Confused

[Brokennlost]

So everyone knows I been having problems with my grandsons, they are both graduating this week different days. Izaak I’ve thought was getting better with his behavior but told me today that he doesn’t want his siblings or parents at his graduation because he needs the tickets for his gf (which has only been since I think last month) and her family to use the tickets. That makes me sad and makes me feel like I don’t even wanna go now. This graduation accomplishment should be a happy times to celebrate not stressful and sad. The enemy knows he can’t get to me personally because I know Jesus is stronger and by my side, so he gets to me through my grandkids. My other grandson Damien (which is his twin) is not like that, he’s happy and ready for his family to see him graduate. Izaak use to not be the way he is acting, he was going to church faithfully, following Gods ways, then he met this girl and certain friends and changed so much. Stopped going to church, stop reading his Bible, started vaping , and smoking other things, stealing, cursing, (his friends and gf do those things so it was a matter of time that he would too). He’s just been acting out of character of how he use to be. I’ve asked Jesus to help him and in pray constantly. I thought some things had changed but I was wrong and just gets worse. I should be happy right now for both of my grandsons but instead I’m in tears because of one’s behavior. Do I just ignore and go to the graduation alone knowing the rest of our family wasn’t wanted at the ceremony became he wanted he wants his gf family there instead? It just doesn’t feel right

 

[shittim]

There is much more I am sure, the evil knows how to tempt the young and weak.
They are still at the age they haven no business or right to make decisions in defiance of the elders of his home.
The brain isn't fully developed until near 30, that child is making demands he has no wisdom to make.
blessings

 

[kqr_anointed]

So everyone knows I been having problems with my grandsons, they are both graduating this week different days. Izaak I’ve thought was getting better with his behavior but told me today that he doesn’t want his siblings or parents at his graduation because he needs the tickets for his gf (which has only been since I think last month) and her family to use the tickets. That makes me sad and makes me feel like I don’t even wanna go now. This graduation accomplishment should be a happy times to celebrate not stressful and sad. The enemy knows he can’t get to me personally because I know Jesus is stronger and by my side, so he gets to me through my grandkids. My other grandson Damien (which is his twin) is not like that, he’s happy and ready for his family to see him graduate. Izaak use to not be the way he is acting, he was going to church faithfully, following Gods ways, then he met this girl and certain friends and changed so much. Stopped going to church, stop reading his Bible, started vaping , and smoking other things, stealing, cursing, (his friends and gf do those things so it was a matter of time that he would too). He’s just been acting out of character of how he use to be. I’ve asked Jesus to help him and in pray constantly. I thought some things had changed but I was wrong and just gets worse. I should be happy right now for both of my grandsons but instead I’m in tears because of one’s behavior. Do I just ignore and go to the graduation alone knowing the rest of our family wasn’t wanted at the ceremony became he wanted he wants his gf family there instead? It just doesn’t feel right

God bless you

 

[Lynx]

I'm in southwest TN so this is unfamiliar to me. Tickets?

How many tickets did he get? How much are additional tickets? Could he BUY more tickets for the family he is leaving out?

I've seen my family members shut out their family twice. My brother has ignored his whole family for more than a decade. When my sister died, all of dad's side of the family made the trip over to northeast TN for the memorial service, but my sister's daughter wouldn't even sit and talk with them. So it happens.

People have to choose for themselves what is important in their lives. Sometimes people choose the wrong things.

 

[Subhumanoidal]

So everyone knows I been having problems with my grandsons, they are both graduating this week different days. Izaak I’ve thought was getting better with his behavior but told me today that he doesn’t want his siblings or parents at his graduation because he needs the tickets for his gf (which has only been since I think last month) and her family to use the tickets. That makes me sad and makes me feel like I don’t even wanna go now. This graduation accomplishment should be a happy times to celebrate not stressful and sad. The enemy knows he can’t get to me personally because I know Jesus is stronger and by my side, so he gets to me through my grandkids. My other grandson Damien (which is his twin) is not like that, he’s happy and ready for his family to see him graduate. Izaak use to not be the way he is acting, he was going to church faithfully, following Gods ways, then he met this girl and certain friends and changed so much. Stopped going to church, stop reading his Bible, started vaping , and smoking other things, stealing, cursing, (his friends and gf do those things so it was a matter of time that he would too). He’s just been acting out of character of how he use to be. I’ve asked Jesus to help him and in pray constantly. I thought some things had changed but I was wrong and just gets worse. I should be happy right now for both of my grandsons but instead I’m in tears because of one’s behavior. Do I just ignore and go to the graduation alone knowing the rest of our family wasn’t wanted at the ceremony became he wanted he wants his gf family there instead? It just doesn’t feel right

Paying to watch a graduation?? That's nuts.

I'd say the smart thing to do is go. You are the last connection to the family, it seems. You would want to keep that, at least. Without you there would be no connection at all, to the family, it sounds like.

 

[ExtraOrdinary]

So everyone knows I been having problems with my grandsons, they are both graduating this week different days. Izaak I’ve thought was getting better with his behavior but told me today that he doesn’t want his siblings or parents at his graduation because he needs the tickets for his gf (which has only been since I think last month) and her family to use the tickets. That makes me sad and makes me feel like I don’t even wanna go now. This graduation accomplishment should be a happy times to celebrate not stressful and sad. The enemy knows he can’t get to me personally because I know Jesus is stronger and by my side, so he gets to me through my grandkids. My other grandson Damien (which is his twin) is not like that, he’s happy and ready for his family to see him graduate. Izaak use to not be the way he is acting, he was going to church faithfully, following Gods ways, then he met this girl and certain friends and changed so much. Stopped going to church, stop reading his Bible, started vaping , and smoking other things, stealing, cursing, (his friends and gf do those things so it was a matter of time that he would too). He’s just been acting out of character of how he use to be. I’ve asked Jesus to help him and in pray constantly. I thought some things had changed but I was wrong and just gets worse. I should be happy right now for both of my grandsons but instead I’m in tears because of one’s behavior. Do I just ignore and go to the graduation alone knowing the rest of our family wasn’t wanted at the ceremony became he wanted he wants his gf family there instead? It just doesn’t feel right

Your Grandson's graduation should be a family affair. It is to celebrate his achievements and the family who supported him through out his life to help him achieve those achievements. It has nothing to do with his girlfriends family and they should not be going. His girlfriend could be there if you have enough tickets. He could have a party afterwards and invite his girl friends family, bar- be- que or something. At this age they are rebelling against the ones who brought them up and who love him. Often someone else's family seem so much cooler than your own or his girl friend may be behaving dominant in their relationship, which also is not right. Maybe try to find out why it is and what is going on with him. Listen as well as talk. Lots of prayer to cover the conversation and try to teach him exactly what the graduation means to him and his family and how its not for any willy nilly person to attend.
Grandparents are usually better at getting through than the parents. Hope you can get through.