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Those who were fans of the show Friends might remember that Monica had a dirty little secret in her perfect world: a secret extremely messy closet. :)

So..here’s the question: Even if you are a neat freak, do you have a secret your friends/family would be surprised to learn? Some secret rebellion against tidiness?

I’ll confess first: When I get home from work in the evening I’m too tired to put my shoes back where they go, so I kick them into a pile on the floor of the closet unless and until someone is coming over. I also hate to make my bed and REFUSE to do it unless someone is coming over..but if it’s someone who has no business in my bedroom, I just shut the door. :p

My husband used to hide his jeans for weeks at a time so I wouldn’t wash them. :)
 
I used to be a neat freak. Its amazing what a few years of depression can do to one's priorities. I still desire to be a neat freak, I just don't have the energy I used to have.
 
What's hysterical is the number of people who are opening this thread but not posting. It's probably not quite as sensational as they thought it might be. ;)
 
Jullianna said:
So..here’s the question: Even if you are a neat freak, do you have a secret your friends/family would be surprised to learn? Some secret rebellion against tidiness?
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Rebellion against tidiness? Tidiness went extinct years ago at my house.
 
Jullianna said:
What's hysterical is the number of people who are opening this thread but not posting. It's probably not quite as sensational as they thought it might be. ;)
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When I was a neat freak it wasn't just about neatness. It was a whole lifestyle. I strove to stay in shape, I used expensive bath products and facial cleansers, I was even into exfoliating. I also would take forever to pick out clothes because they had to be 'perfect' and I would pride myself on eating healthy and not drinking sodas or alcohol. Most of that has changed, but at least now I have God.

So what does that have to do with your comment? Probably nothing. :/
 
I don't ever really bother making my bed and I won't do laundry till Im wearing my last clean shirt and mismatched socks.
 
I have to confess that I don't like doing laundry either....I wait until I don't have any decent shirts or blouses and tbh I don't like washing my jeans very often either unless I spill something on them or they start looking dirty or wrinkled:) I don't have a problem with making my bed but I'd rather not to on lazy days; everytime I get home I take my jacket off and throw it on the chair next to my bed, sometimes they accumulate there until I decide to hang them all in my closet, I have a mess of school papers on my desk.........and I should stop confessing things and I hope my future husband doesn't read this :)
 
Oh and what's weird is that the only place where I'm like this is in my room , not in my kitchen or bathroom, and if I'm in somebody else's house I'm super extra clean haha
 
The minute I started college I stopped untying my sneakers, and I take them off by pulling off the heel with my other foot and flipping them off. Even my husband does it lol. We do have a "shoe corner" where we keep our footwear but I bet if I looked at all the sneakers none of them would have the laces untied. My mother would be ashamed hahahaha
 
I don't know if everyone else had this neatness experience - when I was a kid and teen I was a neat freak. So freakish my friends ooh and ahhed over my bedroom like it was an interesting museum exhibition from the Dinosaur period. I was neat because my parents had a rule (which sounds harsh but is total genius if you look at it from a parental point of view) called "The floor is not a magnet." If my brother and I treated it like a magnet, things would disappear from our bedroom floor never to be seen again eg toys, lego, barbies, clothes, you name it. It would all go into a bag and be put in the local charity bin, so to say we were paranoid about keeping our rooms clean was an understatement. We also had morning inspections when my stepfather would walk around the house wearing rubber gloves and if he found something that didn't belong somewhere it would be binned as well. By the time I was a teen, I deserved an Olympic medal for orderliness and cleanliness. Even my homework clutter was organised. By the time I was 13, I graduated to keeping the house to the standard of homes you see in magazines, which included sorting and taking out all rubbish, sweeping all floors (every day), vacuuming the whole house (once a week), dusting the living room, cleaning the fireplace before and after every use, doing all household laundry, brushing animal hair off furniture, mowing the lawn and weeding the vege garden and other odd jobs that my step dad would pull out of his backside to make me do. And I did it all because if I didn't do it I would just have to stand in front of him taking insults for an hour, and housework became like a tool to disassociate from insults.

By the time I started college and living with room mates, I discovered that most 20 year olds don't even know how to properly do their laundry. I met a 30 year old who didn't even know how to put a blanket inside a quilt cover, c'mon! Quite often my male room mates offered to pay me to clean their rooms and do their chores, but Im no maid. Id do it randomly if I was in a decent giving kind of mood but I wouldn't allow a grown male try and act like a child with no household responsibilities. One thing I did learn though was how to RELAX. Thats when I started the not untying shoes thing. Thats when I allowed wrinkles to appear on my bedspread and dare I mention it, the odd random piece of clutter on my floor.

When I got married my husband and I moved into a dinky little one bedroom earthquake damaged apartment (we call them flats over here). Our bed is rarely made, theres always stuff on the floor, my husband hides electronic debris under the dining table. But the weird thing is, look in my little kitchen and it is PERFECT.
 
Ok Melody (I hope I got your name right?), your story actually scares me. I think I would have run away if my parents expected me to be that neat :eek:
 
there's a saying in Japan each person is born with 3 hearts

1st one is what you show to the whole world
2ed one to show to close friends
3rd one you show to no one at all

BADDOG
 
Something tells me that that 3rd one would be the one we most need to surrender to the Lord, yet struggle to do so.
 
