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Jullianna

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I think I just lost my mind. Has anyone seen it?

Not all men are rapists. Some are.
Not all men are scoundrels. Some are. So are some women.
Rapists are afraid of confident women. Take responsibility for your own safety, learn how to protect yourself and don't be afraid of your own shadow.

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Not all Christian women run around half naked trying to tempt men into sin, but if you are, stop it.
At some point a godly man has to grown up and take responsibility for his own thoughtlife and actions. Until he has his lust under control, he should not be looking for a permanent relationship with a woman to whom he will promise to be faithful for a LIFETIME.
P.S. - Men are not the only ones with lust issues.

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Whether you are a woman who is afraid of a guy forcing himself on you, a woman who has lust issues of her own, or a man who can't control himself, the key is to be mindful of your surroundings. Pay attention. Do what Joseph did. Leave your coat if you have to and RUN.

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Demons don't make you do things. Evil thoughts may come, but the ultimate choice of whether or not to do a thing is YOURS.

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Have you met a lady you would like to ask out? Put your big boy pants on and ASK HER. No ploys. No tricks. No gimmicks. Just take a bath, dress like a man (i.e., pull your pants up), smile, be polite, be confident and ASK HER.

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Ladies, there are no tricks or gimmicks re: getting a guy to ask you out. Take a bath, brush your hair, dress the way you expect to be treated, smile, be approachable, be a lady, be NICE to him and give him an opportunity to ask. If he is interested and man enough to be with, he'll ask. If he's not, he won't.

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Whew! Okay. I feel better now.
 
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Tintin

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Thank you! That was awesome.
 
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Jullianna

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One addition to the asking a woman out part: If she is rude to you for asking, take that as a no, count your blessings that you were just spared from making a huge mistake and walk away with your head held high. You conducted yourself as a gentleman, but she was no lady. :)
 
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Ugly

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Jullianna said:
If he is interested and man enough to be with, he'll ask. If he's not, he won't.

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Whew! Okay. I feel better now.
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I mostly agree, but this line, sorry. I think its crap. What does being 'man enough' have to do with asking someone out? So being shy equates to not being 'man enough'? These comments are really irritating and fall under the 'another way to put some men down' category.
There are many guys who have confidence to approach women, but aren't man enough to take care of her. And there are men who may be too shy to approach a woman but is still able to take care of her once things do happen.
 
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Donkeyfish07

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Ha ha, this should be a sticky.
 
mystdancer50

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Jullianna said:
Ladies, there are no tricks or gimmicks re: getting a guy to ask you out. Take a bath, brush your hair, dress the way you expect to be treated, smile, be approachable, be a lady, be NICE to him and give him an opportunity to ask. If he is interested and man enough to be with, he'll ask. If he's not, he won't.
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Loved all of it, but this was my favorite part, mainly because women (and men) do believe there is some gimmick or magic formula to be desirable or to be asked out. There isn't. Someone is either interested or they aren't interested. Period. If they're interested and you're available, it shouldn't be anymore complicated than that.

There are so many 'dating' and 'asking a person out' advice books out there, it's insane. We have a tendency to complicate things. Just open your eyes and see the signs and, as Jullianna said, if you're rejected, count your blessings and walk away with your head held high. It's better to be rejected now than miserably married or divorced later.

Nice read first thing in the morning. :)
 
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4Hizcall

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Ugly said:
I mostly agree, but this line, sorry. I think its crap. What does being 'man enough' have to do with asking someone out? So being shy equates to not being 'man enough'? These comments are really irritating and fall under the 'another way to put some men down' category.
There are many guys who have confidence to approach women, but aren't man enough to take care of her. And there are men who may be too shy to approach a woman but is still able to take care of her once things do happen.
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I totally agree with you there
 
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Donkeyfish07

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Ugly said:
I mostly agree, but this line, sorry. I think its crap. What does being 'man enough' have to do with asking someone out? So being shy equates to not being 'man enough'? These comments are really irritating and fall under the 'another way to put some men down' category.
There are many guys who have confidence to approach women, but aren't man enough to take care of her. And there are men who may be too shy to approach a woman but is still able to take care of her once things do happen.
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There's nothing wrong with being shy or nervous.....doesn't have to stop you from asking though. That's all she's saying

How are things supposed to happen if you never initiate anything? Girls have to worry about being called "loose" or a "slut" for being too forward......it's understandable why they don't initiate in the same way we are expected to.
 
