A question for the ladies: What makes a man attractive?

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A question for the ladies: What makes a man attractive?

Just curious after watching a video. I'm not attractive and am not looking to attract women. I'm just curious to find out what the answers will be.
Kind, genuinely interested in you. Pursues you. Is kind and funny. Has a drivers license and likes coffee. Has a drivers license. LOL drives and has a smile. Likes coffee too. Maybe cartoons and cleans. Doesn’t yell at people. Takes time to get to know you. Drives a car.
 
Funny story, on topic? Maybe not. Went out for dinner today. We like to eat at the bar and interact with the bartender and others there.

We had a nice early dinner, excellent Mexican food. We were nearly done when she gal sat down near us and ordered drinks and food.

I went to the restroom, and after I came back my wife said to remind her to say something after we left.

Apparent this gal asked my wife after I got up of I was "with anyone.". Now, understand my wedding ring never leaves my finger, so that should've been an obvious sign.

While her wedding set couldn't be seen from space, it's more than large enough to be seen from across the bar.

My wife's response was to put her left hand out and say, "yes, he's my husband!"
 
Eh... Women SAY that, but I'm still single. Many women have said that is what they are looking for, and many people have told me multiple times that I am all these things, but I am definitely still single.
I've seen 2 pics of you on CC, one kind slouched over your laptop and one close-up of you doing or holding something. Then I thought of your statement above and thought, gee I bet he'd look cool in a kinda cowboy looking shirt and a cowboy hat (dress shirt ok too lol). If someone doesn't appear like they're trying to impress, even just a little bit, possibly that's why they might be overlooked. You've got all the right material just dress it up a bit incl hair, nails, shoes and confidence😊👍 Try it.
 
huh well I'm all out of ideas.
What body parts are left?

arms
legs - shin and loin
abs
chest
back
spine
neck
elbow
rump
heel
wrist
throat
tongue

if we speaking of internal organs, well of course its heart, then spleen, liver, kidneys, lungs, gut
skin? nerves? thyroid?

I'm sure I don't know. yea those vids are rubbish. They want you to watch right thru the end then hit you with an ad or subscription or something like that. Really, don't waste your time on them. Just ask your mum what body part she found attractive in your dad.

They probably did a lame questionnaire thing and then concluded whoever answered is what most women think but how many women did they survey?
 
What about the knees. Like, are they the bee's? (I feel like Lanolin would've already thought of that :unsure: )
 
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huh do you live in a monastery or something...or a men's prison?

Oh wait a minute you play video games right? I think women stay away from men who play video games, not because they don't like you, but because it would interrupt your gaming. Plus you can't go out much if you're always playing video games, unless you are playing on your smartphone, in which case, you're already preoccupied.
I get your point . It doesn't have to b video games but , an all consuming hobby can b a slight turn off , unless of course , your partner shares in your hobby .
 
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I was looking through my recommended videos on youtube and saw one called "The one body part that women notice in seconds". (it wasn't anything disgusting). It was by a female therapist and doctoral student of psychology who referred to a few studies in the video. It got me wondering about what women find attractive in a man.
Ears.
 
I've seen 2 pics of you on CC, one kind slouched over your laptop and one close-up of you doing or holding something. Then I thought of your statement above and thought, gee I bet he'd look cool in a kinda cowboy looking shirt and a cowboy hat (dress shirt ok too lol). If someone doesn't appear like they're trying to impress, even just a little bit, possibly that's why they might be overlooked. You've got all the right material just dress it up a bit incl hair, nails, shoes and confidence😊👍 Try it.
Cowboy clothes... No. Just no. That SO ain't me.

If I ever decide to go looking for a girl, I'll keep in mind that I need to look like I'm trying to impress. The only time I try to impress anybody is when a new guy at my job is doing something the wrong way and I mention how long I've been there as a seniority reference. Otherwise, not worth it to try to impress anyone.

So it's not so much that I DO try to impress someone, as it is that I have an APPEARANCE of trying to impress? So if I wore a nice hat or something, that would give the appearance? I don't have to try as long as it LOOKS like I'm trying?
 
