Do you guys ever worry that you're gonna be alone forever like me?
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jax
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yeah I actually do worry about that...
I'm disabled and a divorced mom so it's hard to find a guy who can look past all that..
I'm disabled and a divorced mom so it's hard to find a guy who can look past all that..
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greatkraw
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Rinny
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Crazy cuz i actually was thinking about this today...
Its hard to not give into our worrying intentions as humans, but we have to trust God that He is paving the path of life that is perfect for just our lives. I know i get discouraged a lot in this topic as i see a lot of my friends and peers in relationships, getting engaged, and married... but i have to rely on God in knowing that either the right guy is out there for me or that God will provide my life without a man in my life. I like the first of the two, haha, but i know that God has the best thing for me.
Its hard to not give into our worrying intentions as humans, but we have to trust God that He is paving the path of life that is perfect for just our lives. I know i get discouraged a lot in this topic as i see a lot of my friends and peers in relationships, getting engaged, and married... but i have to rely on God in knowing that either the right guy is out there for me or that God will provide my life without a man in my life. I like the first of the two, haha, but i know that God has the best thing for me.
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Kadangel
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I just want to say being single is not the same as being alone.
Yes God did say "it is not good for man to be alone", but he didn't say "it is not good for man to be single".
You have friends, family, coworkers to share the love while being single.
If you think alone=single then you need some time to truly develop into a happy single (am developing myself). Single just means being without a partner.
If you go into a relationship thinking that will cure your feelings of aloneness it will not work. In the long run (due to the lack of self development and then trying to be independent and develop yourself) you'll end up feeling even more alone while with someone, and that actually is a really horrible feeling to have while in a relationship with someone.
I lot of people think about being in a relationship, but as long as God is your focus everything will fall into place.
Picture yourself viewing the cross, and in front of the cross there is a conveyor belt. On this belt there is education, work, family, husband/wife, promotion etc... As long as you focus on the cross, everything will go along in God's time into place. One after the other, it will all come into place, but remember God say to "seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and ALL THESE THINGS SHALL BE ADDED UNTO YOU".
Keep strong in God, and instead of thinking of this as "waiting" time, think of it as "self-development in God" time. Hope this helps a little.
Now, I'm just getting fustrated that things never changes with me and girls... I hope things will get better once I get back to school..
i did at first, and it really did bother me...
then i realized something: I dont need to worry about it. God has got my back
He who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the Day of Jesus Christ.
If God has given you a desire for a companion, know that He will complete it. He loves you, and for now, just rest and bask in that love... rejoice in that love that He has for you, and focus on that love... focus on simply living for Him and Him alone, and this thought will pass, and will be replaced with the joy of the LORD, for the joy of the LORD is our strength
then i realized something: I dont need to worry about it. God has got my back
He who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the Day of Jesus Christ.
If God has given you a desire for a companion, know that He will complete it. He loves you, and for now, just rest and bask in that love... rejoice in that love that He has for you, and focus on that love... focus on simply living for Him and Him alone, and this thought will pass, and will be replaced with the joy of the LORD, for the joy of the LORD is our strength
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NewStrength
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Sometimes we have to ask ourselves, "Why do I want a partner?" If your answer was friendship, someone to understand you, someone to count on, someone to love you unconditionally, or maybe someone to spend time with, You may have all of these things. I always tell my friends that I am very Blessed to have them in my life, because good friendships are hard to come by.
Besides, any type of relationship takes a lot of work, so it is best to continue waiting until the right person comes along. Remember, be careful for what you ask for.
Also, I agree with JOY. Dating is not life. Instead of focusing on this specific "want", maybe you should try to strive towards other goals and how God wants to use you for his Glory. You have your whole life ahead of you. Explore God's purpose for your life, and before you know it, she will come. Remember, God should always be number one!!
~NewStrength~
Besides, any type of relationship takes a lot of work, so it is best to continue waiting until the right person comes along. Remember, be careful for what you ask for.
Also, I agree with JOY. Dating is not life. Instead of focusing on this specific "want", maybe you should try to strive towards other goals and how God wants to use you for his Glory. You have your whole life ahead of you. Explore God's purpose for your life, and before you know it, she will come. Remember, God should always be number one!!
