Contentment in singlehood

[Lovette]

If you don't know the proper context for discussing sexual things at this point then I don't think I can teach you over the internet. Sorry. But just to give you a few hints:

Asking a random woman how she would feel about a "roll in the sheets" is inappropriate.

Bringing up having sex with Jesus is VERY inappropriate.

"Weaponizing the subject and using it to ridicule" is VERY inappropriate.

You are not 12vyears old; I shouldn't have to tell you any of that. But here we are .

You feel inappropriate, just go away. I'm free to talk about a topic for adults exactly because I ain't 12 yr old. You're against free speech.

And btw, "having sex with Jesus" is not from me, it's a slogan from some worship singers and influencers. It's only as inappropriate as equating the heavenly, spiritual marriage of Jesus and his church with the earthly, physical marriage of man and woman. The spiritual marriage produces spiritual birth, the physical marriage produces natural birth.

 

[Lovette]

if a single man and a single woman develop friendship going out together, study Bible together, I don't see anything wrong with that. This can be called dating, if both agree.

If not agree, can be called casual friendship.

Then do at their own discretion, in the present distress. Paul advised against it, but that's just his personal opinion, right?

 

[Lovette]

A married woman would be "slut-shamed" for admitting the simple fact that sex with her husband can be pleasurable? Tell me, do you know of such an incident ever happing in real life?

It'd be shamed by @Snackersmom, since it's highly "inappropriate", she's incensed by it, lol.

 

[Churchgoer]

Then do at their own discretion, in the present distress. Paul advised against it, but that's just his personal opinion, right?

Paul advised for most young people to get married. Old people, maybe not.

 

[Snackersmom]

Well... He CLAIMS he's not 12 years old.

But he sure don't talk like he's around my age...

I do believe the Lynx was right......

 

[RodColeman]

yes, that's why sex is a taboo topic.

People "slut-shame" wives for having sex with their husbands? Yeah. Sure. I've never heard of such a thing, but that's just me. What do I know? And this is why sex is a taboo topic? Huh?

doing what?

Anything "unrelated" to "Jesus." Are those things all bad?

What if that's their own private matter? What if we stay out of their bedroom?

You didn't answer my question. OK. Whatever.

 

[Lovette]

Paul advised for most young people to get married. Old people, maybe not.

No he didn't. Was Timothy, as beloved to Paul as a son, married?

 

[Lovette]

Well... He CLAIMS he's not 12 years old.

But he sure don't talk like he's around my age...

12 yo would talk like chatgpt or other language model, you make your own judgement call.

 

[Churchgoer]

No he didn't. Was Timothy, as beloved to Paul as a son, married?

Timothy is only one man. Single is a gift from God, most people God recommend to get marry.

 

[Lovette]

People "slut-shame" wives for having sex with their husbands? Yeah. Sure. I've never heard of such a thing, but that's just me. What do I know? And this is why sex is a taboo topic? Huh?

Yeah, of course you're not, why would they share such intimate matters with you?

Anything "unrelated" to "Jesus." Are those things all bad?

what counts as "related" and what doesnt?

You didn't answer my question. OK. Whatever.

Your question is hypothetical and inappropriate. What other couples' sex life is their own private matter.

 

[Lovette]

Timothy is only one man. Single is a gift from God, most people God recommend to get marry.

"Most people" are not Christians, "most people" don't know Jesus, "most people" worship idols, icluding marriage.

 

[RodColeman]

Yeah, of course you're not, why would they share such intimate matters with you?

But they share it with you? Is that how you found out that people "slut-shame" married women for having sex with their husbands?

What counts as "related" and what doesn't?

I was asking you what you meant. Never mind.

Your question is hypothetical and inappropriate. What other couples' sex life is their own private matter.

Then how do you know it's exploitative and something that no woman can honestly enjoy? Or is this just speculation on your part?

 

[Lovette]

But they share it with you? Is that how you found out that people "slut-shame" married women for having sex with their husbands?

Yes, if some celebrities or influences share it publicly.

I was asking you what you meant. Never mind.

No, you said anything "related" to Jesus, your term, your definition.

Then how do you know it's exploitative and something that no woman can honestly enjoy? Or is this just speculation on your part?

It's not my speculation that this "amazing and heavenly marital sex" is just a myth from the purity culture. God made no promised or blessing for any bliss in marital sex. Exploitative or not depends on the nature of such a marriage. If you get married only to fulfill your "perfectly normal" desire for marriage and sex, then it'd hardly be a surprise that such marriage leads to exploitative sex.

