Divorce and remariage...

[kevineurope]

My wife wants to divorce...she doesn't love me any more..there is an entire history.

The questions are: According to the Bible, in the future, after divorce, is it OK if I get married with another women? I was not agree with the divorce, there were nothing I could to about that.

She will be forgiven for divorcing me, if she will stay single for the rest of her or my life? Is she ever be in a good relation with God, after the divorce?

Please give answers according to the Bible, not what what we thing is good... I really want to know God's will, not what I want.

Thank you.

 

[xXxNightXStalkerX4XGodxXx]

according to the bible divorce is wrong. God wants you to be happy yes but not forsake the vows that you two made before him and others the day of your marriage. You promised to take each other to be wedded. "In sickness and in health, in trials or triumphs, as long as you both shall live." That is a contracts and should be treated as one. Marriages can work out. And if you love someone just think about this. "Love is patient and kind, It does not envy it does not boast. It isn't proud nor rude nor self-seeking. It's not easily angered and keeps no record of wrongs. It does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and ALWAYS PERSEVERES.

 

[lovecan]

I agree with NightXStalker. However, I think there are some exceptions such as abuse that need to be taken into account. My mom was abused by my dad for many years. It didn't start until after they got married, and he refused to get help for it. My mom is now divorced and with a new partner and we are all much happier. However, please don't take this as me contradicting the bible. I just think there are some exceptions that I'm sure God would forgive you for if it were the case. For the most part though, I agree divorce is a serious matter that needs to be taken seriously. My advice would be for the two of you to consider counselling before jumping to any rash decisions. Also, keep up your faith in God, and ask Him to help you make the right choice. I will pray for you!

 

[xXxNightXStalkerX4XGodxXx]

I agree love. The only other thing I can think of that would break the contract is unfaithfulness

 

[tryingtofindhim]

God is a God of grace and if she wills she'll have a good relationship with God. If a relationship with God was determined on whether we sinner or not we'd be screwed!

 

[Kathleen]

My wife wants to divorce...she doesn't love me any more..there is an entire history.
The questions are: According to the Bible, in the future, after divorce, is it OK if I get married with another women? I was not agree with the divorce, there were nothing I could to about that.
She will be forgiven for divorcing me, if she will stay single for the rest of her or my life? Is she ever be in a good relation with God, after the divorce?
Please give answers according to the Bible, not what what we thing is good... I really want to know God's will, not what I want.
Thank you.

i am sorry to hear about your situation, i will be praying for you.
in answer to your question:
according to the bible, divorce is only justified by death, or adultery. So from what I can see, if you divorce because of adultery, and it was your wife who was the adulterer, you are entiteled to remarry.
She still may have a good relationship with God, if she askes for forgivenss, and is truley remoshfull.
that is backed up by scripture....if you want them ask
atm i am a bit busy, but i will try and find them, if you want

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[kevineurope]

i am sorry to hear about your situation, i will be praying for you.
in answer to your question:
according to the bible, divorce is only justified by death, or adultery. So from what I can see, if you divorce because of adultery, and it was your wife who was the adulterer, you are entiteled to remarry.
She still may have a good relationship with God, if she askes for forgivenss, and is truley remoshfull.
that is backed up by scripture....if you want them ask
atm i am a bit busy, but i will try and find them, if you want

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Please show me in the Bible were it Say's that she will be saved if she divorce without the reason of adultery from my side. My opinion is that she will be forever separated from God if she divorces, because is never cheated on her(I has very bad with her in the pas, in anger, but now God changed me and I will never hurt her againg..it's an entire history).
Bottom line is...please argue with the Scripture that she will be saved if she will divorce of me and will remarry with another.. I see in the Bible that if she will divorce me and remarry another, she is committing adultery...she will live in adultery for the rest of her life, it's so clear, i don't know why she doesn't see that...God cannot go from His word...it's crystal!

And please don't be deceived by "God is love" God loves me" attitude.. God will judge us at the end of time, not with His love, but with His true/word...
I speak so easily, because I have been into all stages..sorrow/angry/mercy/love hurt/pain...and now I'm at the point were I see my self that there is nothing more to do... I accept everything from God... If He will do a miracle and turn my wife's hearth again to me, I will be very glad...but if He will let her go over with divorce, I will continue my life with Christ and have a new beginning and I will be careful and not do the same mistakes I did with her...

