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Stop trying.
You can't reach a brawling woman.
This is why men are better.
They discuss.
Women brawl.
(not all, but most)
When a woman starts to brawl and stops discussing...
I leave the premises.
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Why don't you just pray and ask the Lord for wisdom to discern what that woman really needs. Then continue to pray or act on it.
A lot of brawling women just need to know that they have been heard without being judged for their feelings. Just a simple "I hear you" in response sometimes works without any defense or argument.
There have been times when I'm sure I "brawled". What stopped me was when my husband would just simply come over and hug me gently.
A lot of brawling women just need to know that they have been heard without being judged for their feelings. Just a simple "I hear you" in response sometimes works without any defense or argument.
There have been times when I'm sure I "brawled". What stopped me was when my husband would just simply come over and hug me gently.
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PHart
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You accept that this is what God has ordained in your life to try, and test, and discipline you with, and then you seek to deal with it according to the fruit of the Spirit. That is what God wants you to do.
Not all people (not just women have this problem) can be rescued from it. Focus rather on responding to it according to the fruit of the Spirit and leave the outcome to him.
You won't find peace trying to change the narcissist. The world will actually tell you that it's impossible to do that. You will find peace by learning how to cope with it the way God wants you to cope with it--according to the fruit of the Spirit.
It's not fun, but everyone who has been trained by God through their trials finds the peace and contentment of God. Which is exactly what God intended.
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PHart
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Oh, and thank God for the 10 percent of the time she isn't brawling and contending with you.
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Galatea
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In the words of Clark Gable as Rhett Butler, she needs kissing often and by someone who knows how to do it.
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Zi
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Be a living example. some are turned off by words. esp when they have a general idea about how a Christian should act and then doesn't.. Better to win by behavior.
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Galatea
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Oh, I don't know. Words are pretty important. God holds words in such high esteem that one of Christ's names is the Word. The gospel comes to us through words. The pen is mightier than the sword. Deeds are not remembered, but words are. Three words hold a lot of magic. Two words can mend broken relationships.
Many people have a love language of words. His wife's love language might be words. It might mean more to her to hear him say "I love you" than for him to wash the dishes. He probably needs to find out what her love language is and go from there.
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kaylagrl
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Back when men were men, kinda,cause I think he slapped her in that movie. So ya,scratch that.
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Zi
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1 Peter 3:1.. In the same way wives submit to your husband so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won by the behavior of their wives... Can be true no matter who the subjects are
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Galatea
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Lol, Gable was divine in this movie as Rhett.Back when men were men, kinda,cause I think he slapped her in that movie. So ya,scratch that.
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Zi
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Love is giving and doing.. words fall flat sometimes.. Been in enough relationships to have first hand experience. deeds are why they faild not lack of words.
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Galatea
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He was asking what he should do to be a good husband to his brawling wife. So, I suggested that maybe he doesn not give her verbal affirmations, and if this is her love language, she may feel unloved. He can not change her behavior, only his. If he loves her as Christ loves the Church, she may no longer be brawling. He was rather vague, so we don't really know the specifics.
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Galatea
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I think it depends on your love language. It sounds like your love language is deeds. So, if you were married, you'd appreciate him washing the dishes and feel loved. My love language is words. If I were married, I would rather my husband tell me he loves me and what he loves about me. I can wash the dishes myself, but if I tell myself "I love you, I think you are the most wonderful woman in the world." It doesn't exactly thrill me.
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Zi
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Yeah but you quoted what i said.. So I showed if its in the Bible it must work.. I have a very short fuse for some things..and sometimes the way you quote me and respond, I dont like it.. I don't know how you mean it but I have had to say before that you come across to me as if im stupid.. I dont have the tolerance for a lot of people on here. I think it's best that we don't communicate
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kaylagrl
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Galatea
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You can block me if you like, it is up to you. I thought we were friends, or at least friendly. I may not remember that I am not to post to you, so I am asking for forgiveness before the deed.
I did not mean to suggest you were stupid. I don't believe I recall a conversation where you told me I was condescending toward you. I apologize if I hurt your feelings.