Do you find it hard to be "just friends" with people of the opposite sex?

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I clicked the link in the recent posts box when I answered that. I didn't realize this is for singles. I'm married. That's breaking the rules here I guess. Sorry about that.
 
tourist said:
Seeing how you are both single and live relatively close by to each other why not ask her out? Let's see, she's single, never been married, attractive, intelligent, well-read, amusing and a bit sarcastic. I believe that you two would hit it off and believe you to be compatible. She is definitely an opportunity of a lifetime for a guy that's interested and willing to take a chance.
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Now I know why I am still single. I am oblivious to all the cues. I could have sworn her actions meant she hated my guts, not that she was in love with me...
 
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LaVieEnRose said:
Thank you for your kind words, but I am not interested in him at all. The man I marry will be a man who reads books. I am a great reader and I could never fall in love with a man who is not a reader. This is a nonegotiable with me. I must have a reader so we can talk about books.
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You didn't know I read books a lot? What a shame. And you naturally assumed I don't read. That is a greater shame, and one of the reasons I will sedulously avoid starting any relationship with you.

It is a fact that I read a lot. In fact my mother taught me to read when I was about three and a half years old... I think it was in self defense, so I would stop bugging her to read books to me.

Why did you assume I do not read? If you just said you didn't know whether I read books or not, that would be quite natural, but you automatically assumed I do not read books. Why?
 
PurpleCandles said:
Unmarried Christians aren't suppose to have lovers.
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I meant lover as in a person who loves one, not as in someone with whom one is intimate.

I read a lot of old books, so my vocabulary tends to reflect older definitions of words and not contemporary definitions. I am a throwback.
 
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Lynx said:
You didn't know I read books a lot? What a shame. And you naturally assumed I don't read. That is a greater shame, and one of the reasons I will sedulously avoid starting any relationship with you.

It is a fact that I read a lot. In fact my mother taught me to read when I was about three and a half years old... I think it was in self defense, so I would stop bugging her to read books to me.

Why did you assume I do not read? If you just said you didn't know whether I read books or not, that would be quite natural, but you automatically assumed I do not read books. Why?
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I assume you read comics. Comics are not books. Bookish people tend to be very cultured and interesting, Magenta, Desdichado, Tinuviel, are all cultured and interesting posters.

I think you should start talking to Mel and strike up a friendship with her.
 
Lynx said:
Now I know why I am still single. I am oblivious to all the cues. I could have sworn her actions meant she hated my guts, not that she was in love with me...
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I don’t hate your guts, but I do dislike you intensely.
 
Tommy379 said:
I don't think he's married, but he should be. Stranger seems like a nice guy.
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With your experience, do you REALLY think Stranger is a “nice guy”? He is talking to a married woman online whom he has fallen in love with- do you REALLY think that is the behavior of a “nice guy”?

I think it is absolutely reprehensible behavior and not Christian behavior at all.
 
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LaVieEnRose said:
With your experience, do you REALLY think Stranger is a “nice guy”? He is talking to a married woman online whom he has fallen in love with- do you REALLY think that is the behavior of a “nice guy”?

I think it is absolutely reprehensible behavior and not Christian behavior at all.
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Is he? I didn't know that. Is he the one that started this thread?
No, I don't like men who talk to married women. They break up marriages.
 
LaVieEnRose said:
Yes, he is the OP.
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I just looked. The only person who said he was talking to a married person is you. He said she is not single, I reckon that could mean anything. Unless a male and female are married, they're really just acquaintances.
I could have missed where he said she is married, but yours and Lynx flirting is distracting.
 
I asked the OP if he meant the woman is in a relationship or married. I don’t remember him answering my question.
 
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Tommy379 said:
I just looked. The only person who said he was talking to a married person is you. He said she is not single, I reckon that could mean anything. Unless a male and female are married, they're really just acquaintances.
I could have missed where he said she is married, but yours and Lynx flirting is distracting.
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It may be a case of my old fashioned vocabulary. In my vocabulary “not single” only means married. Unless you are married, a person is single- regardless of relationship status.

Dating people are single, engaged people are single, widows, widowers, divorcees, old maids, are all single.

The only people who are not single, are therefore, married.

I think I need to find a forum where only people from the Victorian era post. I can not communicate with people in this era. Our vocabularies are too different.

I am not flirting with Lynx. He is a self righteous bully. I don’t like him in the least.
 
LaVieEnRose said:
It may be a case of my old fashioned vocabulary. In my vocabulary “not single” only means married. Unless you are married, a person is single- regardless of relationship status.

Dating people are single, engaged people are single, widows, widowers, divorcees, old maids, are all single.

The only people who are not single, are therefore, married.

I think I need to find a forum where only people from the Victorian era post. I can not communicate with people in this era. Our vocabularies are too different.

I am not flirting with Lynx. He is a self righteous bully. I don’t like him in the least.
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No, I agree about the definition of single, but I know in this world of shacking up, the dictionary is falling apart.

I think you and Lynx make a cute couple. Good luck to the both of y'all.
 
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Tommy379 said:
No, I agree about the definition of single, but I know in this world of shacking up, the dictionary is falling apart.

I think you and Lynx make a cute couple. Good luck to the both of y'all.
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No thanks, very much. I am a contentious woman and he is a bully. Two bullies is a recipe for domestic violence.

I suggested he chat up Mel, I hope that doesn’t step on your toes. We could have a smack down for the affections of Mel- the Cat v. the Cop.
 
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