Anyone else recently separated?

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I just recently joined, and would like to talk with other women that are separated. The marriage ending wasnt what I wanted, it was his choice. One day we are having an average day and whoosh, the rug is pulled up under me , several things lead up to it, but all were repairable.
 
How would you like to have been married 43 yrs. and he says he's leaving? Thats what happened to me 3 yrs. ago,
 
This is Tracy from India male 51 male a Christian seeking for the faithful men and and women for His glorius works and the Ministry. Do u love and like it. Answer me and contact me.
Orphanage, Church plantation,helping the aged, Please do help as u can for His Cross and for the Gospel sake. Needed the Bibles for India. Encourage as u can for the Ministrys sake.
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Me Tracy an Evangelist from India , was batpised in 1975 for Christ. Became Christian since then doing His will in Preaching. I am doing the Lord. I was born in 1959 July 3. God has given me a great and good job as the preacher. Visited so far two countries Tanzania and Thailand 2003, and 2006. wish to go for the world. Needed ur prayers. I want u to come and visit India. Do the work of the Lord. Heloves u . Inspire ur self for the Church and the Kingdom. In Him Elohim Tracy I am blessed with three Children My eldest Son was caught in an Accident in 2005 in Motor Bike. I am now with the two One Boy and one Girl. My wife is TA Rachel she serves the Lord God . Praying for the Lords ministry. I want ur sincere afforts to work for the Lord. Helping the Orphans.Helping the poor and the needy.
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gram4God said:
I just recently joined, and would like to talk with other women that are separated. The marriage ending wasnt what I wanted, it was his choice. One day we are having an average day and whoosh, the rug is pulled up under me , several things lead up to it, but all were repairable.
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I too am recently separated. It was also his choice, has been making bad decisions for quite some time. The ultimate deal breaker for me was unfaithfulness. I'm not so sure things were repairable any more for us. We stared counseling a little over a year ago. He went for a while then decided it wasn't for him, we didn't need it.
 
Seems like we have formed a little club here. I have been separated several times from the same husband. I understand about things being repairable and having a partner that won't work with you. I can't seem to get him to go to counseling. Any mention of biblical principles sets him totally off. It's a shame because we could be a great family. There are three children involved. I've been praying for years and I'm just not sure anymore.
 
I'm sorry for your hurt. I know what you are dealing with. My husband just up and leaves anytime he wants to. It's usually over the simplest things. When he leaves he won't even contact his daughter. The last time he left us, we were faced with having to move out of our home. God provided a better place for us to live, gave me a fantastic deal on the rent too. I pay less now for a bigger apartment than i was for the smaller one. He even sent people to help me move. It's been very tight financially, however, God always provides for us-usually to the amazement of others.For a year or more my husband had no idea where we were. His family would not tell him because they despise his behavior. However his mother does not see the wrong in providing a home for him when he deserted his family. It's only recently that I finally got some child support from him.
 
Sister......the cross of seperation...is extemely tring but Jesus knew all along this was going to happen to us.
 
God Bless u brother and sis..So happy to hear of your ministering....I am married to a xpreacher He backslide but Me and my Children r still following Christ ..One is a missionary for Taiwan....two r in bible school preparing for the ministry....and another works in a church with His wife...Me I am just waiting on the Lord....
 
I originally started this thread back in August, but its good that the glitch that this site had brought old threads to the top. If anyone needs to talk, or would like prayer, feel free to send me a msg. Its 6 months now, since the split, and life does get better, for me, it brought me much closer to God. I still have moments of hurt, or anger, but I joined a wonderful church, that has support groups for every issue imaginable, which has been a blessing. I will be praying for you all.
God Bless
 
Hello
I am sadly a recent member of this fraternity.
We set a ten year goal that was going to require a lot of work and faith to achieve, building a large investment property, then retiring on the proceeds by 40.
Over that time I became fixated on the project, inadvertently not being there for my wife at times of great need in her personal journey. She covered it by saying that she was ok with it because the project needed to be finished and she understood. I took this as an excuse to sink further into the job at hand.
Before we knew it, the distance had grown between us and we were arguing about all things great and small.
Neither of us were smart enough to run straight to the feet of God. I said a lot of hurtful things out of frustration and misunderstanding.
I had a near death experience a couple of years back, and I got nudged by this in the right spiritual direction.
The problem was that I could no longer connect with my wife. We went to counselling, but she had already closed her heart.
My fault. Hindsight and counsel have helped me understand this.
My problem is that I am seeking reconciliation, but my beautiful wife does not believe my intention to be true, despite the months of sincerity.
Any advice, as I will not walk away. I love m wife and my God too much for that.
 
