Fatherless Boys,Is it the Problem?

[Didymous]

My father left when I was four, and most of my male relatives and friends didn't have or know their fathers
This is all too common in native american communities.

 

[MessageOfTheCross]

We are living in a broken world. For now everything is upside down. Wrong is right and right is wrong. Evil is called good and good is called evil. We are fighting a spiritual battle what we can not see, but the effects of it you can see. We have entered a time when level one problems will not be able to be solve with level one thinking. We are in a time when the wisdom of this world (mans point of view) is promoted and the Cross of Christ is demoted - apostasy (Isaiah 30:1-33). But not for long!

 

[Didymous]

What's your point?

 

[Didymous]

Wow, grew up with no dad, was abandoned as a teen to the streets. I haven't thought about killing, raping or other crimes. In fact, all that happened to me was ordained by God, and I am thankful for all of it, it taught me how to survive, fight, get off the streets, work, get to college, and then Christ found me.

What's your point?

 

[Didymous]

Thank you for giving a more humble testimony.

 

[Didymous]

My father died 6 months before I was born. I was raised in the ghetto of Watts (L.A.) and my family was somewhat dysfunctional. We kind of raised ourselves in two homes. The we being my aunts, uncles, cousins and brothers. We cared for each other and stuck together throughout life. I also was adopted by my Hispanic best friend's family which helped a lot. I give the glory to God that I turned out okay. I sought Him from 12 to 14 years of age. He didn't call me then, but the Word of God changed my life and gave it direction.

Thank you for giving a more humble testimony.

 

[Didymous]

I was brought up in foster care, fostered by my aunt, there was no male role
model in my life.

I think the absence of a good mother and a good father impacts both on girls and
boys. They get a distorted view of a functional family life. I’ve read as well that children
born into single parent families are less likely to get married or have a balanced view of
love between a man and a woman.

Before my aunt became a Christian she emphasised a lot that men only wanted one thing for
example.

I think as well that families with both parents in place which are disfunctional, abusive,
violent will also cause just as many problems for children. They grow up bitter with violence.

Lets face it, everyone needs Jesus.

I agree that in the future there will be massive problems for children brought up with two
mothers or two fathers who are encouraged to be whatever gender they want. Talk
about an up and coming identity crises or what. I wonder if this particular change in
society signifies the last days and the oncoming rebellion as it spreads.

Mori, thank you for getting to the heart of the matter: To quote someone(I don't know who)"No Jesus, no hope; Know Jesus, know hope."

 

[Didymous]

Itis the men’s duty to reach out to these boys and be a Godley mentor to thembefore it is too late.

I agree 100℅ with your sentiment, but my questions for you is are these: what if you come from a culture and/or community where men commit horrible crimes so often that becomes normal? What if in such places men often leave their families behind? What if the other men in your family are drunks, drug addicts, criminals, or all of the above? What men will mentor them then?

 

[Didymous]

Thanks for sharing your testimonies,it certainly is encouraging to hear. My own father was raised in a fatherless home and had stepfathers that hated him. In his late teens someone invited him to church and he was saved. He married my mother when he was 19 and she's a very strong Christian.I believe she has been the glue that held the marriage together and helped him stay in church. His past has caused many issues in his life,insecurity being one. He constantly threatened to leave when we were growing up as children and that gave us insecurity. I don't think we yet understand how much broken homes affect children and on into adulthood.

I'm happy your father was able to go to church and be saved. Where I come from, unfortunately, most of the people inviting us to church are JWs and Mormons, and they are usually rejected.

 

[Didymous]

I blame Oprah and Mary Tyler Moore.

Don't forget Jane Fonda.

 

[Troubled65]

Wow, grew up with no dad, was abandoned as a teen to the streets. I haven't thought about killing, raping or other crimes. In fact, all that happened to me was ordained by God, and I am thankful for all of it, it taught me how to survive, fight, get off the streets, work, get to college, and then Christ found me.

Great testimony! God is good, all the time.

 

[Troubled65]

I don't disagree. However, the solution to that is not anything any current or near-future government is willing to tackle. The financial incentives for unwed mothers are too sacred. The simple (and most preventive) method of teaching and incentivizing abstinence is socially unacceptable. The promotion of marriage as the foundation for healthy society is simply unthinkable. Identifying "fatherlessness" as the cause of problems divorces the symptoms from the actual disease. Attempting to treat it in isolation will likely lead to more problems (and more social welfare programs on the public dole).

You said a mouth full. The problem is that we have taken God out of our schools and have prevented all children (Christian and non Christian) from understanding the consequences for their actions.

It is not a coincidence! The devil and his servants are hard workers and extremely dedicated to the overthrow of the Church of God.

 

[garee]

Our father in heaven is the father to the fatherless as one spirit . Jesus as the Son of God is as a husband to the widows, the chaste virgin bride of Christ the church


Jam 1:27 Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world.

 

[preacher4truth]

What's your point?

It was quite clear.

 

[Katy-follower]

I've been watching a show called "60 days in" where people volunteer to experience prison for 60 days undercover, and all have different reasons for participating. I remember one episode where the inmates were saying that they have no dads, and they pointed to themselves as being dads to each other. So sad.

One of the participants (although mormon) took out a christian bible and was teaching an inmate to read. Just wish a believer would go on that show!

 

[preacher4truth]

Great testimony! God is good, all the time.

Yes, he certainly is.

 

[Didymous]

Two of my cousins just got sentenced for murder a few months ago. No father, both of them methamphetamine and heroin addicts, both rapists.