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1still_waters

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Ugly said:
I mostly agree, but this line, sorry. I think its crap. What does being 'man enough' have to do with asking someone out? So being shy equates to not being 'man enough'? These comments are really irritating and fall under the 'another way to put some men down' category.
There are many guys who have confidence to approach women, but aren't man enough to take care of her. And there are men who may be too shy to approach a woman but is still able to take care of her once things do happen.
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Cuz if he doesn't have the gumption to say..."Hey let's go out for a coffee.": Do you think he's going to have the courage/initiative/gumption/etc to be a man in the more intimidating/stressful parts of the relationship.

You can't drive a car if you're afraid of getting behind a steering wheel.
You can't get a woman if you're afraid to approach and just say hi.
 
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Relena7

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I'm not a fan of stereotypes either, Julianna.

Something about them seems so cold and...."rule-bookish."
 
T_Laurich

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Cuz if he doesn't have the gumption to say..."Hey let's go out for a coffee.": Do you think he's going to have the courage/initiative/gumption/etc to be a man in the more intimidating/stressful parts of the relationship.

You can't drive a car if you're afraid of getting behind a steering wheel.
You can't get a woman if you're afraid to approach and just say hi.
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My favorite line is, "does this smell like chloroform to you?"

 
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Relena7

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Ugly said:
I mostly agree, but this line, sorry. I think its crap. What does being 'man enough' have to do with asking someone out? So being shy equates to not being 'man enough'? These comments are really irritating and fall under the 'another way to put some men down' category.
There are many guys who have confidence to approach women, but aren't man enough to take care of her. And there are men who may be too shy to approach a woman but is still able to take care of her once things do happen.
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Agreed.
Not everyone fits into how she chose to word that. ^ It is only an opinion though... It's not a fact that shyness = not being manly. At least not for everyone in every scenario.
 
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xXErraticEmilyXx

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Thank you
Here's a kitten.
 
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Ugly

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Relena7 said:
Agreed.
Not everyone fits into how she chose to word that. ^ It is only an opinion though... It's not a fact that shyness = not being manly. At least not for everyone in every scenario.
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Yeah, i know. Its just one i'm sick of seeing. And evidently people equate being bold in asking someone out with the ability to provide for a womans needs. I don't see the correlation. And its irritating seeing this crap being reinforced. So to prevent having to read how i'm not 'man enough' for a woman because i don't want to randomly approach her i shall remove my less than masculine self from the thread permanently.
 
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woka

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For me the more we expect people to act a certain way the less they are able to be themselves. When someone's behaviour irritates us, I always like to look inside and figure out why it is an issue for me. We can choose to take on other people's slowness, or inability to come straight out and ask us, as not manly enough, or we could sit back and think ....hey he hasn't done this much so he is a real man, not a player.

We could choose not to EVER consider what we wear as an instrument to allow someone to put us into a bracket of easy to rape, women should be able to walk down the road naked, and be safe. The responsibility to protect her self worth is her own, not to protect some man from raping her.

We as human beings are far to opinionated, and self righteous, and feel that our way is the only way nope people it's not, only the Lord's way is the right way. He would never judge a man on being a man with the same principles we do it with, He would never tell a women it is her fault that she was raped because her car broke down in the middle of the night in a dodgy road, and she had shorts and a tshirt on after helping a friend move.

Sorry but I too feel aaaaarrrrrgggggg about this subject.
 
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Yeah, i know. Its just one i'm sick of seeing. And evidently people equate being bold in asking someone out with the ability to provide for a womans needs. I don't see the correlation. And its irritating seeing this crap being reinforced. So to prevent having to read how i'm not 'man enough' for a woman because i don't want to randomly approach her i shall remove my less than masculine self from the thread permanently.
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Don't quote me on this, but she might be telling the people who come here and say, "I'm not cute enough for this woman, or woman don't like video games and guys with no money, so they won't go out with me." I don't think she's talking about a nice shy person.
 
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Jullianna

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Ugly said:
I mostly agree, but this line, sorry. I think its crap. What does being 'man enough' have to do with asking someone out? So being shy equates to not being 'man enough'? These comments are really irritating and fall under the 'another way to put some men down' category.
There are many guys who have confidence to approach women, but aren't man enough to take care of her. And there are men who may be too shy to approach a woman but is still able to take care of her once things do happen.
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Context is very important. I did not say MAN ENOUGH TO ASK. I said MAN ENOUGH TO BE WITH.
Sorry you find that irritating, but some of us ladies do not feel it is our place to do the asking.
 
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