Am I going crazy?

[Huckleberry]

If they want to spend holidays and whatnot with you and him, or time with their new grandbaby,
then the 4 of you need to sit down and talk and come to some sort of mutual agreement.

I disagree.
Your guy needs to cut the cord and stand up to his mommy and daddy.
You don't need to sit down with them and have any sort of confrontational discussion.
Doesn't matter whether or not he "likes" confrontation.
Part of life is dealing with issues head on.
He needs to man up and put this to rest.

 

[Nehemiah6]

SSM

Since you are relatively new here, Welcome.

I am engaged to my boyfriend and when we have the money we plan to get married, but his family does not accept me.

This is RED FLAG #1. Do you really need the stress of constant rejection? You should re-think your prospective marriage.

He has two children, one by someone else, and we have a daughter together. We were going to get married before we got pregnant with her and his family did not even acknowledge it, so I tried to end things because I did not want to be married into his family.

This is RED FLAG #2. Do you really want your child to be treated like an outcast, and to feel like one? You should be walking away from this marriage.

When we found out we were pregnant we decided to make it work, which we are now stronger than we were before. I love him dearly, but he never stands up for me and his family is so rude... My fiancé and I are constantly praying about this and he wants to keep giving them chance after chance, I don't think I can do it anymore.

This is RED FLAG #3. If a man will not stand up for his wife, he is neither a man nor a husband. Once, again, you should be walking away from this.

Enough said. The very fact that you have been ignoring these red flags means that subconsciously you want to be victimized. So now that you know that nothing good will come of this marriage, you would be wise to remain a single mother and become a strong Christian instead. Your child deserves to be loved and cared for by his grandparents, but if they are evildoers then you do not need to put yourself and your child in harm's way.

 

[renewed_hope]

Just a thought....

I am not sure how well y'all get along with your fiance's ex, but if they put down their son there is a good possibility they didn't like her either. I would sit down with her and ask how she was able to deal with them and figure out ways of handling it so it doesn't affect your relationship with your fiance.

 

[Dan_473]

He does not like confrontation and his family can be extremely mean. His mother puts him down too and sometimes he just doesn't want to argue with her. I know it's not right he does not stand up to her, but I also know she can be intimidating and he is passive when it comes to her. We have agreed to stop coming around as much, like going else where for Holidays, but I just feel so much anxiety about this whole situation. Thus, why I came to an online forum.

I think it's great you want to marry and give your kids a two parent home.

on the other hand,
it will be a frequent source of pain to you if you marry a man who is still tied to Mom.