Thank-you for your response. My daughter was born with the name Clairissa. One time she protested about this by saying, “Whyyyy did you have to name me Clairissa!!! I told her because it was the most beautiful name I could think of. Part of this process has been trying to understand why my daughter has wanted to be a male. In second grade she had a classmate that had a very gifted ability with sports. His name was Devin. Clairissa could never compete with him and win. I emphasized the importance of a personal best instead of competition. Around third grade she started to want to change her name and this happened weekly for 3 weeks. She became very upset when no one could remember what her new name was and I explained that would be difficult with such a short amount of time. A few weeks later she said she had decided that her name would be Devin and it still is today. She’s 30.
The only reasoning she ever shared about being male was that she believed men “Had more power and rights” and therefore being a female was a disadvantage. She definitely was the strongest willed child I had ever known. I’d say her Will was stronger than Her Dad, her brother and me put together! But I also saw deep insecurities underneath. I have asked myself countless times if I showed favoritism to her older brother or if I should have showed her that she was the strongest person I knew because yes, I believe what you all are saying, there is something that she doesn’t like about herself.
I also know from my own personal experiences that insecurities are a tool that the devil uses to persecute and lead us away from God.
I agree that acceptance is necessary especially where insecurities are involved. But then there is the need for distance as well to not get caught up in their sins.
My children know that I have always believed in God and my son decided to not allow me to mention God. That’s why I wear a cross. I don’t have to say anything.
The only reasoning she ever shared about being male was that she believed men “Had more power and rights” and therefore being a female was a disadvantage. She definitely was the strongest willed child I had ever known. I’d say her Will was stronger than Her Dad, her brother and me put together! But I also saw deep insecurities underneath. I have asked myself countless times if I showed favoritism to her older brother or if I should have showed her that she was the strongest person I knew because yes, I believe what you all are saying, there is something that she doesn’t like about herself.
I also know from my own personal experiences that insecurities are a tool that the devil uses to persecute and lead us away from God.
I agree that acceptance is necessary especially where insecurities are involved. But then there is the need for distance as well to not get caught up in their sins.
My children know that I have always believed in God and my son decided to not allow me to mention God. That’s why I wear a cross. I don’t have to say anything.