Can't Decide

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There's this guy at my school who has repeatedly asked me out. I hate saying no to him, but I don't know if he goes to church or not. He never talks about it. I really like the guy, and I've invited him to come with me on Sundays, just to see what my church was like. I don't want to hurt his feelings, but I can't date someone who's not in the church. If anyone has any advice of how I can handle this situation, please let me know. Thanks...
 
If he's not following Christ, run , to church, and pray to God for what He wants of you, maybe its raising a lot of livestock so you raise something else in the future. just saying to just go with what you know God says scriptural and God does say we need to be equally yoke. of course, that' s true in marriage, but being both of Christ , yes. its true in dating too. God bless you for being bold and saying this conundrum on cc . remember, too, first thing to do is pray to God about this guy. God can do miracles whenever He wants , don't change this boy friend or think you can, just saying that God can do all things and does do them to further His kingdom and ways to change the lost's hearts for Him.
 
Don't date him and expect him to change.
Do you think God will bless you if you disobey him? Bless you if you date someone he wouldn't want you to date? the answer is no he won't. And honestly he seems desperate. Your most likely pretty and he wants you for that. If he does not bring up anything about Church or God then that shows that its not something thats important to him.
 
Well, just because he doesn't go to church doesn't mean he's not a Christian. Several people who regularly attend church aren't truly living for God (not to bash churchgoers or anyone else because it's better to hear the Word regardless of how we live) and several Christians can't find a Bible based church.

If you feel as though something is telling you to not be in that sort of relationship with him, search it out and test it (the feeling, that is; reading scripture and praying).

Also, there's nothing wrong with flat-out asking him whether he's a Christian or not. Based on his answer and how it's said, your decision should be clear.
 
Since Easter is coming up, maybe you could bring this up as a topic of discussion as a way of determining where he stands re: matters of faith. You might be surprised. :) Sometimes christians don't attend church because they simply haven't found the right one yet.

But if he is not a christian, you could only be opening yourself up to heartache by dating him.