 

[Lynx]

You feel inappropriate, just go away. I'm free to talk about a topic for adults exactly because I ain't 12 yr old. You're against free speech.

Free speech is a double-edged sword. You are free to say what you want. Other people are free to say you are wrong or even that you are an idiot. You are also free to say that you are right and they are the ones who are idiots.

You are against anybody disagreeing with you. And then you go out of your way to disagree with people.

And I am running out of popcorn again.

 

[RodColeman]

Yes, if some celebrities or influences share it publicly.

Married sex is bad for women and exploitative, because some celebrities and influencers say so. Therefore, based on what these celebrities and influencers say, every Christian/person should stay single.

Yeah, sure. OK.

No, you said anything "related" to Jesus, your term, your definition.

Once again, you didn't understand my question. Never mind.

It's not my speculation that this "amazing and heavenly marital sex" is just a myth from the purity culture.

Sure, boss. Whatever you say.

God made no promised or blessing for any bliss in marital sex.

Uh, OK?

Exploitative or not depends on the nature of such a marriage.

Oh. So it does depend on the type of marriage. It's not inherently exploitative by nature. OK, then. I agree!

If you get married only to fulfill your "perfectly normal" desire for marriage and sex, then it'd hardly be a surprise that such marriage leads to exploitative sex.

I'll note your use of the word "if" there. In that case, I agree!

 

[Lovette]

Married sex is bad for women and exploitative, because some celebrities and influencers say so. Therefore, based on what these celebrities and influencers say, every Christian/person should stay single.

Gen. 3:16 doesn't sound like a blessing or enjoyment to me.

Oh. So it does depend on the type of marriage. It's not inherently exploitative by nature. OK, then. I agree!

It's only as exploitative as the couple themselves. Marry a man who only desires marriage for sex, don't be surprised for any exploitation.

I'll note your use of the word "if" there. In that case, I agree!

I agree it was you who repeatedly lectured on me that it's "OK" to desire marriage and sex. I just followed your reasoning.

 

[Lovette]

Free speech is a double-edged sword. You are free to say what you want. Other people are free to say you are wrong or even that you are an idiot. You are also free to say that you are right and they are the ones who are idiots.

You are against anybody disagreeing with you. And then you go out of your way to disagree with people.

And I am running out of popcorn again.

All that I'm against is the idolatry of marriage, as though marriage is the salvation of your soul. I kept bring on sex because by God's design, that's an inevitable component in marriage, a marriage is not finalized until it's consummated in bed, as "two become one flesh." If marriage can be totally platonic, man and wife having no physical intimacy, never laying their hot sweaty fat palms on one another, then we can forget about sex and compare such marriage with the union of church and Christ; but as long "two become one flesh', sex has to be dealt with, it's a package deal. We either have a mature discussion on both marriage and sex or on neither.

 

[RodColeman]

Gen. 3:16 doesn't sound like a blessing or enjoyment to me.

And yet, this hasn't stopped millions of women throughout history from desiring marriage, getting married, and having children. What is going on? Have these women all been brainwashed into desiring the horrors of marriage, childbirth, and family?

It's only as exploitative as the couple themselves.

Hey, I agree! That sounds more reasonable.

Marry a man who only desires marriage for sex, don't be surprised for any exploitation.

I agree with that, too. That's why it's important to carefully evaluate a potential partner. Although, of course, one could also choose your preferred course of not bothering with marriage altogether. If they so choose. Not that there's anything wrong with that.

I agree it was you who repeatedly lectured on me that it's "OK" to desire marriage and sex. I just followed your reasoning.

That reasoning checks out to me.

 

[Lovette]

And yet, this hasn't stopped millions of women throughout history from desiring marriage, getting married, and having children. What is going on? Have these women all been brainwashed into desiring the horrors of marriage, childbirth, and family?

No, they were arranged or sold into it.

I agree with that, too. That's why it's important to carefully evaluate a potential partner. Although, of course, one could also choose your preferred course of not bothering with marriage altogether. If they so choose. Not that there's anything wrong with that.

I choose nothing, I surrender to God's sovereignty.

That reasoning checks out to me.

OK, check out, take your receipt and have a safe journey. For the record it is you who repeatedly lectured on me that it's OK to desire marriage and sex.

 

[RodColeman]

No, they were arranged or sold into it.

Oh, right. Even today, apparently?

I choose nothing, I surrender to God's sovereignty.

Why not let all the other Christians accept God's sovereignty then, instead of warning them away from the horrors or dating and marriage?

OK, check out, take your receipt and have a safe journey. For the record it is you who repeatedly lectured on me that it's OK to desire marriage and sex.

Because it is. LOL.