Cowboy clothes... No. Just no. That SO ain't me.

If I ever decide to go looking for a girl, I'll keep in mind that I need to look like I'm trying to impress. The only time I try to impress anybody is when a new guy at my job is doing something the wrong way and I mention how long I've been there as a seniority reference. Otherwise, not worth it to try to impress anyone.

So it's not so much that I DO try to impress someone, as it is that I have an APPEARANCE of trying to impress? So if I wore a nice hat or something, that would give the appearance? I don't have to try as long as it LOOKS like I'm trying?
Nooooo ! Just the opposite ! Never look as if u r trying to impress ! Just b clean and tidy that's all . Maybe not walk around in a court jesters outfit but otherwise just b u 😁 . I'm guessing that u do actually have a court jesters outfit and I'm certain that u look very cute in it but......no. Leave it in the closet . Maybe bring it out on the honeymoon 😜 .
 
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Nooooo ! Just the opposite ! Never look as if u r trying to impress ! Just b clean and tidy that's all . Maybe not walk around in a court jesters outfit but otherwise just b u 😁 . I'm guessing that u do actually have a court jesters outfit and I'm certain that u look very cute in it but......no. Leave it in the closet . Maybe bring it out on the honeymoon 😜 .
I don't have a court jester outfit, but I do have two capes. One black and one brown. That was a failed experiment.

So I shouldn't look as though I'm trying to impress somebody, but I should try to impress people. At least a little.

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Forget it. Sounds too much like w*rk.
 
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I get your point . It doesn't have to b video games but , an all consuming hobby can b a slight turn off , unless of course , your partner shares in your hobby .
gamers gonna game.

I know of a couple that are both gamers, the wife said she and her husband got matching gaming chairs, and they both work from home, gaming each other. They also have a wedding business, and target the gay community, because she says they're the ones that pay the most money. He's African American and she's Pakeha New Zealander. Possibly they met through playing online games.

I remember a workmate in the library said she had a boyfriend in America that she met through xbox. I was like what. She said they do everything together, online. But it didn't work out when she flew to America and he didn't want to reciprocate and fly to New Zealand.

A friend has a brother who did the same, except he had children with an American lady, but he had serious OCD and that didn't work out either.

Of all the kiwi-american couples I knew, none of them worked out in the long term. Sure it would have been an exciting novelty at first, but you'd soon run into problems and cultural misunderstandings. I think one partner/spouse really has to give up everything for it to work in a long distance relationship. You can't be granted a dual citizen ship with someone in the US like you can with a Commonwealth country. People look with suspicion to those who marry for an American Green card and then renege on their relationship. Also you can be deported.
 
A court jester? A cowboy? A super hero? Is everyone dressing up in fancy dress to go on a date?

Or is this like a masked ball? Like the Cinderella story, where the couple don't know each other in school, cos she's a poor diner girl and he's a rich jock, and never the twain shall meet, unless it's at a masked school ball where she's wearing a fancy ball gown (with a mask) and the rich jock (who's a musketeer or Zorro) then thinks she's a princess...or something. But then he finds out she's a lowly waitress who can't even afford a pair of nikes and is sooo poor that she has to work for a living.

Only in american unrealistic teen movies that happens.

Or you could just watch What Women Want.
 
I don't have a court jester outfit, but I do have two capes. One black and one brown. That was a failed experiment.

So I shouldn't look as though I'm trying to impress somebody, but I should try to impress people. At least a little.

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Forget it. Sounds too much like w*rk.
If u think that's work then u r not ready for a relationship , that's pretty much a full time job ! 😆😆😆 And often a low paid one 😜
 
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If u think that's work then u r not ready for a relationship , that's pretty much a full time job ! 😆😆😆 And often a low paid one 😜
Depends on the person.

I did a lot for grandma, and I never considered it work, because I loved her.

That's the difference between marrying for love and marrying for fear of being alone. If you marry because you are afraid of being alone, it is a job to keep your spouse.

And that is exactly why I am not going out looking for somebody. I have no fear at all of being alone. I will wait until I find a lady I love.