cheated on by boyfriend

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I just learned that my boyfriend is going to have sex with another woman tonight. They both planned this earlier today. I am so tired of men who tell me and swear that they love me but then I find out about stuff like this. Our relationship is really wonderful but I think he has a major problem where he loves women to much. When they approach him (and they know about me) he always gives in to them. I am very hurt and confused. Please help somebody. There is no one I can talk to about this.
 
Leave him. There is no reason to stay.

If he loved you more than the sex, he would strive to make his love undeniable, lasting and strong.
 
I agree. The point at which he PLANNED this, he became her lover and ceased to be your boyfriend. You deserve better than that.

God bless you. So sorry you are hurting.
Prayerfully...
 
Thank you for caring about my situation and for your reply.
God Bless you all...
 
Sorry you are in this situation lori i agree with both liamson and julianna, you are worth so much more than that
 
Well, I think firstly leave Him, secondly, put your trust in God and ask Him to give you the direction and guidance you need. Surrender all to Him... God bless
 
You sound frustrated and disgusted and you should be. I recently read a book called, "Boundaries in Dating". I would recommend it. I can tell you are a smart woman and don't want to have to go through this type of thing again. I'll be praying for you and the situation. I am confident that God has a wonderful things for you.
 
I just learned that my boyfriend is going to have sex with another woman tonight. They both planned this earlier today. I am so tired of men who tell me and swear that they love me but then I find out about stuff like this. Our relationship is really wonderful but I think he has a major problem where he loves women to much. When they approach him (and they know about me) he always gives in to them. I am very hurt and confused. Please help somebody. There is no one I can talk to about this.



I've read this several times, and there is something that im very curious about.

Soooo you knew your boyfriend was gonna have sex with another woman and you knew what night it was gonna be, but you didnt do anything about it??
I just have to ask... whhyyy didnt you go over there and do something about it??
There wouldnt have been enough self control that could have stopped me from goin over there.


I get your upset about this, i mean obviously you have a reason to be. However i think when your in a relationship with someone it is up to you to set the standard on how that person treats you. And from the sounds of it, your letting him do whatever he wants. I mean he's sleeping around and you even know about it.... He's gonna keep treating you like crap because your putting up with it.
 
Lori,

Ask yourself why you would tolerate this behaviour in the least. You must get to the point where you will not put up with any disrespect. If this has happened before, it seems to be a pattern you are locked in and attracted to the same kind of men.

Time to seek something better.

You deserve it.
 
The fact that this was planned makes it worse in my eyes it shows a purposeful deception and like the other people have said on this thread you are worth more than that and you should show him the door and make him regret what he has done.