do a church lider have the right to order me what to do?

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Hello brothers , recently i had a problem at church and i got very angry for this reason. i have been hanging out with several female and male friends that i got., and my lider does not like that i hang out with them and they are christian, and every sunday we go to preach about jesus in the streets. but my lider says this is not from God, and that i must preach but in his branche and i have had a very good female friend and i like hanging out with her to have fun, and my lider talked to my friend's lider and asked her to tell her to quit my friendship and turn apart from me, so i got very but very angry, and went and talk to him because i think he doesnt have the right to do what he did, i can choose my friends and i can choose who to hang out with. he did this and he didnt even told me that he was going to talk to my friend's lider. and in the gospelizing group he talked to the group's lider and asked her not to invite me anymore to help them gospelize , and he didnt tell me that he was going to do this . i feel very but very upset with this.

brothers i think is not right what my lider did , i have the right to choose my friends, i have the right to help gospelize , and i dont gospelize for a branch i preach like 1 body for christ..


please i need advices ..help me...
 
Well, i don't know, perhaps your friends hold some doctrines that are not right, that your leader knows about. But even so he has no right to go behind your back, or tell you not to have these friends. Also, is this 'leader' your pastor? Even if he knows something about your friends the right way is to meet you with you and give you the information and allow you to make a decision yourself.
Really the only time church leadership can 'tell you what to do', so to speak, is if you are actively in sin and choosing to ignore their help and warnings.
If its not the pastor and is just an appointed leader in the church, i would take the issue to a pastor that this leader is behaving this way. If its the pastor you may need to consider finding a new church as there is something wrong with that pastors understanding of his role.
 
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Well, i don't know, perhaps your friends hold some doctrines that are not right, that your leader knows about. But even so he has no right to go behind your back, or tell you not to have these friends. Also, is this 'leader' your pastor? Even if he knows something about your friends the right way is to meet you with you and give you the information and allow you to make a decision yourself.
Really the only time church leadership can 'tell you what to do', so to speak, is if you are actively in sin and choosing to ignore their help and warnings.
If its not the pastor and is just an appointed leader in the church, i would take the issue to a pastor that this leader is behaving this way. If its the pastor you may need to consider finding a new church as there is something wrong with that pastors understanding of his role.
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we are from the same church , and we have the same doctrines..and it is a good doctrine..and i am not in sin, i respect a lot my friends,i see that sometimes my lider tries to keep me in the sentimental Area......but anyways i felt very unconfortable with this..
 
Actually it's spelled: t r a n s l a t e . g o o g l e

Mate, that's a tough one. And you're not a child so his behavior does sound well out of bounds... although, you're culture isn't mine so I'm only speaking from my own window; yet by your response, it seems accurate.
I would communicate with him first, if you have no success, introduce another from your church to help mediate, this would be my advice.
Don't allow your immediate emotions to let you make a decision you may regret in the long run.
God bless - Daniel
 
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