~NewStrength~
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SeekinHIM
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Precious Brother,
I just want to encourage you...............first of all you are only 21 years old, your whole life is ahead of you! This is just the enemy trying to discourage you and wreck your day.... day by day................Satan doesn't have our future, and he knows this..............he can only mess with our daily life, AND ONLY IF WE LET HIM. (THIS IS BASED ON OUR PAST WHICH IS UNDER THE BLOOD OF CHRIST, IF WE PUT IT THERE)
Surrender to the LORD...............make a choice you are going to get to KNOW HIM...............as The Apostle Paul stated in Scripture..........That I may KNOW HIM and the Power of HIS Ressurection.............As many others have already said on this thread, study the Word daily.
There are some very powerful Scriptural passages that you should study, because they will lead you to such freedom that you will not even worry again about this issue. First: In the book of Isaiah chapter 26 verse 4 (It would be best to read the whole chapter) But it says.........I WILL KEEP YOU IN PERFECT PEACE WHOSE MIND IS STAYED ON ME..............WOW! This really works but it takes practice, practice, practice...............There are numerous Scriptural references throughout the Bible that teach us to do this.............For example I'll list just a few here. You can search out them and then search for more. (That's fun in itself because the LORD will lead you to some that minister JUST TO YOU AT THAT MOMENT)
Come boldly before the Throne of GOD, to recieve Mercy and Grace TO HELP YOU IN YOUR TIME OF NEED......Hebrews 4:16
.......Be TRANSFORMED by the renewing of your mind..........Romans 12:2
I AM ADOPTED BY GOD HIMSELF................WOW..............Ephesians 1:5 REMEMBER AS YOU SPEAK THESE OUTLOUD YOU ARE SETTING YOUR MIND ON GOD, AND CHRIST HIMSELF, FOR THIS IS HIS WORD, AND THEREFORE HIM.
I will never forget you, SEE, I HAVE CARVED YOU ON THE PALMS OF MY HANDS...................Isaiah 49:6
Set your mind on things above, NOT ON THINGS THAT ARE ON THE EARTH................Colossians 3:2
Brother, there are literally hundreds of Scriptures like these and they are there to assist you in setting your mind on GOD ............This is for YOUR peace.............GOD loves you so much, HE wants you to learn this, that is why we are here on Earth. To learn to receive love from HIM, and then learn how to love others around us (and all of this in a "not so nice environment" ). Be encouraged brother, if you do this, I assure you, you will enjoy a great peace from GOD......................IT'S YOUR BIRTHRIGHT AS HIS CHILD............DON'T LET THE ENEMY ROB YOU ANY MORE!!!
I am praying for you...............
SeekinHIM
I just want to encourage you...............first of all you are only 21 years old, your whole life is ahead of you! This is just the enemy trying to discourage you and wreck your day.... day by day................Satan doesn't have our future, and he knows this..............he can only mess with our daily life, AND ONLY IF WE LET HIM. (THIS IS BASED ON OUR PAST WHICH IS UNDER THE BLOOD OF CHRIST, IF WE PUT IT THERE)
Surrender to the LORD...............make a choice you are going to get to KNOW HIM...............as The Apostle Paul stated in Scripture..........That I may KNOW HIM and the Power of HIS Ressurection.............As many others have already said on this thread, study the Word daily.
There are some very powerful Scriptural passages that you should study, because they will lead you to such freedom that you will not even worry again about this issue. First: In the book of Isaiah chapter 26 verse 4 (It would be best to read the whole chapter) But it says.........I WILL KEEP YOU IN PERFECT PEACE WHOSE MIND IS STAYED ON ME..............WOW! This really works but it takes practice, practice, practice...............There are numerous Scriptural references throughout the Bible that teach us to do this.............For example I'll list just a few here. You can search out them and then search for more. (That's fun in itself because the LORD will lead you to some that minister JUST TO YOU AT THAT MOMENT)
Come boldly before the Throne of GOD, to recieve Mercy and Grace TO HELP YOU IN YOUR TIME OF NEED......Hebrews 4:16
.......Be TRANSFORMED by the renewing of your mind..........Romans 12:2
I AM ADOPTED BY GOD HIMSELF................WOW..............Ephesians 1:5 REMEMBER AS YOU SPEAK THESE OUTLOUD YOU ARE SETTING YOUR MIND ON GOD, AND CHRIST HIMSELF, FOR THIS IS HIS WORD, AND THEREFORE HIM.
