Do you mix only with those whom you like?

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Twinkle77

Twinkle77

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Do you mix only with those whom you like?
6 years ago, I met a couple whom I disliked.
I was new in the church and after the service, people were fellowshipping and I was talking to a brother in Christ. Then a lady came forward and introduced herself and her husband. I felt an air of arrogance from both and I did not like it. He said hello and nothing more and remained aloof. She chatted a bit more. The moment another sister came to join us, I took that opportunity to excuse myself and leave.

Why did I leave
- I felt uncomfortable & I did not like them
- They were arrogant & aloof
- They were not my type
Well!! How judgemental I was! How I myself was arrogant! Yuk
I was acting based on my feelings, my likes, my wants & my needs. What a wretched I was! But thanks be to God who opened my eyes.

Anyway, that very night, while in prayer, God convicted my heart about my attitude towards that couple. God impressed upon my heart that I should not look at them through my eyes or through my feelings but I am to look at them through Christ.

The following week, I made a decision that if I saw them again in church, I would approach them. Well, God made sure that they did come to church.
After the service, I went up to them and said Hello Tim, Hello Trini, how are you today? Trini started talking but Tim was very reserved. This time, I did not run away. I stayed with them and others came to join us.
The following week I did the same thing and little by little Tim started to talk.
We soon became friends and we started visiting each other now and again. We became a blessing to each other. Tim and Trini went through a bad patch with some brothers and sisters in Christ and we (my husband & I) were there to support them and comfort them. They too became a blessing to us by helping us with Spanish and German which we were learning as he was a professor of spanish, german, english and russian.
If I had ignored the conviction in my heart, I would have stopped them being blessed by God through us and stopped ourselves being blessed by God through them.

Through this, I am learning not to look at people through my eyes but through God's eyes. It's not what I want but its what God wants!

Question:
Do you run away from others that you don’t feel comfortable with or dislike?
Have you had similar experiences like that? Or are you in a situation like that now and God is speaking to you?
 
Awesome! Thanks for sharing that :) I usually try and reserve any judgements when meeting people and look at their heart as God does with us. I'm pretty quiet in person as it is, but I try to be friendly with everyone. I do get those uncomfortable feelings like you had with that couple though, and there have been a couple of times where I didn't stick around. But you never know what a person is going through and there are so many different types of personalities in the world, so it's good to stick around and be patient with people. I'll keep your testimony in mind next time I'm in a similar situation now :)
 
I had this happen after i had met someone from a westminster presbyterian church(i attend a wesleyan church) i will admit, being invited to a hardcore calvinist church really made me uncomfortable..i got along well with him in person but once he found out weeks later that i was not a calvinist..it became a really uncomfortable conversation where i was made to feel almost as a non christian to this guy..needless to say ill never darken the door of that westminster church again..and i had to stop talking to that guy because it went from disagreements,to me being called uninformed and stupid..so, yea..sadly..not all of us will get along..
 
amazing. ^^ im experiencing that in the church i am attending now. praise God .^^
 
Thanks GodssSon, owned-by-God & rauleetoe for reading my testimony.
And yes, I agree sometimes we can't get along with people when we are not like-minded with them in Christ.
As for me, it was a heart issue that needed correction.
May God bless you all richly!!
 
That's a wonderful story, thanks for sharing it :)

It is hard to 'understand' people who are different than ourselves. Some people are just more reserved which might come across as arrogant. This is another lesson in not judging :)
 
LOL! If I only talked to those whom agree with me or I "like", I would be mighty lonely.
Of course being on the downside from a church war also sort of limits your friend pool! Mine is at four in person at this time.
Of course, it is always good to find out that you have four real friends - rather than the dozens of fakes I apparently did have before.
But, generally, I try to get along with folks .....
 
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