Are you afraid to date? If so, why?

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Jullianna said:
Not afraid...it's just that sometimes, when we know that it's time for huge changes in our lives and we are prayerfully seeking direction, it's a distraction.
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WHAT I THINK IS HARD AS BEING A CHRISTIAN AND BEING IN A PAST RELATIONSHIP OR DIVORCE IS FALLING IN LOVE WITH THE WRONG PERSON AGAIN! OF COURSE THERE IS DATING TO FIND THE RIGHT PERSON BUT BEING OUT OF A RELATIONSHIP FOR SO LONG CAN POSSIBLY BE SOMETHING TO WATCH OUT FOR, FOR ONE YOUR FEELINGS CAN BE ALTERED BY COMPANIONSHIP/FRIENDSHIP. THUS RUSHING INTO A WRONG RELATIONSHIP. I AM A DIVORCED SINGLE FATHER AND HAD A BAD PAST RELATIONSHIP.THEREFORE I AM VERY CAREFUL AND VERY PICKY TO EVEN CONSIDER SOMEONE TO DATE. ONLY WANT ONE MORE RELATIONSHIP AND WANT THAT RELATIONSHIP TO LAST FOREVER. BEEN SINGLE FOR ABOUT 9 YEARS AND A FATHER OF 3 CHILDREN ALL THERE LIFE. 2 BOYS AND 1 GIRL 11,13,15
 
Absolutely terrified of dating. Money issues.Having to become respectable. Time. Realizing I'd have to do really stupid activities like shopping malls on weekends, hanging with her stupid friends, putting up with the latest "crisis" etc. Lose the ability to go to all the events I currently do... BUT for me the problem is the constant gong show that has resulted. Endlessly talking to women. Endlessly get to that awkward moment when I really should be asking her for a date. Then bail. Must do this about 400 times a year. Then on the super rare occasion where I actually try to advance things with some woman, I feel relief when I'm rejected,, and actually happy. I don't know exactly how it got to this but I'm not very proud of it all.
 
I'm afraid to date because I don't believe that I'm good enough. I don't want to sound like a major downer here, I'm actually quite the optimist! But self worth has always been a struggle for me, regardless of what I know intellectually of how our Father feels about us according to biblical truths. If someone tries to set me up with a guy, my initial reaction is that he would not be interested. Even if he expresses interest, I make up an excuse for why he'd do that. I'm pretty, intellectual, in love with the Lord...I have no idea why I do this! I think that it's a past of rejection that's catching upto my present. Anywho, could use prayers on this because dating really freaks me out! But I really desire a hubby to serve the Lord with. :)
 
Am I afraid ? I think so
Well there is a girl I really like but I am afraid to ask her for a date (or one on one meeting) However I invite her whenever friends are organizing something in a larger or smaller groups like going to a disco
Maybe its becouse I am shy Maybe I am afraid of receiving a negative answer Or I am just afraid I will make a fool of myself
I dont know what she thinks about me

I also think that my shyness comes from bad childhood when I was laughed at by almost whole class
 
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