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I'm not dating at all, I wouldn't say it's completely by choice, but most days I'm okay with it.
Kind of just tired of hoping, really. *shrugs*
Kind of just tired of hoping, really. *shrugs*
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VioletReigns
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Wow. I must say, I admire you young people tremendously for having good insight and for not casually dating or dating out of pure desperation. What wonderful wisdom you all have. I'm so blessed by your maturity!
Back in my day young people started dating in middle school (my parents would not allow me to, thank God!) and carried on terribly in high school, necking in public and hanging all over each other. And most of us married right after graduation. I had just turned 20 when I got hitched.
Anyhow, thank you for sharing your lovely thoughts. You have all blessed my heart so much. ♥ *hugs* all around ♥
Back in my day young people started dating in middle school (my parents would not allow me to, thank God!) and carried on terribly in high school, necking in public and hanging all over each other. And most of us married right after graduation. I had just turned 20 when I got hitched.
Anyhow, thank you for sharing your lovely thoughts. You have all blessed my heart so much. ♥ *hugs* all around ♥
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jeremyPJ
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Emmara
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I've done the casual dating thing and its just never worked. At this point I am just okay giving up dating. I've prayed about it and I have put it all in Gods hands.
Hi ,Im lovingly married,but i have also been single.Its a beautiful state of life 2 be in and dont ever feel u r less important,especially 2 God.There is 2 sayings,i would rather be on the ground wishing i was up in the air flying,than up in the air wishing and hoping i was back down on the ground because of a problem.Also its better 2 be single wishing and hoping u were married,than 2 be married wishing and hoping u were not.My wife is from India and God gave her 2 me supernaturally.It was all arranged by God,we never dated nor did either ask the other if we would marry.Matthew 6:33 Seek God first,he will ad all other things 2 your life.Thats a promise.Be blessed hope 2 see u in the rooms.Jeshuvan.
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cmarieh
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That is a neat love story. I know that God writes the best love stories of all time.
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Breeze7
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Chey60 Nice to hear your story. I mean nice to hear things are the way you'd like and that it seemed destined.
Have you stopped dating?
I would like to date but right now I'm not. I've made chat friends but that's its own thing, a blessing.
What are the reasons?
I've been wondering that myself. I went to college and expected sooner or later to meet somebody but it didn't happen.
I was surprised. I always could bounce around to the different groups and talk about almost anything but since I waited
until I was thirty two to get a college degree I suppose the scene all changed. I'm always up to meet people. I don't do
the regular date idea though like see who is at a bar. I feel like Christians today are undercover Christians sometimes. I
must be looking in the wrong places.
What circumstance would have you dating someone?
I'm rather unsure about dating a co-worker plus where I work is mostly guys seeing as what we do. We operate
machinery. I would try to meet with a person online or date after having met someone online but I'm cautious in that
scenario also.
Do you feel meeting someone, being friends, then working into a relationship is what God would have for you?
I've always felt God was an extremely mysterious entity and mystical also so I have no idea what he'd have for me. I
hope, certainly hope, that he would have me have many many friends. Being friends first is fine. You should be friends
with a love interest. Still there is that love at first sight type of thing. The longer I live I think its a myth but its been a
while since I've had a crush and they seem to come around about every 6 and a half to seven years in my experience. If
a relationship is right for me I hope I get one.
Have you stopped dating?
I would like to date but right now I'm not. I've made chat friends but that's its own thing, a blessing.
What are the reasons?
I've been wondering that myself. I went to college and expected sooner or later to meet somebody but it didn't happen.
I was surprised. I always could bounce around to the different groups and talk about almost anything but since I waited
until I was thirty two to get a college degree I suppose the scene all changed. I'm always up to meet people. I don't do
the regular date idea though like see who is at a bar. I feel like Christians today are undercover Christians sometimes. I
must be looking in the wrong places.
What circumstance would have you dating someone?
I'm rather unsure about dating a co-worker plus where I work is mostly guys seeing as what we do. We operate
machinery. I would try to meet with a person online or date after having met someone online but I'm cautious in that
scenario also.
Do you feel meeting someone, being friends, then working into a relationship is what God would have for you?
I've always felt God was an extremely mysterious entity and mystical also so I have no idea what he'd have for me. I
hope, certainly hope, that he would have me have many many friends. Being friends first is fine. You should be friends
with a love interest. Still there is that love at first sight type of thing. The longer I live I think its a myth but its been a
while since I've had a crush and they seem to come around about every 6 and a half to seven years in my experience. If
a relationship is right for me I hope I get one.
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ServantStrike
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Talking is a normal and reasonable expectation. I like you're style. If I ran into someone who talked like you do in person, I'd probably ask them out unless they tried to stab me or slash my tires or something.
True story, I have literally asked out random strangers because I enjoyed talking to them. That's dicey though, I don't recommend it unless you can run really fast.
You don't get asked out either? Why the heck not?
I've never dated and I'm pretty ok with it.
Yeah see I don't think you're playing up the "I bake cakes" angle nearly enough. You should also have suitors at the door, and for a lot more than just your cake baking skills.
Man, this thread is depressing. Dudes are supposed to get passed over since we're expected to do the asking out 90 percent of the time. But women getting passed over is just depressing.
I think my success rate as far as getting turned down is somewhere around 5-10 percent of the time I actually succeed in getting to a date of any kind... and apparently my odds are better than most from what I keep reading here.
