Hi..no I haven't seen a counselor because God is my only one! I know he is the only one that can heal me...also I do not want to be open with this issue as it can get the man in trouble as he was so much older when we dated. Even though he treated me so badly and told me the new girl is better than me...I do not want to harm or hurt him in any way so I will just leave my feelings and emotions to God...hoping he will help me move past this ASAP
Breakup: could use some encouragement
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Hey...thank you so much for ur advice! im glad I found this website so that people like u can help me feel better and give me hope
As days ago by, I do feel slightly better although I do miss him a lot...not sure why tho after the way he treated me. Today was the first day after we broke up that I didn't message him and it was so hard! not having this person in my life is so painful but knowing hes with another girl right now makes it a whole lot worse. Thank you for helping me and im sure God has a purpose and plan for ur life! He is going to bring the right man at the right time...someone who loves u and loves God as well! U sound like an amazing person Keep being an example of Jesus to everyone u meet and dont give up on God's plan for ur life!
As days ago by, I do feel slightly better although I do miss him a lot...not sure why tho after the way he treated me. Today was the first day after we broke up that I didn't message him and it was so hard! not having this person in my life is so painful but knowing hes with another girl right now makes it a whole lot worse. Thank you for helping me and im sure God has a purpose and plan for ur life! He is going to bring the right man at the right time...someone who loves u and loves God as well! U sound like an amazing person Keep being an example of Jesus to everyone u meet and dont give up on God's plan for ur life!
you seem really mature for your age Princess glad to know that you feel better now just be patient with yourself Thank you so much for your encouragement ❤ I appreciate it ❤ May God's blessings be upon you and may God comfort you when you are sad. See you around lil sis
Hi Princess,
wow 10 years older at 17? yeah leaving God out of the equation is a garenteed disaster.
Secret relationships are never a good idea, it looks like you have something to hide. Plus, it means you can't turn to anyone when you need advice or help with your relationship, and if you knew your parents wouldn't approve, than I can honestly say that God was not in it.
I totally understand your problem though, being young and looking for love. I made the same mistake when I was 17 going to meet a girl I met online just after my parents kicked me out of the house, and neither one of us came from a Christian home.
wow, um He litterally said those things? than why did he want to get back together with you for the second time? and what made him think those things?
What kind of guy are you dating? and why would you want a relationship with a guy like that? Honestly, if your too immature for him, and he doesnt love you as much. I can tell you right now you two were not meant to be together.
A guy that hurts you this much on purpose is not a guy you want to be involved with. Yeah if he found someone else, it would be wise to forgive him for his wicked ways and move on yourself, otherwise he is just going to keep playing these games with you.
I'm not going to lie to you, I was a troubled child, did things I'm not proud of, made my fair share of mistakes, didn't grow up in a Christian home, and then got diagnosed with a mental illness after I got kicked out of the house and by God's standards and by mens standards, I'm still a far better guy than the guy you've been dating.
Since he is a friend of the family, just treat him like an acquantance. Don't waste you'r time on him, and if you do see him, just keep your distance, say hi, how are you? and don't do any where past that. Just be polite and curtious to him when and if you see him, but don't go out of your way for him.
Yeah what he has done, is a clear indication that he may infact be a wolf in sheeps clothing. I can't see anything that would indicate that he is a Christian based upon what you wrote. Look Princess I know you feel helpless, but you'r not helpless, Look at the bright side of this, he is someone elses problem now. You can ask God for wisdom and guidance and look for a man that will love you the way God intends, and treat you with the dignity and respect you deserve.
Ever heard the saying good riddens to bad rubbish? You sound like a very sweet young woman, with a big caring heart, don't let one jerk ruin that. Praise God he is gone and moved on and you can find a better man who is worth his weight in gold.
wow 10 years older at 17? yeah leaving God out of the equation is a garenteed disaster.
Secret relationships are never a good idea, it looks like you have something to hide. Plus, it means you can't turn to anyone when you need advice or help with your relationship, and if you knew your parents wouldn't approve, than I can honestly say that God was not in it.
I totally understand your problem though, being young and looking for love. I made the same mistake when I was 17 going to meet a girl I met online just after my parents kicked me out of the house, and neither one of us came from a Christian home.
wow, um He litterally said those things? than why did he want to get back together with you for the second time? and what made him think those things?
