confused by beauty

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Ok so I met this woman online...she's a Christian...but she's one of the most beautiful women I've seen! Ever!
And I want her....
I feel she knows she can have who she wants...she's 43...I'm 45...we've talked and she said I'm the only one so far she can have a deep spiritual convo with so far....I just feel overwhelmed by her beauty and it's intimidating in a way...
I'm not sure what to do with such a woman...she said she thinks I'm handsome....but I'm sure she has her pick of men....this is the one I want though...she's spiritual..saved and beautiful...I'm just not sure how to handle this one....any suggestions??
 
Yeah, i do. Go for it and stop worrying about silly things. I've dated 3 women who i thought were too beautiful for me, out of my league, so to speak. Two were 10 years older than me (in my early 20's) and one was in my later 30's, and she was 10 years younger. They weren't caught up in their looks, they wanted to be with me because we had chemistry and i treated them well. I made them happy.
Sure, a woman may be able to have 'any man she wants' but that doesn't mean just any man will make her happy. You seem to make her happy, so stop worrying and man up. If i can do it 3 times you can do it this time.
 
Keep having those deep spiritual conversations with her. Guard your mind, because it's easy to get tangled in something like beauty.
 
rillolion said:
Ok so I met this woman online...she's a Christian...but she's one of the most beautiful women I've seen! Ever!
And I want her....
I feel she knows she can have who she wants...she's 43...I'm 45...we've talked and she said I'm the only one so far she can have a deep spiritual convo with so far....I just feel overwhelmed by her beauty and it's intimidating in a way...
I'm not sure what to do with such a woman...she said she thinks I'm handsome....but I'm sure she has her pick of men....this is the one I want though...she's spiritual..saved and beautiful...I'm just not sure how to handle this one....any suggestions??
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I think you would be surprised to know that many beautiful women actually find it difficult to find a man who will take a chance on her. I mean a good man, not the in-love-with-themselves guys who think they actually deserve a woman like her.
 
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Well said, Ugly.

rillolion, she obviously sees a great deal in you that attracts her far beneath the surface. She's probably hoping that you see far more in her as well. I hope you do, for her sake and yours.

I think guys would be very surprised to learn how many attractive women don't date because the guys they want to date won't ask for this very reason.
 

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Well said, Ugly.

rillolion, she obviously sees a great deal in you that attracts her far beneath the surface. She's probably hoping that you see far more in her as well. I hope you do, for her sake and yours.

I think guys would be very surprised to learn how many attractive women don't date because the guys they want to date won't ask for this very reason.
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Yes! I once heard that supermodels have a hard time getting a date, because guys don't think they are good enough.
 
Exterior beauty will last for about 6 weeks. In my experience, there are two problems with beautiful women... One is they know they are all that and they know it, and if you are out of your league so to speak, there is always the I'm entitled attitude, and they will be either a cheater or domineering and controlling. So the 6 weeks goes by fast :) Then there is the other type, as mentioned that are socially awkward, etc. They are decent but they can come with that recessed psychological baggage and when and if you build them up and nurture them and they become normal, then that should be where they should stay but often, they go on into the entitled, dominant verbally abusive, etc. There are the ones who may have been in a bad relationship and are good decent and beautiful, in which case you hit the jackpot. A good woman is more precious than jewels, the Bible says :) She is 43, so there's a relationship history there. It will usually tell the tale of what and who you are dealing with. Ask about her ex. Her explanation will tell you everything. Sob story, for example... Run like Hell man!!! Well, ... you'll see :)
 
Lust comes from an evil heart. If it is lust that makes you want her then run like the pizza's burning. Im not saying anything bad about physical beauty but examine yourself and see if thats whats driving you. If you enjoy talking about Christ and that what keeps you urging to want to talk to her then by all means dont be shy. The worst could be no then you can just talk about the Lord on a friend level.
 
Physical beauty is temporary. Evaluate her inner beauty, because it's the only thing that will last.
 
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