Thank you for all... I expect you answers from the Bible...I have an open mind, I really want to know the true, so please show me...

 

[Kathleen]

Please show me in the Bible were it Say's that she will be saved if she divorce without the reason of adultery from my side. My opinion is that she will be forever separated from God if she divorces, because is never cheated on her(I has very bad with her in the pas, in anger, but now God changed me and I will never hurt her againg..it's an entire history).
Bottom line is...please argue with the Scripture that she will be saved if she will divorce of me and will remarry with another.. I see in the Bible that if she will divorce me and remarry another, she is committing adultery...she will live in adultery for the rest of her life, it's so clear, i don't know why she doesn't see that...God cannot go from His word...it's crystal!
And please don't be deceived by "God is love" God loves me" attitude.. God will judge us at the end of time, not with His love, but with His true/word...
I speak so easily, because I have been into all stages..sorrow/angry/mercy/love hurt/pain...and now I'm at the point were I see my self that there is nothing more to do... I accept everything from God... If He will do a miracle and turn my wife's hearth again to me, I will be very glad...but if He will let her go over with divorce, I will continue my life with Christ and have a new beginning and I will be careful and not do the same mistakes I did with her...

Thank you for all... I expect you answers from the Bible...I have an open mind, I really want to know the true, so please show me...

i am sorry to hear about your situation, i will be praying for you.
in answer to your question:
according to the bible, divorce is only justified by death, or adultery. So from what I can see, if you divorce because of adultery, and it was your wife who was the adulterer, you are entiteled to remarry.
She still may have a good relationship with God, if she askes for forgivenss, and is truley remoshfull.
that is backed up by scripture....if you want them ask
atm i am a bit busy, but i will try and find them, if you want

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firslty, please read over what i said to you at first.
i said is your wife commits adultery, you are entiteled to remary.
i never once said she could remary, because, as you said , she would be living her life full of adulery.
she will, however, never be seperated from God, God loves every child of his.
She needs to repent though, and then she will begin, again, to have a fullfilling, fruitfull, loving relationship with our Father.

hope that clears it up - i think you just misread or misinterpreted what i actually wrote

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[1still_waters]

1 Corinthians 7:15But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

Mark 10 5"It was because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote you this law," Jesus replied. 6"But at the beginning of creation God 'made them male and female.'[a] 7'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,[b] 8and the two will become one flesh.'[c] So they are no longer two, but one. 9Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."10When they were in the house again, the disciples asked Jesus about this. 11He answered, "Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. 12And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery."

Luke 16: 18"Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

Matthew 5: 31"It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.'[f] 32But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.

The only two 'out' clauses in the Bible seem to be 1. If an unbelieving spouse leaves you, then you're not bound. 2. The spouse commits adultery, then you're not bound. And of course if the spouse dies then you're not bound either.

 

[lila_advin07]

Thank you so much for discussing this topic. I can very well relate to kevin's mixed emotions because I'm in the same boat. It's really comforting that God's word is there to guide us in how we should see this situation and how we should respond to it. I will keep on reading your posts. I hope to get a lot of comforting words and biblical truth on a serious yet realistic subject like this.

 

[timjim]

God is a God of grace and if she wills she'll have a good relationship with God. If a relationship with God was determined on whether we sinner or not we'd be screwed!

We know that whosoever is born of God sinneth not: but he that is begotten of God keepeth himself, and that wicked one toucheth him not 1 John 5:18

 

[kevineurope]

Try to read my entire story... i have put other Headline/topic... it's on the second page... or try to search for my topics from my profile...
You can write me if you are going to some similar situation...

 

[ShariJo]

1 Corinthians 7:15But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

Mark 10 5"It was because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote you this law," Jesus replied. 6"But at the beginning of creation God 'made them male and female.'[a] 7'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,[b] 8and the two will become one flesh.'[c] So they are no longer two, but one. 9Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."10When they were in the house again, the disciples asked Jesus about this. 11He answered, "Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. 12And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery."

Luke 16: 18"Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

Matthew 5: 31"It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.'[f] 32But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.

The only two 'out' clauses in the Bible seem to be 1. If an unbelieving spouse leaves you, then you're not bound. 2. The spouse commits adultery, then you're not bound. And of course if the spouse dies then you're not bound either.