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cmarieh
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That is really sweet. In fact I don't know how to respond. This actually gives me encouragement that I am on the right path and not expecting too much. I am quiet and it actually takes a lot for me to hold a conversation with somebody and enjoy talking to them.
You mean someone like this?
"Pick you up at 8?"
"Make it 9. I have to remine the driveway."
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mystikmind
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I had not even kissed a girl right up to the age of 27! The years before that i was happily single and friends very generously showered me with disasters and heartbreak that continued to reinforce my position. My opinion of love was that it was nothing more than in invitation for heartache and nothing i saw in the world showed me anything other than this.
I only started dating at age 27 because i noticed i had started going bald, the reality of age! lol But in the end i was still not partner material, now my wife of 6 years and partner of 4 years before that is divorcing me.
So i have gone through a period of self assessment, (and guidance from God) i came to learn that all along deep down i did not believe i was a good person. So i have been learning to believe that i am a good person, and so much good seems to spring from that, i feel a new self confidence and inner happiness i never felt before! I feel like i am someone who deserves love and deserves to be loved.... i cannot save my marriage, but i know i will be ready for the next relationship when it comes
I only started dating at age 27 because i noticed i had started going bald, the reality of age! lol But in the end i was still not partner material, now my wife of 6 years and partner of 4 years before that is divorcing me.
So i have gone through a period of self assessment, (and guidance from God) i came to learn that all along deep down i did not believe i was a good person. So i have been learning to believe that i am a good person, and so much good seems to spring from that, i feel a new self confidence and inner happiness i never felt before! I feel like i am someone who deserves love and deserves to be loved.... i cannot save my marriage, but i know i will be ready for the next relationship when it comes
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ServantStrike
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It was the truth and you needed to hear it. Believe me there are people I've seen on here who are nutty as a loon - I wouldn't tell them they had a good personality. You, you seem like a fairly solid person, and from your previous posts, you're working on self improvement, which is something that any guy worth his salt will pick up on and appreciate.
Part of my job as a brother in Christ is to offer encouragement to people
. That one is usually not too hard.My advice on being shy - practice holding a conversation when the stakes aren't high. Next time you're at a store, chat up someone about the weather, preferably someone you're not even remotely interested in or attracted to - like a nice old lady in the check out line or something.
Have I stopped dating? Quite honestly, I don't think I really started! I can count on one hand the number of dates I have had since my divorce:
One was with a lady who seemed to have the whole date scripted - I was supposed to fix her bike (which she didn't let me know was broken) before loading it on my bike rack. After the horrible experience of a bike ride with her, I was a glutton for punishment and decided we should go out for ice cream. She was horrible to the counter girl. On another date (yes, I took her out again.), she complained about the food in the restaurant, which I thought was fine. Thankfully, God intervened and my car window fell of its track. I did not want to park in the part of town we were in with my car in that condition, so we opted not to see the play and I took her home early.
Two other dates were with women who turned out to be very forward. I even got a marriage proposal. I later found out that she was still technically married. The other forward gal kept complaining about her ex.
I dated a normal woman too. Quite attractive, and a green-eyed brunette too (which makes me all melty inside). She is agnostic, not sure how she feels about things spiritually.
I haven't found a well-seasoned, godly woman who captures my interest yet. I'm not really looking though. I am focusing on getting my kids raised (youngest is 13), improving my personal finances, pursuing God and enjoying some fun hobbies, like making this stained glass cat my daughter is holding up:
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kenthomas27
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your daughter has a lovely thumb and finger and part of a forearm near the elbow.
"I think they feel my place should be being their mother and honestly I guess that's how I feel too? "
It doesn´t look like something you´ve been assured of... Besides, chances are they would volunteer you to be a grandma instead of their mother and, willing or not, you are their mother.
According to what I have asked to elders I know personally, they still like the idea of being loved to love, admiting a tendency to what it seems to be asexuality, I guess.
In my particular case, I never liked women my age and now, being older, I´m sure I like them the less... Maybe that´s why I understand "cougars" the better.
http://www.dnaindia.com/entertainment/report-jennifer-lopez-demi-moore-cougars-or-just-women-in-love-1841019
It doesn´t look like something you´ve been assured of... Besides, chances are they would volunteer you to be a grandma instead of their mother and, willing or not, you are their mother.
According to what I have asked to elders I know personally, they still like the idea of being loved to love, admiting a tendency to what it seems to be asexuality, I guess.
In my particular case, I never liked women my age and now, being older, I´m sure I like them the less... Maybe that´s why I understand "cougars" the better.
http://www.dnaindia.com/entertainment/report-jennifer-lopez-demi-moore-cougars-or-just-women-in-love-1841019
I am not actively seeking a mate. If someone comes into my life and we begin to date, well that would be fun and I'd take that ride to where ever it took me. If not, oh well.
Just because I am not actively seeking anyone to date doesn't mean I won't:
- flirt when the opportunity arises
- smile at and or wave to a man
- chat with a man
- approach someone I want to get to know better - as a friend or maybe romantically
- accept an invitation for coffee or dinner or a bike ride...
Just because I am not actively seeking anyone to date doesn't mean I won't:
- flirt when the opportunity arises
- smile at and or wave to a man
- chat with a man
- approach someone I want to get to know better - as a friend or maybe romantically
- accept an invitation for coffee or dinner or a bike ride...