My wife's sister "T" (one of 7) died not quite a year ago, leaving her son "A" with his father "D". D is an absolute ahole and abuser. While she was alive, her sisters begged her to leave D, but she wouldn't because of her vow of 'till death do us part'. But everyone knew this man was mean and abusive and not one to be around.
Immediately after T died, all these sisters literally tripped over themselves to get on their knees and kiss D's butt. Suddenly this known and hated abuser became their best pal and hero.
A told his teacher last August that his dad was being abusive to him. CA Dept. of Child Services (DCS) took him from his father and placed him with my wife and I (we were the only ones A said he trusted). DCS interviewed D, who gave them a list of people he wanted them to talk to support his side (the list included several of T's sisters). These people of course insisted that D is a saint, and the sisters threw my wife and I under the bus, saying we were the instigators and trouble makers. We gave DCS a list of people to talk to who would have given them an honest and true assessment of D, but DCS couldn't be bothered to talk to any of them.
DCS dismissed the case and returned A to his father. D will not allow A to talk to us or anyone who's willing to tell the truth about him.
My wife was recently able to talk to A in secret. He said his father is the same as he always was, verbally and physically abusive. He also said his dad now forces him to shower with D every day, and makes him lay in bed at night with him while he watches porn. A is terrified to tell anyone about it, knowing that the sisters and DCS will only support D, and that reporting the abuse will only make things worse for him at home.
We are lost as to what to do. DCS will not return phone calls from us. And even if we did report D to them, we don't see the outcome being any different. And we can see that reporting him will only make things worse for A at home and with his aunts.
Please pray for this kid. And any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Immediately after T died, all these sisters literally tripped over themselves to get on their knees and kiss D's butt. Suddenly this known and hated abuser became their best pal and hero.
A told his teacher last August that his dad was being abusive to him. CA Dept. of Child Services (DCS) took him from his father and placed him with my wife and I (we were the only ones A said he trusted). DCS interviewed D, who gave them a list of people he wanted them to talk to support his side (the list included several of T's sisters). These people of course insisted that D is a saint, and the sisters threw my wife and I under the bus, saying we were the instigators and trouble makers. We gave DCS a list of people to talk to who would have given them an honest and true assessment of D, but DCS couldn't be bothered to talk to any of them.
DCS dismissed the case and returned A to his father. D will not allow A to talk to us or anyone who's willing to tell the truth about him.
My wife was recently able to talk to A in secret. He said his father is the same as he always was, verbally and physically abusive. He also said his dad now forces him to shower with D every day, and makes him lay in bed at night with him while he watches porn. A is terrified to tell anyone about it, knowing that the sisters and DCS will only support D, and that reporting the abuse will only make things worse for him at home.
We are lost as to what to do. DCS will not return phone calls from us. And even if we did report D to them, we don't see the outcome being any different. And we can see that reporting him will only make things worse for A at home and with his aunts.
Please pray for this kid. And any advice would be greatly appreciated.