I have always wondered about this. I think that under these circumstances, they are not bound in marriage anymore but, does the Bible give them permission to remarry??

 

[diago]

I agree love. The only other thing I can think of that would break the contract is unfaithfulness

yes unfaithfulness is the only one of my rules that MUST not be broken!

 

[Slepsog4]

1 Tim. 4:1ff states that forbidding marriage is a departure from the faith and a demonic doctrine.

1 Cor. 7:28 (?) says that if a divorced man marries he does not sin.

 

[cookie39]

I don't need to give the same scriptures that someone gave you already; they are perfectly clear. but because I know what you are saying and thinking and it is wrong. I too wanted God to never forgive my ex for what he was doing to me. and I wanted to find any scripture that would confirm that. But there is none. He will forgive her as you wanted and got forgiveness for doing her wrong. She will have it too. God does not say that he will not forgive us if we marry again. Jesus neever said that he was not going to allow Moses law for divorce to still stand for this day in time, because men hearts are still harden toward their wives, and wives are toward their husbands. Jesus said that it was not like that in the beginning, but did not say that it is not going to be that way now. in I Corinthians 7....Paul was talking to the saved and if she is saved and she need to leave then the bible do say that she must remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband.... think about it; it say she is to remain UNMARRIED,, meaning she can divorce you. how can someone be UN married and still be married to another? can't happen. now if she marry another she has commited adultry but not for the rest of her life, because once she have another man. it will finalize your divorce and now she is free and so are you. for it is grounds for divorce as Jesus said. so although you are tring to use the Word of God to make her stay it will not work because it does not tell us that God will not have us because we don't want someone else... exspecialy if that person didn't do what they promised to do.

I don't know if you have heard this before; but when a woman is fed up, there aint nothing you can do about it.... it's too late and when her heart is gone from someone who did her wrong their is no turning back.

So I can only tell you the truth, God will not hate her, nor will he reject her, he will like he has done all of us, pour out his loving and merciful grace on her. and open his arms and give her his Holy Spirit..... because the bible never said that God choose us by what he had to forgive us for. he just forgive us and cleanses us and washes us from all unrighteousness. that is his Grace. so I am sorry to tell you that divorcing is not grounds for condemnation. so it is you who is condemning her... not God.
you say you don't want to hear about God's love and how he love us and FORGIVE us. what if he would of let you died in your sins, when your were hurting your wife... you are angry and it is because you have lost control and can not get it ( I was the same way, I wanted to see my ex in hell) and I wanted nothing more but to find where what I was feeling could be justified -- in the Bible cause if God said it too I don't have stop thinking or feeling the way I was.
But you know what God did for me... He judged me.. I got into something that only God could get me out of.. and he asked me why should he forgive me. when I didn't want him to forgive my ex? I repented that I felt that way and I ask God to forgive me and my ex. Let her Go, and stop tring to us God to keep her where she don't want to be.. and to love you.. God don't work that way nor should you.

I will pray for you and her,,, May the peace of God rest in your hearts, and his suficient Grace keep you and the wisdom of God with all godly understanding and knowledge guide you both noe and forever. In the Holy name of Christ Jesus.

 

[oopsies]

My wife wants to divorce...she doesn't love me any more..there is an entire history.

The questions are: According to the Bible, in the future, after divorce, is it OK if I get married with another women? I was not agree with the divorce, there were nothing I could to about that.

She will be forgiven for divorcing me, if she will stay single for the rest of her or my life? Is she ever be in a good relation with God, after the divorce?

Please give answers according to the Bible, not what what we thing is good... I really want to know God's will, not what I want.

Thank you.

I'm not married, never have been so I'm not the greatest authority on the matter. Honestly though, have the two of you tried to put God in the centre of your existing marriage? I mean, if both of you can't do that for at least a week, then even if she divorces, it might not turn out the way she hopes. After all, from what I hear, the best and long-lasting marriages are ones that are fully centred on God and letting God be the glue that holds it all together.

Maybe try that? Ask her if she would be willing to try one week that's not about the either of you (not about love or lack of it, not about the problems you faced, not about the times you had, just not about either of you) but only about God. If that turns out ok, maybe try one more week and see how that goes? I assume she would be willing to give it a try?