1. If the hubby is spending the household money on drugs, giving money or going with the wife to "make certain it's going to the bills" is still enabling .......albeit through the back door. This still leaves him his required money for his habit, correct ?This remark makes abslutely no sense, if she goes with her sister and makes sure the bill is paid, how is it that the husband gets the money?
2. It is the user himself (husband in this case) who must be willing to go to rehab. I would venture to guess that the wife would already be more than willing to have him go .... unless, of course, she herself is also a partaker. Under this second scenario, all the more reason to refuse any further monetary handouts. Guessing that the wife already wants the husband to go to rehab is an assumption, I've dealt with many wives who wanted their husbands off the drugs but didn't want them in rehab, 1) because they were scared and didn't really understand the whole process, 2) because he is the bread maker for the family, etc. There are many signs to figure out whether or not the wife is also using. Yes the main thing is the husband has to want to get clean, but the process has to start somewhere.
3. Yes .... God is able to heal and restore. And as is more than often the case, "hitting rock bottom" and becoming responsible is where they must go before God can raise them up again.That is not always the case. As long as most of the bills are being paid and a few groceries are in the cupboards, rock bottom remains a distant charade. This is not always true either, it is important to make sure the rest of the family doesn't have to suffer for his wrong, and then put him in the situation of having to get help.
4. Saving this man's life is indeed critical. But he too must want it.Agreed. There are other objectives to consider as well, not least of which would be his very own wife .... and I pray not in this case, a child or two as well. Suffice it to say that you and I are in disagreement on this matter. Nevertheless my friend, God bless you .....and God bless all concerned.