Jullianna said:
What's hysterical is the number of people who are opening this thread but not posting. It's probably not quite as sensational as they thought it might be. ;)
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I am guilty - LOL. I actually hate doing laundry so I shut the door to my bedroom if company is coming so they don't see the loads I need to do or the pile in my closet, lol
 
Dirty little secrets? Ummmm...nope mine aint secret..I happily toss my clothes in the closet, never make my bed. Of course...im also a married father of four curtain climbing energy driven knuckleheads. So cleanliness sure isnt on the priority list.
 
WhispersRoar said:
Dirty little secrets? Ummmm...nope mine aint secret..I happily toss my clothes in the closet, never make my bed. Of course...im also a married father of four curtain climbing energy driven knuckleheads. So cleanliness sure isnt on the priority list.
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Excellent for you and your kids :)
 
CC_Bride said:
I don't know if everyone else had this neatness experience - when I was a kid and teen I was a neat freak. So freakish my friends ooh and ahhed over my bedroom like it was an interesting museum exhibition from the Dinosaur period. I was neat because my parents had a rule (which sounds harsh but is total genius if you look at it from a parental point of view) called "The floor is not a magnet." If my brother and I treated it like a magnet, things would disappear from our bedroom floor never to be seen again eg toys, lego, barbies, clothes, you name it. It would all go into a bag and be put in the local charity bin, so to say we were paranoid about keeping our rooms clean was an understatement. We also had morning inspections when my stepfather would walk around the house wearing rubber gloves and if he found something that didn't belong somewhere it would be binned as well. By the time I was a teen, I deserved an Olympic medal for orderliness and cleanliness. Even my homework clutter was organised. By the time I was 13, I graduated to keeping the house to the standard of homes you see in magazines, which included sorting and taking out all rubbish, sweeping all floors (every day), vacuuming the whole house (once a week), dusting the living room, cleaning the fireplace before and after every use, doing all household laundry, brushing animal hair off furniture, mowing the lawn and weeding the vege garden and other odd jobs that my step dad would pull out of his backside to make me do. And I did it all because if I didn't do it I would just have to stand in front of him taking insults for an hour, and housework became like a tool to disassociate from insults.

By the time I started college and living with room mates, I discovered that most 20 year olds don't even know how to properly do their laundry. I met a 30 year old who didn't even know how to put a blanket inside a quilt cover, c'mon! Quite often my male room mates offered to pay me to clean their rooms and do their chores, but Im no maid. Id do it randomly if I was in a decent giving kind of mood but I wouldn't allow a grown male try and act like a child with no household responsibilities. One thing I did learn though was how to RELAX. Thats when I started the not untying shoes thing. Thats when I allowed wrinkles to appear on my bedspread and dare I mention it, the odd random piece of clutter on my floor.

When I got married my husband and I moved into a dinky little one bedroom earthquake damaged apartment (we call them flats over here). Our bed is rarely made, theres always stuff on the floor, my husband hides electronic debris under the dining table. But the weird thing is, look in my little kitchen and it is PERFECT.
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My mom was a HORRIBLE housekeeper, to the point that when I was very young I wouldn't ask anyone to come to my house because I was so embarrassed. When I was old enough, I began doing all of the housework myself, except for the laundry. She would actually do that. :) My stepdad was military and a very tidy man. It must have driven him nuts too, but he was a sweetie.

My neatfreakness stems from that. I never wanted my family to be ashamed to bring anyone home with them at any time.
 
My problem is organization. When I do micro organization, I'm fine, like a drawer. But the problem is, my mind doesn't want to think micro but macro. In other words, I think I have to organize the whole room at once, instead of doing it at a section at a time, thus causing me to become completely overwhelmed. When things are organized, I'm fine. But the minute everything is disorganized (such as the state of my bedroom, it will get remodeled by the end of this year. Been saying that since last year.) then I'm like energy drained.
 
i dont make my bed and if im too tired i have a sink full of dirty dishes :D
 
zeroturbulence said:
Ok Melody (I hope I got your name right?), your story actually scares me. I think I would have run away if my parents expected me to be that neat :eek:
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Lol yes my name is Melody.

In my honest opinion, I agree with the principle, but not the method. My step father reinforced multiple rules very harshly (honest to God we had a WRITTEN list on the fridge of all the rules, besides the cleaning rules), and they weren't typical rules for young people but very rigid legalistic ones, and if they weren't upheld you'd be guaranteed a walloping on your back side with a nasty sting for a few days. I hated it because it reinforced the dictator Hitler like manipulative behaviour from my stepfather.

However, had he been a loving, guiding, gentle step father that I so badly wanted, I would have had no problem maintaining extraordinarily high standards for cleanliness and house skills that seem a bit extreme for most children and teens. It meant that when I entered college at 18, I had the practical ability to run a household completely independent of any guidance since I had already learnt those skills at a young age whereas most people today don't learn those skills til their 30 or God forbid 30-40.
 
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