot]5. [/FONT]Renew your mind with God’s Word.
[FONT=&quot]a. [/FONT] I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
[FONT=&quot]b. [/FONT]I forgive you; take up your mat and go.
[FONT=&quot]c. [/FONT] Feed my sheep
[FONT=&quot]d. [/FONT]Ask & ye shall Receive


Dearest Father,

I realize I have allowed these behaviors to manifest in me since childhood and failed to recognize the true responsibility for my behavior. Help me to strengthen myself in order to manifest a change pleasing to you and comforting to me.

Amen
 
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