Devils at the door

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Standingwolf13

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My wife and I have been together for almost 30 yrs now, it has definately had it shares of up ands downs.
Whenever my longing and my faith for GOD gets stronger she and I fight it seems like SATAN is literally attacking my spirit with his words.
Anyway I am not blaming her because I haven't maintained my relationship with GOD the way I should have. I know the bible says not to be unequally yoked and I try to ask her to come into HIS glory but she refuses me. Now I have hurt her and probally destroyed the root of our love but she remains with me. Am I wrong to say to her, if you want to be in this we must fight with a different spirit then what we have chosen in the past. I have asked her to forgive me, she wants details details why does it matter about the details is it not enough knowing that I made the mistake.

Anyway I feel that each time she speaks to me now SATAN is literally attacking the spirit of GOD in me, and I'm finding myself becoming aggressive as a dog would protecting his yard. I know GOD will make it work, just don't want to walk away like times past because of the seed that I watered and grew that is now coming out my ears. I want so desparately to kill the root but I don't see how details would bring closure
 
Man, the dynamics going on here are pretty bad. Lets do a quick recap of what (at least how i see it) you've said about your marriage.

-you're married to a non-Christian
-you excuse her behavior towards you during arguments as Satan
-you haven't been the example you should have
-you did something to hurt her (sounds like cheated on her)
-yet can't understand why she won't convert
-she feels a need for details, but because you can't understand her thinking you withhold things from her, likely only fueling the problem

Sounds to me like you excuse her behavior, blaming it on Satan, because you feel guilty for your own actions. While i'm not dismissing the idea of Satan attacking us, really all he needs to do most of the time is plant the seed in our minds. Humans are capable of doing the rest.

Some of this is a male/female lack of understanding. Women are detail oriented by nature. Men are not. A good place for you to start is learning how women think. Realizing that what they find important is not always something you can understand as a man. Doesn't make their need to know or have details bad, just a lack of 'getting it' on your part.
I suggest a marriage counselor. Go in by yourself first, ask questions. Try to gain understanding of how your wife may be thinking and feeling, rather than dismissing it because you don't think or feel the same way.

There seems to be a fair bit of miscommunication, lack of understanding, guilt and other negative feelings being brushed over with a spiritual brush rather than people being held accountable, being understanding, taking ownership, listening, talking, etc.. Definitely sounds like you need a 3rd party to intervene and help you guys learn to listen, understand and communicate.
 
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