I am thinking of this at this very moment. Our marriage suffered an infidelity with a close friend several years ago and I have been hanging on by my fingertips. I think it may be finally time to give up. My children are starting to be affected but I am so confused. Don't know what to do next.
 
Yes, I joined CC last night and have been separated for 7 weeks from a 21 year marriage. Would love to share experiences and a wonderful christian book I was given. "Broken Heart on Hold" during separation.
 
Hi, I have separated from my husband of nearly 3 years. It's a month since the separation and this came above when he emotionally cheated on me a year ago with his ex-girlfriend who is also married but having difficulties with her husband. I tried to forgive him but he would not stop contact with this lady and would give excuses why he has the lady's number on his phone. I am struggling to forgive and this is distancing me from God. I am filled with so much anger and feel used by him as he would let has start a family because according to him I always get angry at the slightest things. I agree but he is so rude and arrogant and we cant even have a decent communication without being at each others throat. I wanted to save my marriage but the thought of my husband not having an insight of the betrayal he caused to our marriage as led to me not having any love for him. My whole family, especially my dad dislikes him so much and has told me that if I sign his papers to become a british citizen, he will disown me as my husband is very disrepectful. I just want to do the Godly thing by signing his papers for him and moving on with my life but I dont want to lose my dad over him as he would rather defend his friends against me-so I question myself, why I should sign his papers. The truth is If i dont he will be deported back to Africa where I brought him from. Any Godly advice please.
 
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Hi, I have separated from my husband of nearly 3 years. It's a month since the separation and this came above when he emotionally cheated on me a year ago with his ex-girlfriend who is also married but having difficulties with her husband. I tried to forgive him but he would not stop contact with this lady and would give excuses why he has the lady's number on his phone. I am struggling to forgive and this is distancing me from God. I am filled with so much anger and feel used by him as he would let has start a family because according to him I always get angry at the slightest things. I agree but he is so rude and arrogant and we cant even have a decent communication without being at each others throat. I wanted to save my marriage but the thought of my husband not having an insight of the betrayal he caused to our marriage as led to me not having any love for him. My whole family, especially my dad dislikes him so much and has told me that if I sign his papers to become a british citizen, he will disown me as my husband is very disrepectful. I just want to do the Godly thing by signing his papers for him and moving on with my life but I dont want to lose my dad over him as he would rather defend his friends against me-so I question myself, why I should sign his papers. The truth is If i dont he will be deported back to Africa where I brought him from. Any Godly advice please.
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Do you think he married you just so he could become a British citizen?
 
Im also part if this dreaded club :( my husband left me nearly 9 Weeks ago he left me to live with another woman and her 3 children still very sore about it it's a horrible thing to go through my heart goes out to.you I will pray for you hun that you will receive your hearts desire..it's a rough time for you and everyone else who is going through this you feel like the person you've loved for so long us a complete stranger to you it's a very confusing time rollercoaster of emotions just remember god is with you every step of the way and im here id u ever want to talk you can message me anytime any of you can ;)
 
My wife just walked out on me after 12 years, she has some mental illness issues so I'm not sure if thats to blame, it's devastating,, I was a good husband to her, always there for her through some very difficult times with her illness, always stood by her side, She was my best friend not just my wife, I guess sometimes people just leave, we were both married before God and tried our best to live his ways in our marriage. Just try to stay strong in this, I'm also having a very difficult time not just giving up on everything, I'm an old fashioned person and I believe you marry someone for life, I wont even consider getting married again
 
Sorry to hear about your marriage it's a terrible time the grief is unbearable praying for u
 
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