What kind of guy are you dating? and why would you want a relationship with a guy like that? Honestly, if your too immature for him, and he doesnt love you as much. I can tell you right now you two were not meant to be together.
A guy that hurts you this much on purpose is not a guy you want to be involved with. Yeah if he found someone else, it would be wise to forgive him for his wicked ways and move on yourself, otherwise he is just going to keep playing these games with you.
I'm not going to lie to you, I was a troubled child, did things I'm not proud of, made my fair share of mistakes, didn't grow up in a Christian home, and then got diagnosed with a mental illness after I got kicked out of the house and by God's standards and by mens standards, I'm still a far better guy than the guy you've been dating.
Since he is a friend of the family, just treat him like an acquantance. Don't waste you'r time on him, and if you do see him, just keep your distance, say hi, how are you? and don't do any where past that. Just be polite and curtious to him when and if you see him, but don't go out of your way for him.
Yeah what he has done, is a clear indication that he may infact be a wolf in sheeps clothing. I can't see anything that would indicate that he is a Christian based upon what you wrote. Look Princess I know you feel helpless, but you'r not helpless, Look at the bright side of this, he is someone elses problem now. You can ask God for wisdom and guidance and look for a man that will love you the way God intends, and treat you with the dignity and respect you deserve.
Ever heard the saying good riddens to bad rubbish? You sound like a very sweet young woman, with a big caring heart, don't let one jerk ruin that. Praise God he is gone and moved on and you can find a better man who is worth his weight in gold.
From the sound of it, you're much better off without him. HE sounds like a true game-player, and a manipulative one at that. He's almost 30, you're only 19 and he's old enough to be your uncle.. :/ In a way, he's right: you are too immature for him at this age. He's a grown man, and you're a young girl. But he is immature also, so don't feel bad. Be thankful that God took you away from this jerk, and a lifetime of regret.. God has something better in mind for you, I guarantee it.
Thanks yes im trying my best to get over him...although it is really hard...I always think bout this other girl he's dating...it sucks..especially cause I feel she is someone I probably knew about....and he must have been talking to her while he was dating me. I just have a question tho...why is it after all this...im the one who's sad and he is happy...dating someone...and enjoying his life...I find that to be a bit unfair..it should be the other way around.
yes im trying my best to get over him...although it is really hard...I always think bout this other girl he's dating...it sucks..especially cause I feel she is someone I probably knew about....and he must have been talking to her while he was dating me. I just have a question tho...why is it after all this...im the one who's sad and he is happy...dating someone...and enjoying his life...I find that to be a bit unfair..it should be the other way around.
He's happy because he is a player and enjoys it, and doesn't give a dang about anyone's feelings except his own. Stop thinking about her, because most likely when he tires of her, he'll do the same thing and dump her for his next flavor of the moment.. Just be glad that you see him for who he really is, and that now you're (hopefully) wise enough not to fall for that kind of guy ever again..
Thanks yes im trying my best to get over him...although it is really hard...I always think bout this other girl he's dating...it sucks..especially cause I feel she is someone I probably knew about....and he must have been talking to her while he was dating me. I just have a question tho...why is it after all this...im the one who's sad and he is happy...dating someone...and enjoying his life...I find that to be a bit unfair..it should be the other way around.
yes im trying my best to get over him...although it is really hard...I always think bout this other girl he's dating...it sucks..especially cause I feel she is someone I probably knew about....and he must have been talking to her while he was dating me. I just have a question tho...why is it after all this...im the one who's sad and he is happy...dating someone...and enjoying his life...I find that to be a bit unfair..it should be the other way around.
lol yeh I try not to think bout her...I just feel used so I always get reminded of our memories and how he isn't there for me anymore....idk if hes gona leave her considering he is desperate to get married and said he is gona get engaged to her next year. I just don't want to have to know how his life turns out next year and I probably will end up knowing cause of the family friends thing....but I haven't talked to him for about 5 days now...its great how Jesus is helping me cope with this and filling my heart with his love and peace. I never thought I would be able to live without this man or live without messaging him but God is amazing