Family Matters

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I have a close family matter that has been going on for about 4 years with deeper issues that have gone on longer than that. My family has some jealousy issues because i am very close to my mom and dad. I live in the same city as they do and my other siblings don't. We are VERY close. I take them to lunch during the week, doctors visits, and are generally with them several times a week. My parents are very fair and there are no favoritisms. My siblings are concerned without merit that they will be "short changed" in the will. But everything is equal. My parents are getting upset because theses siblings are wanting to be in charge instead of the lawyer who is over everything. It has gotten so bad that they are ignoring me, lieing and gossiping about my family and i have forgiven them and tried very hard to remain christ-like to them and pray for them daily.

In front of my parents they are relatively cordial and actually hypocritically friendly. I do not say anything about this to my parents. But now they are getting worse and i feel like i don't have to lay down like a door mat for them to continue. i feel like i have heard from the Lord that i can say i am done. I love and forgive them but i don't have to allow my good to be evil spoken of and i don't have to pretend anymore. I am realeased to let them know that i don't intend to fake it anymore, whatever that means, i am not sure just yet. I just don't want to pretend anymore. i want to tell them that i don't want them to pretend anymore.
 
I would like prayer covering and any spiritual advice, coaching in this area.
 
I am not sure if it is so, but it appears they are not True Christians themselves or not Christians at all. They are ravaged by greed and jealousy, they seeking for no ones happiness except for what they want in life, they only care for themselves. It is a sad situation you are in, but know you are not alone in this as in many families does this also occur. In my family it is happening the other way around to your situation, meaning the person close to my grandmother is the uncle in the sheep's clothing who only does things for and with her in order to gain. My dad doesn't get involved at all and just leaves it to the rest of the family to quarrel over the matter. However in your case since your the close one to your parents you right in the middle of things and you cannot just sit on the side lines.

The only advice i can give you is the most obvious and helpless, but anyway. The best you can do is to just forgive them and love them always and ignore them. If there is nothing you wish or need to gain from your parents then let the rest of the family get their way and be in charge of the will.

Another thing you can try is to infiltrate this stupidity. You can try speak to the closet other family member you know and assure them that everything is not as it appears and let them know how hurt you are over this matter. Should you just now ignore your parents and let them be lonely because of the families greed. Let him/her know that you have no intention in gaining more from your parents.

In the end what belongs to your parents belongs to your parents and they can do as they please with what they possess. If they decide to give you everything that is their choice and no one else's. If your family wants to hate you, so be it. It all depends if you can live with this hate from them.
 
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