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Papou
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Always listen to your inner voice and happiness and peace will be your inheritance !
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That's a good point. He is extroverted and he does have coffee buddies. I guess no reason to feel too awkward/or overthink too much.
My advice to youths is to date in groups, same here, if you go with 1 or more others for coffee OK maybe .. Alone I'd say probably not a good idea just based on ethics .. Offer to go get it and walk back with it is probably better for all and you might can get yours free with 3-4 orders ..
I just started a new job and as far as I know, my boss is married, and not sure about the status of my coworkers yet but they are females like me so I dont think it matters too much, married or unmarried.
If any are co-workers are male I dont really know but it would be more on gender then whether they married or unmarried maybe.
we have a staffroom where coffee and tea are free and only ten minute break or 30 minutes lunch break usually breaks are spent eating or bathroom or resting, I mean when you work with people you do need breaks, and sometimes breaks FROM your co-workers since you might spend all your work time with them.
it just depends.
In another job cos Im working on my own for the most part at school morning tea break is when I get to catch up with staff. Theres actually nowhere I can really go outside of school because by the time get to the nearest cafe, order, sit down and eat I have to go back to work again! Breaks are sometimes problematic because children sometimes have no idea that you need a break and cannot just stay with them all the time.
anyway if someone actually does offer to make you a cup of tea or coffee dont be rude and say no. But dont get the idea its a date or anything. socialising outside of work in evenings if its to be done its as a work group as part of your work social club or of its put on by your organisation.
Just keep things professional and you should be fine. If you do make friends at work remember if someone is married to respect that and dont steal time from them that they need to spend with their spouse outside of work (if they dont work together...I know couples who work in the same workplace too) . I do know some married couples wives who hate going to their husbands work dos and others that will go (for the free food of nothing else, whats not to like?) but dont get this idea that they can always be free to do stuff like a single unmarried person can.
it used to be a thing where men would just drink at the pub after work and come home drunk to their wives, I mean coffee is not quite the same with violent side effects but you know there can be coffee addicts which isnt always a good thing either. If that was the case I would just say nah Im a tea person myself. Talking with real coffee addicts is actually really boring becuase all they tend to talk about is how they are craving their next coffee and cant live without it. I would just not enable them lol.
If any are co-workers are male I dont really know but it would be more on gender then whether they married or unmarried maybe.
we have a staffroom where coffee and tea are free and only ten minute break or 30 minutes lunch break usually breaks are spent eating or bathroom or resting, I mean when you work with people you do need breaks, and sometimes breaks FROM your co-workers since you might spend all your work time with them.
it just depends.
In another job cos Im working on my own for the most part at school morning tea break is when I get to catch up with staff. Theres actually nowhere I can really go outside of school because by the time get to the nearest cafe, order, sit down and eat I have to go back to work again! Breaks are sometimes problematic because children sometimes have no idea that you need a break and cannot just stay with them all the time.
anyway if someone actually does offer to make you a cup of tea or coffee dont be rude and say no. But dont get the idea its a date or anything. socialising outside of work in evenings if its to be done its as a work group as part of your work social club or of its put on by your organisation.
Just keep things professional and you should be fine. If you do make friends at work remember if someone is married to respect that and dont steal time from them that they need to spend with their spouse outside of work (if they dont work together...I know couples who work in the same workplace too) . I do know some married couples wives who hate going to their husbands work dos and others that will go (for the free food of nothing else, whats not to like?) but dont get this idea that they can always be free to do stuff like a single unmarried person can.
it used to be a thing where men would just drink at the pub after work and come home drunk to their wives, I mean coffee is not quite the same with violent side effects but you know there can be coffee addicts which isnt always a good thing either. If that was the case I would just say nah Im a tea person myself. Talking with real coffee addicts is actually really boring becuase all they tend to talk about is how they are craving their next coffee and cant live without it. I would just not enable them lol.
Wow you have had a lot of good advice. I think your gut was already telling you to keep your interactions at the workplace. Guarding your reputation is so important. You don't have to do anything to have some gossip spot the two of you and start rumours. You also don't ever want to be in a position where a married man or his wife gets the wrong idea. Also, don't assume because he seems like a straightlaced married guy that he won't stray. You seem very humble and may not see the flirting for what it is until he makes it obvious. My thing was that I never put myself in a situation where anything could ever "just happen". How often have you heard, "We were looking for anything. We never expected to fall for each other but it just happened."
I know you will do the smart thing.
I know you will do the smart thing.
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Absolutely not! And definitely NO.
Absolutely not! And definitely NO.
Those "older seasoned guys" have a real knack for talking young impressionable girls like you into doing a lot of bad things.
Do not ask your husband! Do not even bring it up to him. Do not mention it, ever. Be done with the whole thing, immediately. Don't give a second thought to it. Put it out of your mind. And FORGET ABOUT IT!
I would say it this way, i think it is always better for men to stay with men and women to stay with women married or not in any case where it can be intimate. Not just potential sex but emotionally and so on. As men and women we should want to be without reproach. But you must also think about it from your perspective, would you as a wife be okay with this? I am a man, going through a divorce but i still refuse to be in an intimate or potentially intimate setting with women. If there is a group of people sure but make sure no one can sneak away or even be viewed as that.
I say for the benefit of everyone thats a hard pass. This things people may view as innocent or as no problematic dont see that this is how a lot of adultry and cheating take place. Spend enough time with someone and you can easily fall in love or feel as though you. It doesn't take much from there.
I say for the benefit of everyone thats a hard pass. This things people may view as innocent or as no problematic dont see that this is how a lot of adultry and cheating take place. Spend enough time with someone and you can easily fall in love or feel as though you. It doesn't take much from there.