I will never forget you, SEE, I HAVE CARVED YOU ON THE PALMS OF MY HANDS...................Isaiah 49:6
Set your mind on things above, NOT ON THINGS THAT ARE ON THE EARTH................Colossians 3:2
Brother, there are literally hundreds of Scriptures like these and they are there to assist you in setting your mind on GOD ............This is for YOUR peace.............GOD loves you so much, HE wants you to learn this, that is why we are here on Earth. To learn to receive love from HIM, and then learn how to love others around us (and all of this in a "not so nice environment" ). Be encouraged brother, if you do this, I assure you, you will enjoy a great peace from GOD......................IT'S YOUR BIRTHRIGHT AS HIS CHILD............DON'T LET THE ENEMY ROB YOU ANY MORE!!!
I am praying for you...............
SeekinHIM
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iliveforHim
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Dothackzero,
you're not alone. You have Christ, and you have us...what else could you possibly need???
look for Christ first, dothackzero... seek Him first in everything that you do, and Christ will fulfill your desires in His time
and His timing is always perfect.
and His timing is always perfect.
So will waiting on his time make it so I'll get a girlfriend? But what if he's time is like when I'm 40+ years old... I can't wait that long, I've already had a hard enough time waiting 6 years for a girl...
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CIR
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\God will not allow things to happen that will hurt us. If getting into a relationship will hurt you
spiritually, God will wait till you are strong enough. But you will never be happy with someone
you choose. Ask God to direct you and He will. Remember, God isn't just an All Powerful God.
He is also your loving Heavenly Father that wants the best for you."///
VERY WISE THING TO WRITE
I waited several months to get a job....last Fall I lost the motivation from fear and was even chided by a friend that I would never get a job...(it was four years long story) second I had anxiety promblems but I wanted it to be done God's way...so I prayed for his strength every week for about six months. I really was so afraid I honestly believed I would sit around my house all the time, I didn't trust in him nor his perfect will! The key to my success now, is to trust in the Lord with all your heart, and to seek his perfect and acceptable will, that is a COMMAND from GOD!
finally two weeks ago, after praying with a Pastor, God told me, "Go" and I went in HIS strength and got a job.
Praise the Lord!
Search for the perfect and acceptable will of God
spiritually, God will wait till you are strong enough. But you will never be happy with someone
you choose. Ask God to direct you and He will. Remember, God isn't just an All Powerful God.
He is also your loving Heavenly Father that wants the best for you."///
VERY WISE THING TO WRITE
I waited several months to get a job....last Fall I lost the motivation from fear and was even chided by a friend that I would never get a job...(it was four years long story) second I had anxiety promblems but I wanted it to be done God's way...so I prayed for his strength every week for about six months. I really was so afraid I honestly believed I would sit around my house all the time, I didn't trust in him nor his perfect will! The key to my success now, is to trust in the Lord with all your heart, and to seek his perfect and acceptable will, that is a COMMAND from GOD!
finally two weeks ago, after praying with a Pastor, God told me, "Go" and I went in HIS strength and got a job.
Praise the Lord!
Search for the perfect and acceptable will of God
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S_Frost
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I think you may be worrying a little too much, but hey- it happens. I personally have never had a boyfriend or kissed someone and I'm 20. I know that eventually I'll find someone though so I don't worry much. Hope it all goes well.
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ultrajet
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nobadee
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You're 21, that's a long ways from forever. When you are 50 and you find yourself alone; then, maybe you should feel concerned. Till then, you should worry about fulfilling those goals you have in your life and leave the rest in the hands of God.
Forget what everyone else around you is doing with their lives. Settling down isn't a race and from what I've observed; the faster you do it, the quicker it will end. Relax man and enjoy life.
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artistic_dreams
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ur only 21 yrs old....you have a whole life time before you to enjoy...god will send you someone to love and spend the rest of your life with..just be patient and have faith in him......blessings