Before I became a Christian I had a friend whose mom worked in the school system. My current mom at the time was mistreating me and I used my friends mom to intervene and get the school involved. The friendship with the girl ended due to drama, and a bit after I found God, or God found me. One of the first things God condemned me on was how I split my family apart and kicked my mom out. My mom didn't really mistreat me, she just was a very stern woman in Christ, punishing me just as the Bible instructed her to do so. By the grace of God I have been able to create a relationship like never before with my mom and I am very grateful. However I continued to stay close to my friends mom because her daughter, my ex friend was ignoring me and all I wanted to do was reach out to her and get her out of the pit she started digging for herself.
As God found me and started to open my eyes to what was and was not of God, what is and is not biblical, I saw how the family, though labeled as "Christians" were not living a Christian life, I do have real examples I can provide if you do not feel assured to trust my accusation. There came some moments when I was reading the Bible and being condemned about my friendship with the mother (Psalm 1:1 “Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers.”
Psalm 26:4-5 “I do not sit with men of falsehood, nor do I consort with hypocrites. I hate the assembly of evildoers, and I will not sit with the wicked.” And more).
I want to break the tie I have with her, every time I am in company with her I sin by not speaking up. She speaks softly and sweetly like honey but her actions are the opposite and the fruits of her spirit have been evident in her life. I care for her salvation, I think she is a false convert and I have spoken to her about it. I have given her tracks, I've conversed to her about the Bible just to be even more assured that it is not her standard, and that she is against a good amount of it. There's so many things going on in her life right now that just yell her false conversion and I can't seem to present the legitimacy of God and his power and wrath. Personally I think it has to do with the sweet way she talks that just weakens me and shrinks my will to get across to her. She also just seems to be using my gift of serving.
My two top spiritual gifts are serving and showing mercy and I have been condemned for serving her and for showing her mercy. By serving her I have come to understand that I could be bringing peace in her mind about her sinful life, which is the last thing I want to do. I want to serve God, not wicked. This is my dilemma I can break it off with her by telling her the truth to my reasoning, being that I don't want to give her false assurance in her salvation or what not, and that also that her wicked lifestyle is not approved by me. Here is where I need advice: (even though I'm leaning to breaking up the tie with her), will I be in any way sinning by not showing her love and mercy by continuing to help her out with things that she simply doesn't want to do herself. I want to show love to people and this seems borderline. The greatest commandment given is to show love, would it be unloving to stop the "friendship?"
"I'm going to back off, I'll pray for you. I still love you, but I do not condone your lifestyle."
Would my actions in any way oppose the commandment to love one another?
All Glory to God.
As God found me and started to open my eyes to what was and was not of God, what is and is not biblical, I saw how the family, though labeled as "Christians" were not living a Christian life, I do have real examples I can provide if you do not feel assured to trust my accusation. There came some moments when I was reading the Bible and being condemned about my friendship with the mother (Psalm 1:1 “Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers.”
Psalm 26:4-5 “I do not sit with men of falsehood, nor do I consort with hypocrites. I hate the assembly of evildoers, and I will not sit with the wicked.” And more).
I want to break the tie I have with her, every time I am in company with her I sin by not speaking up. She speaks softly and sweetly like honey but her actions are the opposite and the fruits of her spirit have been evident in her life. I care for her salvation, I think she is a false convert and I have spoken to her about it. I have given her tracks, I've conversed to her about the Bible just to be even more assured that it is not her standard, and that she is against a good amount of it. There's so many things going on in her life right now that just yell her false conversion and I can't seem to present the legitimacy of God and his power and wrath. Personally I think it has to do with the sweet way she talks that just weakens me and shrinks my will to get across to her. She also just seems to be using my gift of serving.
My two top spiritual gifts are serving and showing mercy and I have been condemned for serving her and for showing her mercy. By serving her I have come to understand that I could be bringing peace in her mind about her sinful life, which is the last thing I want to do. I want to serve God, not wicked. This is my dilemma I can break it off with her by telling her the truth to my reasoning, being that I don't want to give her false assurance in her salvation or what not, and that also that her wicked lifestyle is not approved by me. Here is where I need advice: (even though I'm leaning to breaking up the tie with her), will I be in any way sinning by not showing her love and mercy by continuing to help her out with things that she simply doesn't want to do herself. I want to show love to people and this seems borderline. The greatest commandment given is to show love, would it be unloving to stop the "friendship?"
"I'm going to back off, I'll pray for you. I still love you, but I do not condone your lifestyle."
Would my actions in any way oppose the commandment to love one another?
All Glory to God.
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