Can God call you to a life of Singleness or Marriage? Yes or No?

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HeartOfGod

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I am asking this question because so much here is focused on getting married. The church in my opinion tends to focus and encourage marriage more so then singleness. Rarely have I heard any one talk about being called to singleness. Unless of course I have missed out on the discussions around the world that have? I think there is not enough discussion on that topic alone. I also think the topic of singleness is very unpopular probably because most of the time it is always about marriage. When you look around and you see families or couples that are happy, then you go out there and you see the same thing with the rest of the world or if you are watching your favorite television program, or read articles about dating and relationships.

How many times in your own church have you ever had the discussions about Marriage verses Singleness? How would a person know if they were being called to either one as I have heard people say that singleness can be for a season and not completely though out a person's life. I have only heard of few testimonies from people who say that they have been called to being single. Now I wouldn't personally know the answer but has any one ever prayed to God and asked God what he wants from your life?

How do you know whether God is calling you to either a life of singleness or if he has planned some one for your life? Can a person be confused and tangled up in their own thoughts to think that God has some one for them or not? Can a person be so driven to chase after something only to find out there is disappointment? Can we not be battling ourselves and the possible other plans that God may have for us? Please share your thoughts.

Here's some questions I have come up with and I too can learn something from this, because what I often write also convicts me. Please add to these questions more food for thought because I would like more in put because maybe you mite see something that I have entirely missed?

1. How much time do you spend thinking about getting married verses how much time you spend with God?

2. How much of your focus is on getting married verses your focus on what God wants you to do even do with your own life now or in the future?

3. How much of your life you are willing to surrender to God so that he can make any changes in your life if you may even need [eg. healing or deliverance] before he gives you either what he has planned for your life?

4. If God doesn't have marriage even planned for your life are you willing to accept that fact or not?


Does any one ever realize that if God were to have plans for your life for marriage that often times we ourselves can often go in circles until we surrender all to God. If we live under the assumption that he does have some one planned then the devil can also use it to come up with a counterfeit mate. If we in our flesh want something bad enough it can very well come our way. The devil can also bring some one along who may not be some one that God has planned and you mite not even notice it right away because the devil is cunning enough to deceive especially if you aren't at the place to discern that properly to know the difference. I am speaking out of personal experience because I have run into people who for the most part were struggling with other issues then what I have been struggling with.

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I did a search and found only these three threads on singleness and I am very surprised that there are some discussions but I was mainly talking about with in the church body where you go to worship. I personally found for me that single groups seem to put more pressure on dating in some of these single groups and often times you can find all types of characters hanging out there that may show interest in you but that's not the person God has personally laid on your heart. If God is not telling me to get involved with some one then I am not going to get involved with them. As for ministry it's hard to know either way because I haven't met any one who has the same interests as I have? I have a mixed assorted interests but mostly to see people get saved and set free. Right now I have backed off from sharing the gospel with people until I am healed and God wants to put me into something because I have given up on that aspect because it seems to go no where.


http://christianchat.com/christian-singles-forum/3066-gift-singleness.html

http://christianchat.com/christian-singles-forum/890-use-singleness-spend-more-time-god.html

http://christianchat.com/christian-singles-forum/3131-being-single-biblical.html
 
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calvina

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yes,but if GOD's plan for me is to stay single,can i ask HIM a big favor? ( LORD please i want child )
 
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HeartOfGod

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calvina said:
yes,but if GOD's plan for me is to stay single,can i ask HIM a big favor? ( LORD please i want child )
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I know this one woman who has adopted some children and she is a Christian but I believe the Lord lead her to adopt them. I see nothing wrong with that seeing as there are even people who are single parents. Most importantly it has to be God's will for your life and you also need the financial back ground to do that. She told me that wasn't easy but she managed and she had help from her family. I have met this lady personally because I had ministered to her adopted daughter. :)

If it's a matter of financial there are other ways where as rather then adopting children to care for then maybe it's a question about getting involved another way where as you can become a nanny or even work in the church as in a Sunday school teacher if you love children so much. Children do need good Christian mentors especially when they are so young.
 
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calvina

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i do yearn child but i want my own...anyway i will obey what ever is GOD' s will to me.thanks for that mess.
 
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HeartOfGod

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calvina said:
i do yearn child but i want my own...anyway i will obey what ever is GOD' s will to me.thanks for that mess.
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Have you ever read the Story about Sarai and Abram? God promised her that she would one day have a child but rather then waiting up on God she took it up on herself to do things in her own way and thus this was the result.


Genesis 16
1 Now Sarai, Abram's wife, had borne him no children. But she had an Egyptian maidservant named Hagar; 2 so she said to Abram, "The LORD has kept me from having children. Go, sleep with my maidservant; perhaps I can build a family through her."
Abram agreed to what Sarai said. 3 So after Abram had been living in Canaan ten years, Sarai his wife took her Egyptian maidservant Hagar and gave her to her husband to be his wife. 4 He slept with Hagar, and she conceived.
When she knew she was pregnant, she began to despise her mistress. 5 Then Sarai said to Abram, "You are responsible for the wrong I am suffering. I put my servant in your arms, and now that she knows she is pregnant, she despises me. May the LORD judge between you and me." 6 "Your servant is in your hands," Abram said. "Do with her whatever you think best." Then Sarai mistreated Hagar; so she fled from her.
7 The angel of the LORD found Hagar near a spring in the desert; it was the spring that is beside the road to Shur. 8 And he said, "Hagar, servant of Sarai, where have you come from, and where are you going?"
"I'm running away from my mistress Sarai," she answered.
9 Then the angel of the LORD told her, "Go back to your mistress and submit to her." 10 The angel added, "I will so increase your descendants that they will be too numerous to count."
11 The angel of the LORD also said to her:
"You are now with child
and you will have a son.
You shall name him Ishmael, [a]
for the LORD has heard of your misery.
12 He will be a wild donkey of a man;
his hand will be against everyone
and everyone's hand against him,
and he will live in hostility
toward [b] all his brothers."
13 She gave this name to the LORD who spoke to her: "You are the God who sees me," for she said, "I have now seen [c] the One who sees me." 14 That is why the well was called Beer Lahai Roi [d] ; it is still there, between Kadesh and Bered.
15 So Hagar bore Abram a son, and Abram gave the name Ishmael to the son she had borne. 16 Abram was eighty-six years old when Hagar bore him Ishmael.
 
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calvina

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hmm please dont take seriously what i have posted.if really my destiny is to become spinster then GOD' s will be done.i do believe that not everyone is destine to marry.its true that i long to have child but there must be called a family.thats why adoption never crossed on my mind.im 36 so i think there is still chance lol! but if nobody fated for me,im still bless.because we have JESUS:)
GOD bless Heart! I love you sis.!
 
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