AN ATTACK ON ME-- PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR ADVICE.

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HI FRIENDS!!! I NEED YOUR ADVICE. I AM A WOMAN AND I HAVE A VERY GENUINE PROBLEM. MY PROBLEM IS A MAN AND I REALLY REALLY DON'T KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH HIM. THIS MAN IS SOMEONE I KNOW FROM MY SCHOOL DAYS. AND HE HAS A HISTORY OF HATING A GIRL IN OUR CLASS WHO USED TO EXCEL IN ACADEMICS AND WAS FAR BETTER THAN HIM. THOUGH SHE NEVER SEEMED TO BE BITTER TOWARDS HIM. AND SHE LEFT OUR SCHOOL BECAUSE OF HIM.

AND NOW HE HAS MADE ME HIS TARGET. I TRIED TO SOOTHE HIS BITTERNESS IN WAYS I KNOW. I MEAN I USED TO BE A SCHOOL TEACHER AND I DID LEARN THE PSYCHOLOGY OF KIDS AND I USED TO IMPLEMENT THE GUIDANCE PROVIDED IN THAT GUIDE AND IT DID WORK FOR KIDS. BUT IT DID'NT WORK ON HIM.

I HAVE VERY LESS KNOWLEDGE OF DEALING WITH MEN.

HE IS TROUBLING ME, HE MAKES HIS APPEARANCE WHEREVER I GO-- I MEAN ANY EDUCATIONAL COURSE I TAKE. HE WILL INDIRECTLY PASS COMMENTS ON ME THROUGH SOME SOURCE. HE THINKS BECAUSE I WAS KIND TOWARDS HIM I LOVE HIM, THOUGH I HAVE MADE IT CLEAR TO HIM THAT I DON'T .

HE DOES'NT HAVE ANY SORT OF AFFECTION TOWARDS ME , BUT NOW HE IS USING MY POLITENESS AGAINST ME . HE TRULY HATES ME. AND PLEASE DON'T THINK THAT HE IS INTERESTED IN ME. I KNOW IT FOR SURE THAT THERE IS NO THING.

WELL IN MY GUIDE BOOK FOR KIDS IT WAS TOLD THAT IF YOU SOLVE THE ROOT PROBLEMS KIDS FACE
THAT WOULD SOLVE TO SOME EXTENT THE BEHAVIOURAL PROBLEMS OF KIDS.

FOR THIS GUY I HAVE EVEN APOLOGIZED TO HIM IF I OFFENDED HIM KNOWINGLY OR UNKNOWINGLY DURING 0UR SCHOOL DAYS. THOUGH I DON'T REMEMBER ME OFFENDING HIM IN ANY WAY. I THINK HE IS HAVING FUN BY EMBARRASSING ME. I REALLY DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO OF HIM. I THINK HE ENJOYS THE NEGATIVE ATTENTION HE GETS FROM ME WHEN HE EMBARRASSES ME.
PLEASE GIVE SOME ADVICE.
 
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Shiny, if you have apologized to the man and have given him an opportunity to tell you what his problem is, there is little else you can do. It appears that as long as he CAN embarrass and harass you, he will. As this point, if I were you, I would simply no longer acknowledge his existence, unless I absolutely had to. It does seem that he is taking advantage of your desire to be kind. There are times when we have done all we can, so we simply have to dust off our shoes and move on.

Having said that, if you feel endangered by this man, is there any way to report him? Not sure if it's gone that far from what you've said, but with some guys like this, it can become necessary.

May God give you strength and wisdom.
 
Apart from the disturbance and annoyances this man might be capable of quiet bizarre things, so to keep distance is a must. Do all you can to widen the distance and to ignore him as much as you can. If problem persists, which they appear to be doing, then finally report it to people in authority to do something about it. However, when you do so, be sure that you have some "proof" of what you are saying, otherwise it might spawn further conflict and be further burdensome for you. Not knowing the full story I am assuming that you are victimized for no good reason and that this man, presumably a non-christian, is not hearing your expressed dislike of him stalking you.
 
THANK YOU JULLIANNA AND TRIBESMAN FOR YOUR PRECIOUS GUIDANCE .
YES SIR, THIS MAN IS AN UNBELIEVER.
I BELIEVE GOD WILL SOON DELIVER ME FROM THIS TROUBLEMAKER.
GOD BLESS YOU
 
sounds like a stalker. i would begin documentation of his activities now and when they increase.... which will happen as you try to put more distance between you and him (which i agree that you should do) report it to the police.. especially if he starts showing up at your house or where you shop.

obtain a restraining order if needed....

hopefully i am wrong and when you show strength he will leave you alone, but we should all pray he does not find another victim.....its about control of others happiness, don't let him steal yours.
 
please make yourself safe from him. I am praying that GOD will give you strength and wisdom and most of all that HE will make you safe from any harm.In JESUS name.AMEN